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Posted by TE44 September 01, 07:18PM

[www.thepublicdiscourse.com]

An interesting read that brings up many things I believe should be open for discussion, siduhe refers to homophobia but there is a huge problem within the Lgbtq+ community especially around trans issues. Again I do not have a problem with peoples choices around identity but I believe there may be people within that group that may need to reach out for the help they need, as I believe that help should be there for all children including sexually abused, intersex and other problems which they feel isolated with. This does not mean I do not believe there peers cannot be part of that help nor that they would not benefit from understanding, in fact I think the opposite. Ithat is why I believe great care should be taken when individual agendas overshadow others.

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Posted by alice September 01, 10:27PM

Te44 Your ‘interesting read’ is a product of a right wing USA Organization which is against abortion and LBGQ marriage amongst other weird stuff.

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Posted by TE44 September 01, 11:37PM

Its interesting reading for me but then I don't particularly mind if I don't agree with different views, i can still relate with some. I know weird concept. yes, also believe right and left wing are being redefined in these recent climate Alice. Anything else.

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Posted by niledynodely September 08, 12:51PM

Thanks for arguing this corner so well.

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Posted by niledynodely September 11, 01:41PM

Just checking through these posts. That statement is an absolute nonosense. I think for example it would be great if they taught boys that if they get too involved with porn it can significantly affect their capacity to respond to a real human being. I would love young people to be warned about how sex bonds you to another person, or about anal sex being more risky than vaginal sex because the mucosal walls are that much thinner, or how they might feel after an abortion. There are loads of things which could be usefully discussed but I haven't seen them appear on the RSE material I have looked at.

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Posted by niledynodely September 11, 01:52PM

Gay Conversion Therapy can also include a person wanting to overcome their same sex attraction and asking to discuss this with their therapist. That too is banned within the title 'Gay Conversion Therapy'. The opposition to it is as much an abuse of human rights as the image we have of the therapy itself. Ooo that will put the cat among the pigeons.

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Posted by niledynodely September 11, 02:06PM

Actually I don't have a homophobic bone in my body. I just pointed out that homophobic bullying is not the most serious form of bullying and that lobbies bang on about it in order to get money. I think you can be completely accepting of gay people (which I am) but not agree with the ideology of 'smashing heteronormativity'. That is my position. How we feel about people and ideologies are two different things.

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Posted by TE44 September 12, 09:06AM

Hi niledynodely, I have just googled gay conversion therapy, I didn't realise that was offered as a treatment, I have neverknown anyone who has been or spoke about this. I do know people who have had a response by family , where they have suggested goiing to the doctor when they have told them they are gay. It was a long time ago and may still be the response by some. Where is this therapy offered? After googling I see Boris Johnson has mentioned it, speaking of banning it. I honestly did not know it existed.

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Posted by TE44 September 12, 09:59AM

Just spoke with my friend and she has told me about gay conversion therapy, I absolutely agree it should be banned. She has not heard of it in this country, she said its used more in America. I would imagine this is a private treatment.

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Posted by seenbeen September 12, 06:21PM

TE44 Wrote:
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> Just spoke with my friend and she has told me
> about gay conversion therapy, I absolutely agree
> it should be banned. She has not heard of it in
> this country, she said its used more in America. I
> would imagine this is a private treatment.

I remember reading a couple of years ago about a pastor trying to convert a gay man in the street in Norwood but I cannot find a reference, but I did find this
[premierchristian.news]

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Posted by TE44 September 12, 07:45PM

I was particulary appauled by the electrical aversion therapy. I've read this treatment was also used for alcoholics. I read a case from the 70s in Ireland where a gay man recieved this treatment although the article says this treatment was abandoned, I will try to find it. This young guy was looking for a cure. Its got me thinking about Electro convulsion therapy which is still used often without choice. I would hope nowadays that being gay is no longer associated with something wrong.

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Posted by TE44 September 12, 07:47PM

[www.bbc.co.uk]

Here is that story

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Posted by TE44 September 12, 08:04PM

I can't quite understand how this has become an issue with politicians considering this is no longer used and seemed to be done through choice. Unlike many people who recieve it in psychiatric care without choic. Hopefully this will be a subject the government will also get involved with.

[medicalxpress.com]

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Posted by TE44 September 21, 05:18PM

[www.newsletter.co.uk]

I find this very worrying, Barclay bank closed down this charity for talking therapy, which is being described as aversion therapy,provided for people who are not comfortable with there attraction to same sex. Banks do not have to give a reason to close accounts, when a decision has been made with a legal charity to close there account on grounds of behaving in a way they do not agree with, if that is the case, It opens up a whole lot of questions around these powers to close accounts.

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Posted by seenbeen September 21, 05:24PM

TE44 Wrote:
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> [www.newsletter.co.uk]
> an-charity-which-focuses-unwanted-gay-desires-gets
> -backing-66000-plus-signatories-2973884
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> I find this very worrying, Barclay bank closed
> down this charity for talking therapy, which is
> being described as aversion therapy,provided for
> people who are not comfortable with there
> attraction to same sex. Banks do not have to give
> a reason to close accounts, when a decision has
> been made with a legal charity to close there
> account on grounds of behaving in a way they do
> not agree with, if that is the case, It opens up a
> whole lot of questions around these powers to
> close accounts.
I find it very worrying that 66,000 have signed a petition supporting it.....
It says
'The charity’s registered statement of objectives says it exists “for the purpose of empowering individuals and churches to make, and to promote, lifestyle choices consistent with Christian living”.'
To promote no less....reminds me of the Section 28 debacle!

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Posted by TE44 September 22, 07:41AM

[www.core-issues.org]

Heres a link about this charity, I can undestand people signing this petition, I do not believe this therapy to be linked to gay conversion therapy.
Seembeen I cannot see the link between section 28. People choose to go to therapies for many things they struggle with, hthere behaviour, thinking etc. Many feel it is the wrong treatment and try some other kind. People have a choice. Often questions are
asked before a talking therapy session beginss. These questions are based on behaviour. A number is asked to describe how person is feeling. This maybe to see difference on individual by end of sessions but it is also based on the norm, it is the same standard questions. Of course there are many people who this will help and many people who do not feel this has helped.
In this climate where people need help regardless of the cause, we must remember this is not a forced treatment, and it is certainly not up to banks to decide what is appropriate.

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Posted by seenbeen September 22, 04:31PM

As far as I'm concerned section 28...where schools were not allowed to 'promote' homosexuality...is the same as saying 'promote' a Christian lifestyle...

".... a local authority "shall not intentionally promote homosexuality or publish material with the intention of promoting homosexuality" or "promote the teaching in any maintained school of the acceptability of homosexuality as a pretended family relationship"....

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Posted by Siduhe September 22, 04:55PM

I was really hoping that this thread would die a deserved death, notwithstanding niledynodely popping back in to stir it up again with her faux "I'm not against homosexuality but won't someone think of the children" shtick. But no, it seems it's back trotting out the same old tropes...

For anyone who wants to understand some of the terms being thrown around in this latest discussion, please see a joint statement issued some years ago by all the key organisations in the UK that deal with psychology and psychoanalysis. It explains that conversion therapy is the umbrella term for a type of talking therapy or activity which attempts to change sexual orientation or reduce attraction to others of the same sex. Exactly what the charity being discussed seems to do.

[www.psychotherapy.org.uk]

It goes on to say:

Quote:
Consensus statement
There is no good evidence this works and we believe it has the potential to cause harm. Often these approaches are based on religious interpretations about sexuality rather than on a researched and informed understanding of sexual orientation.

Licenced professionals in the UK consider this sort of treatment to be unethical and the leaflet goes on to explain why that is. That's why it only lives on, in the UK at least, by way of charities acting in largely unqualified capacities.

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Posted by TE44 September 22, 05:55PM

Nope I can't see anything on link, where there it mentions anything regarding people looking for help regarding problems they have with same sex attractions. Boris Johnson says he will look into any treatmeant that falls into gay conversion therapy. This charity deny that is what they are. Isn't this link about trans people. Siduhe, its a bit strange you post on a thread you wished had died.
We are very quickly moving into a world where those asking for acceptance,understanding and a voice are set on removing other peoples rights for the same things.

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Posted by Siduhe September 22, 06:22PM

Quote:
TE44
Nope I can't see anything on link, where there it mentions anything regarding people looking for help regarding problems they have with same sex attractions.

Really? You can't see the whole section in the consensus statement about the difference between going to see a licenced therapist in the UK who can help people struggling with their same-sex attraction, and going to an unlicenced group whose aim is to help those same people supress or eliminate that same-sex attraction? I'll give you a clue - it's in the section marked "Getting Help". I'll check the link but I wonder if we're even looking at the same document.

I would love not to be posting on this thread again - I did the last time because of the horrible insinuations being made that non-heterosexual people are some kind of greater threat to children and the safety of children than heterosexual people. That's out and out bigotry of the worst kind and I called it out for what it was.

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Posted by TE44 September 23, 07:32AM

Nope can"t see anything from licenced professionaks in the trans narrative link. I wouls assume the charity also have licenced progessionals.

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Posted by Siduhe September 23, 09:45AM

TE44, I don't understand how but I think we must be looking at different documents - I've linked to a 2016 statement by all the leading therapy groups in the UK condemning the sort of treatment being offered by the Core Issues Trust. There are two mentions of trans people in passing, but that isn't the focus of the statement.

And Mike Davidson who runs the therapy sessions at Core Issues Trust is neither a qualified doctor, nor a registered therapist.

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Posted by TE44 September 23, 10:30AM

[www.core-issues.org]

Siduhe, I am not looking at the same document on your link. Above is some information on Mike Davidson, I find it very interesting,at times both sides being put accross seem to have the same interest, as in allowing people , especially people who struggle, to queation find, be comfortable and accept there own sexuality. My concern is choice. And of course banks closing accounts because of pressure from groups who believe themselves to be oppressed. As is in the first link I put up, what about countries where it is illegal to have same sex relationships. I actually would like to think more open minded countries can have a conversation with these countries in the hope there can be change. And I realise this can run similtaniously? With behaviour in our own country. We are at a time when choice feels no longer open for debate. In this case I do not believe there is any force and I have heard nothing from victims of this help offered.

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Posted by KidKruger September 23, 12:18PM

What's with the preoccupation of some people/groups in the sexuality of other people ?!
Same sex, whatever. Surely any consensual relationship is a positive thing.

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Posted by snowy September 23, 02:35PM

Barclays closing their account is more likely to do with their concerns that the activity of the charity is not in line with charity law.

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Posted by TE44 September 23, 07:28PM

Snowy if they are outside of charity law surely action would have been taken to remove status. I don't believe this is the case.

Kk if people themselves have problems with there sexuality surely if there relationship with there chosen therapist is consensual its up to them.

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Posted by TE44 September 23, 09:09PM

Siduhe Thanks for that link, I haven't read it all but seems thorough and inclusive of everyone. I was confused as I couldnt find the info you related with the link.

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Posted by TE44 September 23, 09:14PM

How bizzare, i've just clicked on the link to copy so I can read later and its a different link now.

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