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I am a single mum of a 4 and 1/2 yo boy. I have always wanted to have more children and am now seriously thinking about fostering into adopting. I spoke both to the council and to a private agency. Both seem happy to consider me when my divorce arrangements have been finalised and if these comply with their requirements. The only concern may be the fact that I run a business, although there could be ways to juggle with a job.

I was wondering if anyone has had relevant experiences and could give me thoughts?

Many thanks

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Being a single parent with your own child, as you've already discovered, isn't a barrier to becoming a foster parent

or adoptive parent. I think your first step is to attend an open day run by Southwark or your local borough, to find out more. Check their website which will have links to the next sessions, where you will be able to meet parents who have been through the process, and who will give you an honest account of the rewards and challenges involved.

If you haven't already checked out Coram, they may be an appropriate organisation to approach. They run a concurrent planning scheme, which places very young children (under 2) who are likely to be placed for adoption, with foster parents who could become their permanent family in the future.

I'm sure you're aware, that most looked after children present with very complex needs, which often persist into adulthood, and it can be a very long road to recovery/emotional good health. So be sure that you have a very strong support network to enable you to manage the potential challenges ahead.

Good luck.

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Thank you so much, and thank to all those who contacted me privately. Really helpful.

Yes, I am aware of the difficulties but am really determined to start this as soon as possible.

Any further advice much appreciated

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