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Sb, those were my worries with child no 1 ... Who still won't eat any sort of sauce which means pizza is no good and pasta only plain (possibly with a bit of mozarella, basil leaves or fresh tomato... But in the end he was getting a balNced diet and i realised the more fuss I made the more resistant he got (research bears this out snd the effect is long lasting) Food is so Mixed up with patenting isn't it Healthy vs unhealthy What you offer being rejected How you operate 'as a family' What your parents think! How you compare yourself with others Hardly any of this is about nutrition so much as feeling we are being 'successful' at doing the right thing But like moving away from baby sleep patterns, and toilet training ... They do it at their own pace almost despite themselves Really Child no 1 has added foods to his repertoire over the years (cheese!!! Even if only halloumi and mozarella) thank the gods!

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Is the concern that they are not getting sufficient nutrition That they are 'rejecting' your offerings Or that events like a family Sunday lunch are disrupted by the fussiness? With no 1 child being reSlly really fussy I have had time to ponder my feelings about it and find ways to work with it ... I don't think of the twins as fussy Maybe they are but I stopped caring ...

What foods would everybody regard as a success if the child ate it? What foods do you eat yourself? What do do for social occasions/family mealtimes? Not seen it but Elizabeth pAntley has a nrs book out, on picky eaters

Ep's advice - http://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Health-and-Development/-/0-to-4-years/Elizabeth-Pantleys-Potty-Training-Tips-part-three-.aspx

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Want-My-Potty-Little-Princess/dp/086264965X/ref=sr_1_24?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1320481550&sr=1-24 Nice book though her accidents are all wees (you could colour the puddles Brown I guess!!!) Elizabeth pAntley also has a toilet training book I think

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/mentalhealthandgrowingup/soilingorwetting.aspx This agrees emotional Upset is prob the cause

Thing is, it's unlikely to be a situation where disapproval/punishment/remorse will Be a help However messy and frustrating it is ... Underneath she probably wants to be reassured you love her anyway ... I found when my son was doing it everybody else was dealing with him In a sort of 'cheerful through gritted teeth' sort of way while he says in a little sad voice 'I did it by n'accident' He was very aware it was disapproved of but he just hadn't got the skill yet I said to him, you're still learning how to Do it, you will get it soon Perhaps say to your daughter, quite openly and honestly ... We don't know why you are pooing in your pants and it's hard not to get a bit cross but you know we love you and we are going to do some teamwork to get those poos in the loo Maybe make up a little ditty to say together as a reminder 'I wanna do my poo- oo -oo In that big white loo-oo-oo ' Sort of thing My little princess has a book where she keeps weeing in the wrong place, iirc See if you can find one about poos? Or make up a character who poos in the wrong place? Do we poo in the fridge? No! Do we poo on the lampshade? No! Hsve you got any of the series 'how do dinosaurs eat their food' I use the chorus from that quite a lot with mine, getting sillier snd sillier ... They love thd idea of being 'in' on a set of complicated grown up rules

The other thing might be to keep your home routine very simple for a while if you think your partner bring away started it off ... No babysitters or sleepovers or anything unusual Perhaps have a couple of duvet day weekends and lots of extra cuddles from you both Share a bath That sort of thing

And even though he is easily distracted And often has accidents if not reminded, he is at least doing one poo on the toilet each day and no more accidents at school I would probably rule out a physical cause, maybe see the gp, then put it down to the emotional upset of her dad being away and just try to be patient for a bit longer There is a specialist clinic the gp could refer you to if it didnt resolve, if that reassures you I have read using the big toilet can make it hard to 'push' for them Maybe by holding on she has upset her own routine A bit Nd now it's harder to poo when expected

Have not had the problem of getting a child toilet trained then they start to soil, but one of our twins was such a reluctant toilet trainer .... While one did it herself very soon after she was 2 the other only started to wee in the loo at 3y 4m when I got on to it like a military operation And poos were just impossible At first he carried on pooing first thing every morning before his might time nappy came off But then, disaster, the week he started school he decided to poo in his pants midmorning every day ...they were not impressed and it was very worrying even though my approach is usually just to be patient We were doing the usual stuff (rewards, reminding him, sitting him on at the usual time) He wasn't constipated which is often the cause - http://www.eric.org.uk/Constipation/information_constipation_parents Excellent site that re toilet issues and children Dp tried sitting him on the potty most of the day watching tv, he wS sure I hadn't been trying hard enough I think, but even under daddy's tutelage there was no success Anyway, after about 5 weeks of pooey pants suddenly he pooed in the toilet!

Actually the standard allows for two deep fried items per week only - eg fish snd chips = 2 http://www.schoolfoodtrust.org.uk/the-standards/the-food-based-standards/final-food-based-standards-for-school-lunches/deep-fried-food-restricted

Re night time and teeth, you could still have milk in the dark in bed then brush teeth in the bed, using a little cup We used to do that for ds1 at one point, after his story in bed with warm milk

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Sp: I love your bedtime dialogue! What I meant about responding to Needs was trying to find the underlying need and respond to that, rather than Pander to all the little details ... Though lots of stalling at bedtime fr Child no 1 when he was a toddler and I was working long hours was invariably code for 'come and lie in bed with me, mummy!'

Pickle Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > I think it's important to listen to what the > problem is, but at the same time not let a 2/3 > year old "play" you. Given the chance, our > daughter (coming up for 3.5) will come up with all > sorts of things to delay bedtime (I need a > drink/wee/tissue/blanket/cuddly toy), none of them > anything more than a distraction technique. Agreed. But how to interpret crying etc at night.. I tend to think it's a need that needs to be met

bumpy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Our nanny works for 3 families - Mon, Wed & Thurs > for 2 families and Tues & Fri for the 3rd family. I think it's the having children from more than two families at a time that might actually mean the nanny needs to register as running a nursery, or something like that! But don't quote me Actually, i think they need to be a registered childminder (even if not working in their own home)

My approach would be to listen to their needs and respond.. this is your child expressing a need to you, in the best way they can. I read somwwhere that if you don't listen to the little things when they are small, they won't bring you the big things when they're older. In my experience if you try to listen to what they are requesting from you, and meet those needs as they arise, the child can then move on to the next stage of independence when they are ready

I think the legalities get a bit complex once a nanny works for more than two familes

even if you're not expressing you can still go to bed at 8pm and have partner watch/settle baby till midnight, bringing him/her just for the milk... and then in the morning bring you tea in bed and get baby changed etc while you shower and have breakfast

Apenn I meant many newborns need help latching and feeding lying down is a skill that comes later(But you can still maximise sleep by cosleeping and the feeding position is the safe one

Prob worth speaking to pharmacist That seems to be nhs advice http://www.nhs.uk/medicine-guides/pages/MedicineOverview.aspx?medicine=Eurax

These notes don't specify such an age limit - http://www.medicines.org.uk/emc/medicine/20253/SPC/eurax%20lotion/

I actually cleared up several bits But I am hardly going to stalk round east dulwich carrying hot soapy water ... If you are volunteering frankito ... Perhaps we can just alert you to any unwelcome deposits we come across ?