Advice:Potty time

[nicolemodesti]

I realise there has been other threads on this which I have read with interest but have started a new one for advice.

My boy is 23 months old and I think ready to go for the full potty training time!

We have had a potty around home since he was 18 months and he has been introduced to it at his nursery since then too (just to sit on and see). He would not sit on it at home only if I was sat on the second one! In the last 3 weeks he has shown more of an interest especially in the last couple of days. Every morning we take his nappy off and he goes and gets his potty and does a wee as well as in the evening before bath. Takes great pride after he has, lots of clapping, won't do it in front of us and empties his bowl in the toilet(with me helping to guide him for any spillage). He refuses to sit down on it and stands, aims and hits the bowl. I'm quite impressed by this although he does practice in the bath with his jug! He will also use the toilet training seat independently, before bath, with his step up stool. About half an hour after using his potty this morning he asked for his nappy back on and we asked if he wanted to do a poo, as he did this once before and I didn't listen to him and had a lovely explosion all over his bedroom floor. He was happy to sit on his potty and passed wind. After this he left his nappy off until time to get ready for nursery.He has started occasionally using the potty at nursery and is fascinated by his older brother of 11, who is visiting us for the school holidays, using the toilet. We have also introduced boxer/pants which he is delighted with.

Okay, questions are:

Do boys go straight to standing up rather than sitting down?

Will he understand about sitting for poos?(We have talked about it)

Are moving house tomorrow(small flat to large house with garden) and considered toilet training?

Off on holiday Wednesday, for 1 week abroad, so should I avoid it? 9Will be spending most of our time by the pool/sea)

The part about poos, he will always tell me while/after he does it, so will he get the idea?

He seems to be increasingly telling me 'no nappy' when getting him ready in the morning - is this a sign?

Also when he asks for nappy back on is this a sign of lack of confidence/security?

Am on school holidays so wanted to give him a go at it before returning to school. Have read books by Gina Ford and another called 'Potty Training for Boys' but both have different approaches with the latter having a relaxed approach.

Sorry for the rather long winded account!! Any advice greatly appreciated.

[nunheadmum]

Sorry I've got girls so can't comment so much on the boy bits but I would say, go with it if he seems up for it - which it sounds like from your post. It sounds as if he's half-way there already. Both my girls led the way on potty training at around 2 and - with input from nursery - had it within a few days, for wees at least. (Some take longer with poos - my first did - and I'd say, just go with what works for them on it, even if it means a nappy. They'll get it when they're ready.) My youngest did it right before no2 was born - which ALL the books say is a no-no - and was fine.

If you've got the time now with the school holidays and will be outside a lot (new garden or by the sea, just as good!), it's the best time I think. (Unless you think that moving house / holiday and thinking about this will be too stressful for you.) I'd say try it, be relaxed and follow his lead - if it doesn't work, it's no real problem. He's still young and there's plenty of time.

Having just done it with no2, following her lead, I can say it's sooooo nice not having to deal with nappies all the time. Only problem now is that all her trousers / skirts keep falling down, with no bulk to hold them up!

[nicolemodesti]

Thanks nunheadmum for the advice. Think we shall go for it and see how he takes to it all. Don't think it could be any more stressful then what we have been through this week - may as well deal with all the stress in one go! We have been following his lead and he seems to be telling us what he wants with regards to it.

[Fuschia]

DS! sat down for his wees at first (on big loo)

[nicolemodesti]

Okay so my son has chosen to be different and stand using potty and loo!!

[EDZ]

What does one do at night? I assume you keep them in nappy's but for how long? Do you just stop using nappys when you notice the nappy stays dry or when when they are old enough to get out of bed and go to the loo?