Could we start some mummy matchmaking?

[Fuschia]

I need some new friends!

Had a brilliant friend first time round (met her outside Blue Mountain Cafe when our children were 6w old) and although they are now 8 and she moved years ago to w London we are still very good friends.

Second time round with the twins had a very active 2nd time mums NCT group and we keep in touch but since maternity leave ended only one or two of those mums are at home part time and it doesn't necessari;ly coincide with my days.

Now I have a new baby and also I have seen various new mum meetups organised (like the attachment parenting one) but as I often have my 2 yo twins with me too, I am not free to get along to coffee shop type meetups where everyone else just has one placid newborn!

I am sure there are quite a few of us who would like to find a "soulmate"

So can I say I am quite old, I work pat time, qute laid back cosleeping breastfeeding type... currently free

on Mon, Thurs and Fri ams and all day Tues and Weds, after Easter it will be all day Weds, Thurs and Fri mornings. If anyone would like to be friends please PM me! I like places like CP one o'c club, P Rye Park and cafe, one o'c club in the Summer (though I have to do school pick up from Heber)

If anyone else would like to find a pal, please feel free to add to the thread!

[Saffron]

My super-extroverted 1 yo daughter would probably get along great with your twins! Never been to CP 1 o'clock club, but I have a friend (also with a boisterous 1 yo) in the area. Maybe we could meet there one day? We don't have a car, but we're highly mobile with buggy or sling. (Btw, anyone going to CP station via train, don't forget: STAIRS! (My poor husband got caught out on this once, taking buggy instead of sling for Little Saff, oh dear!)

xx

[snowboarder]

Hello - we need playmates on mon and tues mornings sometimes and always need to fill the post-nap pre-supper slot (too much tv dependency!) - and in anticipation of new arrival soon we need toddler/newbie friendly places!

[Fuschia]

SB: I HATE the late pm/early evening but I have to do the school pick up at 3.30 (takes me an hour to get them all in and out of the car at both ends)

Maybe the occasional playdate might be good... you'd be welcome to brave the chaos at ours and come for tea one day at about 4.30! In the Summer, tea at P Rye or Dulwich Pk would be good... especially Fridays I always feel like we deserve a treat.

Mine usually sleep till 2.15 then have a late lunch, it isn't time to do much unless they nap in the car while I am parked up outside the one o'c club or something like that.

[snowboarder]

I often think I'd like to have to do a school pick up - at least would give sthg to do!! Little sb sleeps till 3 and is cross until 3.30 - so little time to get out!

I don't know whether this still happens but there was an ad on the nct yahoo group about a bumps and babes suitable for people with toddlers and babies -

Dear parents,

Just to let you all know that the first session of the joint NCT B&B/Little

Gems at the Salvation Army, Crystal Palace will be starting next week.

This particular group is open to all parents and parents-to-be, be they NCT

members or not. It is of special interest to parents with 2 kids or more as

there is a large play area suitable for older children as well as a dedicated

area for the younger ones.

Start date : Tuesday 28th Sept 2010

Date and time : Every Tuesday during term time, 10am-12pm

Entry fee : ?2 each time, collected by SA who will provide light refreshments

and arts & crafts session for older kids

Address : 58 Westow Street, Upper Norwood, SE19 3AF

Other details : Your children will become members, no joining fee. Donation

of cakes, biscuits etc are warmly welcomed

Don't know what parking is like - suppose it's up near sainsburys? I'm starting to feel v scared about being out/feeding baby/controlling runaway toddler....

[snowboarder]

ps - F - yes please!! I imagine little SB would have a whale of a time at yours!!

[Fuschia]

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> ps - F - yes please!! I imagine little SB would

> have a whale of a time at yours!!

ok, let's fix it for a Friday!

I think this coming friday is good. Bring your earplugs!

[Saffron]

Hi all-

Forgot to say that Little Saff and I are often free on Saturdays too. Hubby often works Sat and sometimes Sun... so if anyone else is around on a wknd with nothing to do, get in touch.

:)

[Fuschia]

Would def be up for getting together in the park or sandpit on sats once the weather looks up.

Atm we hang out Saturdays at Little Rascals softplay in Bellingham if anyone fancies it... is very good for toddlers, not too big. Not very flashy but does the trick.

[LoopyMum]

And there was me thinking I was the only one counting down the days till Spring/Summer.

I don't have any answers Fuschia - just to say I totally understand how you feel. I work from home & it can get

lonely at times - I have seen many threads started by local mums who feel the same. I guess some back away a little

and don't want to make a firm commitment as they may meet up with someone and just not ''click'' with that particular

individual and then generic meetings leave you feeling a little lost with no one in particular to talk to -

especially if your not a very outgoing person.

[Saffron]

It can be really hard to coordinate schedules with other mums and babies too, especially if your LOs are on diff nap routines/go to diff classes/ diff schools etc. Plus some people work or study part time so only have 1 or 2 free days/wk.

Then to top it off, everyone has their own idiosyncrasies. Me, for example, loathe going out in the morning unless it's something really special b/c Little Saff takes her longest nap mid-morning. I generally sleep then too. Otherwise I'm a total zombie for the rest of the day.

No wonder it's so hard to meet new people!

xx

[Fuschia]

Yes, it's a bit like being a shift worker trying to meet a new partner, really. And once you have a toddler, you can never have a conversation anyway!

But it is well worthwhile making a good friend, the sort of person who will come round when you and your kid have been up all night with him puking, and help you get the house straight then watch him while you nap... the sort of friend when you go to your house you feel at home making yourself a cup of tea, and load their dishwasher while you're in the kitchen...

I have two friends like that with children same age as my son no 1, but neither live locally or work part time.

[Saffron]

Thanks, Fuschia and Devonlass15, for meeting up at the Plough the other day. Shall we try to organise something round mine one day in Feb? Three comfy sofas, lots of tea and cake, two friendly cats, children always welcome... Late morning/early afternoon is usu good for me and Little Saff. If anyone fancies some more 'mummy matchmaking', get in touch!

:)

[Saffron]

We're over our Chicken Pox scare. No sign of the pox here. Shall we try for a meet up this week?

:-)

[Fuschia]

Saffron Wrote:

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> We're over our Chicken Pox scare. No sign of the

> pox here. Shall we try for a meet up this week?

> :-)

is hald term... not sure if that's good or bad for socialising... i NEED to but is harder than usual!!

[Saffron]

Wednesday or Friday at mine? Anyone interested, give me a PM. xx

[Fuschia]

Saffron Wrote:

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> Wednesday or Friday at mine? Anyone interested,

> give me a PM. xx

No gtood this week, but in general, weds are good for4 us

x

[Saffron]

Hi-

I'm resurrecting an old thread to invite you and your LOs to mine for our Halloween party on Saturday the 29th of October from 1-5pm. We're having All Fired Up provide paint and pottery for ?10/person for the kids (or adults if you're so inclined too!) The party is ostensiblly for The Only Child Playgroup, but seeing as how Halloween only crops up once a year, I've also invited my NCT group -- some of whom are now on Baby 2, not even 2 years after the first! Wow!! So you and your LOs would all be very welcome, and I hope we can do some mummy matchmaking too.

xxx

Please PM me for more info :)