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Fuschia

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(twins of 4)


Do you have multiple children, do they get alOng? If you have one, do you think it's peaceful or do they keep saying they're bored?


Every one of my children seems to engage in territorial battles with at least one of the others on a daily basis.


Aargh!


They were fighting over the dolls house so I assembled the castle, now they are fightIng over that

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Mrs TP

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Mine once had an argument over an invisible (i.e. imaginary) Ben 10 watch. One was completely distraught that the other had snatched it from her and taken it. Quick as a flash (which is unusual for me) I said 'oh no she's dropped it, here it is ...' pretended to pick it up and put it on distraught child. Peace was resumed for about 10 mins.


'Poo poo bum bum head' is a common insult amongst them.


Currently, there are arguments going on about who is on which sofa and what to watch on tv and one is shouting 'mummy she is touching my letters'.


Some days we resemble the Waltons and some days we are like an episode of Shameless; looking around at those in a similar position I think this is entirely normal.


Oh now someone has put Simpsons on so the older two quiet and the little one is covering herself in sun cream and all peaceful.

dulwichgirl2

dulwichgirl2

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I think helpful for "negotiation skills" in later life no? Children who get their own way or never have to share or wait for anything must have higher expectations that could be disappointed later, it seems to me. I often wonder why some cultures are better at teamwork for example. The comment was made by the German commentator after the Italy match in fact.
sillywoman

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It's the end of the school year; summer's finally in the air; I find mine are always more irritable & tired toward the end of term, and they take it out on each other for sure. Which means we (adults) end up with all the stress.


I've found with my teens that as they get older & have more separate lives they fight a lot less, but when they do fight it's more serious & affects us all more strongly- essentially they're adults shouting at each other - it can be quite scary.


I like the Waltons/Shameless analogy :) that's definitely us, though we could do with a lot more Walton days in our house!

KatDew

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Not so bad at the moment. Eldest is 4, the twins are 22months. Generally all is ok... although I suspect this is mainly due to luck. I have one bolshy twin and one very laid back one. Obviously the risk is that the calm one starts standing up for herself rather than sneakily waiting till no one is looking and just swipes what she's after!
nunheadmum

nunheadmum

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I'm being driven up the wall by my two these days. Some days it's just non-stop and so senseless....elder one pushes the buttons, younger one reacts. They can play together so nicely at times but when they do, I find myself thinking 'It won't last!'......now and again, they do surprise me! Thankfully!!
Mrs TP

Mrs TP

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If they are 'scrapping' and I intervene then they stick up for one another. If they come telling tales to me and I try to do my best Kofi Annan to separate and enforce sanctions no one is happy.


Carrying on my Waltons/Shameless analogy, last yr on hols Mr TP commented that we were like a Christmas special of Shameless meets Benidorm but how we sniggered at other parents struggling with their kids in the swimming pool etc. - sorry we should have showed more solidarity but it was more 'oh thank goodness that isn't us at this moment'.

Pickle

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My two older children are very close (both in age and as friends) but do bicker quite a lot these days. We did laugh this morning when the first words we heard from our 4 year old were "C just put bogies on my foot", not a good start to a Sunday morning. I try not to get involved too much when it's just standard sibling bickering and they usually sort it out between them without resorting to violence!


That said, my younger brother (4 years my junior) and I used to fight so much that we were put in different secondary schools!

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