Entitlement on Lordship Lane

[Nigello]

Nah, not buying the harassed mummy (daddy/nanny) line. Saying thanks or even just nodding to signify gratefulness ought to be hardwired and reflexively automatic from childhood. 

[Jules-and-Boo]

agree with Nigello

[Rockets]

There has always been stressed parents in these parts but wind the clock back 10 years and they managed to be, in the main, polite and thoughtful to others. There is a definite change in the vibe around these days and I can't help but think it is all going a bit Islington (both the shops and the attitude towards others displayed by many). Unfortunately money might buy you a nice house in Dulwich but it can't buy you manners....a few new neighbours on our street have incensed some of the incumbents by their selfish attitude within days of moving in and instead of trying to make peace have doubled-down.

Edited February 5, 2024 by Rockets

[Brockwellfan]

I'm a parent of two young kids and I concur that's no excuse for not letting people pass, and not saying thank you if someone holds the door.

But @heartblock I may well be one of the Judith Kerr parents who has inconvenienced you - very sorry if I have. Trouble is the pavement is very narrow outside the school which gives us very little option other than to hog it! The school has a group set up which is is in discussion with the council to try to improve the set up, partly to make it more convenient for everyone (parents, pupils, members of the public like you), and also to make it safer (the safety issue was highlighted by a car recently coming off the road and crashing through the school fence, thankfully not in school hours! There have also been close calls with overexcited kids straying from the very narrow pavement into the road in the crush of pick up). In the mean time, for the ~40 mins a day of pick up/drop off "rush-hour", I'd recommend using the other side of the road where the pavement is wider.

 

Edited February 5, 2024 by Brockwellfan

[Earl Aelfheah]

1 hour ago, Nigello said:

Nah, not buying the harassed mummy (daddy/nanny) line. Saying thanks or even just nodding to signify gratefulness ought to be hardwired and reflexively automatic from childhood. 

I agree with you about saying 'thanks' / acknowledging others. Mine was more a general point - a lot of vitriol gets directed at parents of young kids blocking the pavement, or being in their own bubble, and it automatically being attributed to entitlement when often they're just trying to get through the day. I had two kids who barely slept and although they're grown up now, there were times when I probably walked around in a daze.

22 minutes ago, Rockets said:

There has always been stressed parents in these parts but wind the clock back 10 years and they managed to be, in the main, polite and thoughtful to others. There is a definite change in the vibe around these days and I can't help but think it is all going a bit Islington (both the shops and the attitude towards others displayed by many). Unfortunately money might buy you a nice house in Dulwich but it can't buy you manners....a few new neighbours on our street have incensed some of the incumbents by their selfish attitude within days of moving in and instead of trying to make peace have doubled-down.

I don't know about that. We had a lot of very similar post on here complaining about the 'buggy brigade' going back a long time

I'm not defending the behaviour described in the OP by the way, just don't think it should be generalised to parents of young children in general, who imo have a pretty tough job. 

Edited February 5, 2024 by Earl Aelfheah