Long-distance relationships...can they work?

[karter]

fractionater Wrote:

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> Depends on what type of relationship it is.

>

> I have an open relationship with a Japanese girl

> who now lives in Tokyo. She used to live in London

> when I met her, and I guess we are now

> "occasional" f-buddies. I haven't seen her for

> over a year, but am heading out to Tokyo soon, not

> specifically to see her but whilst I'm there we'll

> hook up and continue where we left off! No issues

> with seeing other people in between either.

good excuse to go to Tokyo though. You sure have done your sums.

[KidKruger]

You hit it on the head Rosie, I was not overt enough to say it myself, but yeah a massive part of relationships.

[katie1997]

thank you everyone for your thoughts, lots of great advice here and some amazing stories and experiences (esp GSJ57 -wow, what a wonderful story)! for me its kinda like...met someone at an expat event 6 wks before I was due to leave the country so never really got to know each other. But had this feeling that I never wanted to lose touch so its been phone calls/text/emails. Difficult to get to know someone via email though! He is now back in Europe but sadly as he is not from the UK is still based in a different country!! Just wanted to hear experiences and views of others xxxxx

btw sorry if my username is misleading (my d.o.b. is most definitely not 1997!!! I am much much much older than that!):)

p.s. woof your post was v.funny, hope you are wrong though...

[Santerme]

Absolutely.

I met my wife, who is Canadian in the line up for a Springsteen show in London about 4 years ago.

We clicked almost instantly....

We started of e-mailing and then spent hours on the phone each day....

I took three months off and went to live over with her....just to see if we could stand each other on an everyday basis!

Luckily, it did not put her off me.

We married about a year after we met!

Because of work commitments, financial considerations and her daughter's schooling we have spent three years of our married life meeting in all kinds of wonderful places...

Florida next for Spring break!

Then they move here permanently this summer...

I run my own business and she is a lawyer, so we are lucky we can make all the time we need to see each other....we were able to be together four months of each year at least!

I can imagine it would be more difficult if the relationship was based on just calls and e-mails for much of the year.

[Santerme]

Oh and my brother did the same with his Australian wife.....so chin up!!!

[katie1997]

thanks santerme - another great story too. you are so right about it not just being based on emails and text though!! cheers

[RosieH]

Good luck katie - have high hopes for you.

And KidKruger, yes, my post didn't set out to shock. Sex is of course important, but my romantic soul would rather employ a little imagination to be with (however remotely) the person I care about than go out to seek gratification elsewhere.

[GSJ57]

If it's meant to be - it will work out!! Good luck, Katie!