Funnily enough about 10 minutes after I posted that Pickle the midwife turned up, (I had completely forgotten she was coming) and she said exactly what you just said so thanks for the great advice, I guess I have to trust in annas intuition more instead of flapping about stuff, this dad stuff is more tricky than I thought!! but hey I'm not complaining I don't have sore nipples!:)) and I seem to have been blessed with the ability to sleep through the night time squarking. which is a bit annoying for Anna, but there is nothing I can do and its important I can go to work and do a good day.