Saffron

Is no one on the Forum an Ann Summers Party Rep? Missed business opportunity!!

StraferJack Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Mistakes and lack of judgement are bad (especially > so in fatalities) but forgivable > > But from what has been reported so far, if true, > suggests something far worse > > Why am I included to believe reports? Because I > know too many Irish people who would support what > the nurse said. It's plausible in a way that it > wouldn't be here. Mistakes will happen anywhere. > Entrenched backward belief systems take something > else Indeed.

Cyberia Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > "How barbaric to force any woman to endure a > painful miscarriage at any stage of pregnancy, > when medical interventions could be made. > > A woman is now DEAD. People are going to judge." > > I think the issue is, people are implying that > such a thing couldn't happen in other parts of the > UK. I was not implying such.

Dudley Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hi, > > I don't think you should be so judgmental in > relation to Ireland. I am lawyer qualified in both > Ireland and England and I think you should buy > today's Irish Times for a full and accurate report > on the tragic death Savita Halappanavar and legal > landscape in the Republic of Ireland. > How barbaric to force any woman to endure a painful miscarriage at any stage of pregnancy, when medical interventions could be made. A woman is now DEAD. People are going to judge.

(Post by *mistake* in the Lounge? No, I'd say that was a stroke of genius!)

Some types of hormonal birth control can affect your libido, especially if it's already low. Maybe worth speaking to your GP? Non-hormonal birth control might be something to consider, like a copper "coil" IUD. When you're cycling naturally, your libido will be at its peak during your most fertile days. So if you're making a Date Night, try to calendar it for a day where you've got a fighting chance of having your libido on your side. Lots of sympathy. I don't know any couple that hasn't been affected by this issue in one way or another! xx

So, will we see new risk assessments for pregnancy --particularly the West Midlands Perinatal Institute's research on reduction of stillbirths-- made universal throughout the NHS? And if not, why not? http://www.uk-sands.org/no_cache/News/Newspage/article/264/22.html http://www.bmj.com/content/331/7525/1113 http://content.karger.com/ProdukteDB/produkte.asp?Aktion=ShowAbstract&ProduktNr=224036&Ausgabe=231708&ArtikelNr=91501

Included in the key objectives of the recent NHS mandate: "better care during pregnancy, including women getting a named midwife to ensure personalised care throughout pregnancy" http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-20314687 http://mandate.dh.gov.uk/

Hilarious! Never happened to us, but when Little Saff was that age, she only did a poo once a week... then it was 7 days of poo at once. I don't think the jumperoo would have stood a chance.

Whenever you see "breastapo", "brainwash", and "bottle-feeders" in the same sentence, you know it's got to be the Daily Mail. I dispute author Kitty Dimbleby's inflammatory and one-sided statement that, "Bottle-feeding your infant is presented as nothing less than child neglect." And I rebuke her for bad journalism. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2232057/Now-Breastapo-using-toys-brainwash-children-As-breastfeeding-doll-goes-sale-new-mum-KITTY-DIMBLEBY-says-fellow-bottle-feeders-sick-breast-best-bigotry.html Seriously, who does she think she's helping with this article? Or is it just a vehicle for her own emotive rant? Regarding children's bfing toys vs ffing toys: Kitty, why not give your daughter both and let her decide what she likes to play with? What are you afraid of-- that women who bf and women who ff might actually get along with eachother, and then your journalistic career would be in the toilet?

No experience of Elliot Bank BF Cafe, but definitely try to get help again where ever you can. I had a very painful start to bfing with Little Saff. Unfortunately, the problem wasn't tongue tie, so it wasn't as easy to fix as tt sometimes is. Our issue with Little Saff was a short tongue and high palate. The shape of the palate does change with age as the baby grows, so it will get better with time if that's the problem. I also had/have Reynaud's syndrome, which is where your hands/feet get poor circulation due to capillary spasms. It can also happen in your nipples. In which case heat is better than cold for sore nipples. Keeping warm all over really helps. If you're only offereing one breast per feed, try switching to always offering both but starting on the one you left off with the time before. You can also try a bfing supplements like fenugreek, blessed thistle, and goats rue. Tinctures or tablets probably generally have more active ingredients than teas. If a nipple shield would help, don't worry about using one! I used a nipple shield on one side for about 3-4 months. The Mother Cars own brand seemed to be the lightest and most flexible, but there are many brands and varieties available. I seem to recall things getting better around 6 wks, so hang in there!! xx

Civilservant, you've just highlighted one of my major gripes with research on breastfeeding: It doesn't generally suggest what formula-feeding parents can do to minimise the gap. It's great that there is continuing lab-based research on breast milk, but also more relevant research on early childhood attachment too. Along with some of the literature and discussion on BF and FF, has anyone else noticed that there sometimes seems to be an implied assumption that if an individual is pro-BF, then s/he must be anti-FF, and vice versa? I find this odd personally, as I'm hugely pro-BF but not anti-FF in context (I think we'd probably all agree that promotion of FF in 3rd world countries has historically been a catastrophe).

It's correlation vs causation anyway. Maybe all those things on the list* tend to occur naturally around a time postpartum hormones are settling down and women are starting to settle into being new mothers? The article says this happens around 4 mo 23 days postpartum on avg (according to their sample anyway). I'd say between 3-6 months generally for hormone systems to re-adjust from any major strain is probably about right. For those of us who don't ding all the points on their list, maybe motherhood is more about accepting that sometimes things just are the way they are, as Moos suggests. Having a bad day recently, I posted as my FB status. "It's never going to get easier." A friend with older children replied, "No, but it does get better." *Sleeping through the night at ~5 mo? (snorts of derisive laughter)

civilservant Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > What Saffron said in her last post > > Who are the 'researchers' who put that list > together? Probably people without children! ;-)

Well, if relying on the house not looking like a bomb site is an absolute requite for feeling like a proper mum, I doubt I'd ever feel so. Although to be fair, I like to think my house is more like friendly chaos, than bomb site. Nevertheless, still intrigued about the fact that the article seems to assert that feeling like a proper mum should coincide with not feeling "confused, knackered, frazzled, and bone tired", as these things seem practically to be the definition of being a mother some days!

I second anbesol, very effective. You can also try having your LO swish a little liquid Gaviscon around in the mouth, or mix a little with milk or water to sip. This helps with any kind of ulcerative mouth pain, not just Coxsackie virus. I would avoid or be cautious about generic preparations of baby ibuporfen. I had one of these through the GP for Little Saff, but the suspension was much more acidic than branded baby Neurofen. It was obviously painful on her throat. I tried some myself, and it was nasty. I put it in the refrigerator and we only ever used it as a last choice if we'd run out of branded Calpol or Neurofen.

QueenMab, the community cafe at the top of Telegraph Hill (opposite the park), used to have "Quiet Fridays", where they asked patrons not to bring children, though tiny babies would be fine. The rest of the time, the cafe was very child-friendly. I haven't been there recently, so I don't know if this is still running. Anyone know if this is still the case?

Ugh remembering that only too well... and then convincing Hubbie to do the same (still working on it). x

LondonMix Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > There are studies illustrating that MSG is safe. > If she's American it will be a battle though as > there is a widespread view that it makes you feel > ill in the US. If she's aware of the studies > there is nothing you can do. Some people believe > things as a matter of faith (akin to religious > belief) and you can't change their minds! She's not American, just a bit of a food freak (sorry, don't mean that in a nasty way, but can't think of anything else to accurately describe what borders on an unhealthy obsession with what she views as 'healthy' food).

oimissus Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > judging and the death stare seem pretty harsh! > These are snapshots of peoples' lives, you have no > idea what else is going on and until you do you > have to reserve judgement - easier said than done, > of course. Maybe the mars bar was a one-off bribe > to get a dithering child going. Maybe the crisps > were promised as a treat for something or other. > If you saw these things happening to the same > children, every day, for a term - yes, there's > probably a problem - but almost certainly that > problem will be greater than the food these > children are being given to eat. > > I agree about it being a snapshot of people's lives. Sometimes I catch myself starting to judge, then I remind myself not to do so. It's human nature. On a tangent to that, how do you deal with people spreading disinformation about food? I have a friend who freaks out if her son has any sugar because thinks it makes children hyper etc. She also thinks msg is dangerous. Since I haven't read any conclusive evidence that either is the case, I'd prefer her not to make these statements in front of MY child! I think a diet of fresh food that is low in sugar and msg (both are naturally occuring, btw) is a good thing, but I don't have a freak out if I think there's added sugar/msg in something someone else cooked. The same friend once refused to allow her son dessert at our house, after we'd all eaten dinner together. And on another occasion, she tried to tell my husband not to use gravy granules b/c they contain msg (ours didn't), and then she didn't let her son have any gravy on his roast dinner!! I do value her friendship for other reasons, but needless to say we don't have her round to dinner anymore. In fact I avoid any mealtimes with her, if I can help it. It can make playdates tricky.

The article provided a list of things that women have said helped them feel like proper mums: Forumites, agree? Disagree? Anything to add to the list? To number 7, I would add being able to change a nappy not only quickly but under any circumstances! (...after a 'blow-out', in the dark, in the tiniest public loo imaginable...)

http://www.parentdish.co.uk/mum/you-wont-feel-like-a-proper-mum-for-precisely-4-months-and-23-days/ Uh-oh, where did I go wrong? My daughter is nearly 3, and I still feel confused, knackered, frazzled, and bone tired!!!

Is the brown fluid not blood but bile? Gastroenteritis can lead to inflammed gallbladder in adults. Similar in children?

Oops, crossed posts with nunheadmum! Just to add, the blisters on my daughters hands/feet did not come up immediately.

Could it be Coxsackie virus? It's commonly called hand, foot and mouth virus (not the same as hoof and mouth!). Phone NHS direct 0845 46 47 if you're worried at all. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coxsackie_A_virus My daughter had this at just over 1 year old. Blisters were most apparent on her feet. There were only a few, and they quickly resolved. It was her throat/mouth that really bothered her. It was just so painful. She wouldn't even eat chocolate, refused a bottle, and could barely breast feed. Calpol or baby ibuprofen were helpful, but be aware that some generic baby ibuprofen is very acidic. It seemed to irritate my LO's sore throat more than the Baby Nurofen brand. Calpol was fine. I gave her dioralyte to drink afterwards which seemed soothing. You can also try having your LO rinse her mouth with liquid gaviscon, or give her a little liquid gaviscon with milk or water and let her sip it. Hope your LO is better soon. xx