Cyclemonkey

Ah you see i disagree i have told off children not known to me on the bus and in other places. Just this morning i asked a young lad to stop playing music outloud on his mobile cos it was annoying everyone and last night i told a very young child (around 5 or 6) to stop pressing the bell over and over. Once i did get grief from a parent about telling off her child but seeing as i was telling off the child for industriously smearing boiled sweets on to my coat in full sight of me and his mother i felt within my rights to tell him off and asked the mother if she refused to keep her child under control perhaps she'd like to pay my dry cleaning bill instead

Oh yeah i think the majority of people are always are ok. I think maybe what we have lost is the solidarity of adults in public palces. I am quite happy to remonstrate with shildren if i see they doing something dangerous or just plain annoying and also talk to them and engage with them etc.. We seem to have lost this idea of all adults being responsible for children and i think that is a shame. People feel for whatever reason they cannot remonstrate with rowdy or naughty children in public place or indeed engagement with them and therefore they get frustrated by bad behaviour and take it out in the parents. i think it does us all good when adults (all adults not just the parents of the individual children) learn to take charge of a space and welcome children into it by engaging with them but also setting the boundaries. No wonder parents feel stressed and isolated with other adults in the community are not prepared to engage with children or help them set the boundaries they need. I think these days parent can see parenting as their sole job and it makes them unhappy and stressed. Recently i was out with a group of friends and one friend of a friend (who i had met ina fair few occasions) was there with her young daughter - she wanted to go to the loo and as her mum was eating and in an awkward place at the table i offered to take the little girl to the ladies. Her mum refused my offer and made a big deal of the fact "mummy" was going to take this child to the loo. I felt this was very odd - firsly that she didn't trust me and secondly instilling in her daughter that Mummy will always subugate her needs to those of her daughters - not a good example to set i think.

Well i'm sorry i have had that and you have to grit your teeth and not allow them to get into bad habits - we did it with my step son as he got used to walkign everywhere very quickly and uncomplainingly - you're not seriously suggesting 4 - 5 year olds go in buggies - they will be a primary school at that age - not wanting to get all 4 Yorkshiremen about it but i was regualrly expected to walk to mile to primary school from my house with either my parents or older children at the age of 4.5 - 5.

Oh and another thing - buggies - if you have them in the cafe/pub for the love of god fold them up it's really annoying having to do a buggy assult course to get to the toilets/bar. Finally if your child is around 3 or over and has no walking impairements i would suggest they don't need to be in a buggy

Absolutely agree. I definitely think children should be as involved in the adult world - as children we were taken to restaurants, pubs (where it was allowed - in the 1980s it was often common for children to be confined to the family room or the beer garden) and other events. My parents never ever agreed with the ideas of "childrens tables" of "childrens menus" you ate with the adults, ate what they ate, ate when they ate and were expected to behave - children need to be integrated into the adult world not treated as special little beings. I absolutely welcome people with small children into local cafes, pubs, restaurants etc.. BUT do not expect me to be delighted or amused if your little darling throws a tantrum or spend the whole time running around the place getting under everyones feet. i also reserve the right as another adult to remonstrate with your child if they do something dangerous or stupid - like the little darling a few weeks ago who ran to hard into our table my drink was upset.

Hey guys - brilliant news you've reached your target! Any idea when the shares will actually be sent to people who have brought them?

I developed tendonitis and a small rupture in my achilles tendon last year (a common problem for dancers and people that do martial arts - i'm a kickboxer)and it has taken me over a year to begin to recover The only real support i had from the NHS was inital diagnosis and a small print out with exercises (that will be familar to anyone who has has ankle injuries) Unfortunatly for this sort of thing i have found often the only option is private physio as getting physio on the NHS for this sort of thing is very hard. I found East Dulwich Physio on Crystal Palace Road good - i had a course of laser treatement and massage on my calf and tendon. I have recently had a lot of deep tissue massage on my calf muscles as well that has helped. Other than that i would recommend speaking to your trainer in whatever sport you do to ensure you don't make it worse if you want to continue to train - my doctor told me that often with ankle and tendon injuries (as long as they are not broken or snapped) continuing to exercise is actually a good thing. Stap up your ankle when you train (you can use kinesio tape but i use a properly fitted ankle strap), ice it well after training and use anti inflammatories if needed and use a roller every night to massage your calf muscle and if possible go to a properly qualifed sports massage therapist to get good deep tissue massage in your calf. AND definitely don't do any jumping and don't go back to full training too quickly - if you don't allow ankle or tendon injuries to heal properly you will be setting yourself up for a life time of inflamation and ankle weakness.

Clearly i meant the 343 is a 24 hour bus - no idea where the 434 goes! :)

We got shares and are looking forward to using the pub. Location i think is only a problem in that i for one didn't really know it existed until i went to a few Pull the Other One nights there before it closed and i lived in and around the area since 2001. To those moaning minnies talking about it being too far to walk - honestly it's only about 10 minutes walk from East Dulwich Road/Nunhead lane and there are the 343 and 484 buses that go up that side of the common and the 434 is a 24 hour bus! People in inner London complaining not to be able to get to places without cars always makes me smile!! Where i grew up it was fairly common to walk back over a mile or so in the dark to and from the surrounding village pubs. But yes the pub business is a hard one and getting harder by the day - so if locals want it to succeed we need to put our money where our mouth is and make it our local!

Back to the accusation that i was trolling - i wasn't it is perfectly sound advice not to keep large amounts of cash in your house. This is because it cannot be traced if stolen and also insurance companies will only pay out a very samll amount to replace it (often around ?50 i think) so really all in all it is good advice genrally not to keep large amounts of cash about your person or in your property. However at no time did i say being foolish makes being stolen from ok.

Well there were Conway logos vans and equipment there most of last night

Umm being stolen from is awful and you have my sympathies. But you kept a "sizeable" amount of money in your house? Seriously it's not that clever to keep large amounts of cash at home that's kinda what banks are for!

yeah looks like it. Would have appreciated a bit of warning that my sleep was going to be disturbed on a week night! It's ridiculous, we've had some form of roadworks at the Peckham Rye end of East Dulwich road since early Jan!

Anyone know why Conway are carrying out nightwork on East Dulwich road tonight. It's fairly noisy for a week night and we hadn't got any notification about it.

I'm not going to clog up this thread argueing with you are you are clearly an obsessed with parking to the extreme. People may want parkign near Lordship lane and Peckham Rye but that is not the same as need. Peckham Rye is a local park not a tourist attraction therefore it is not unreasonable to assume that the majoirty of the users are very local and therefore can walk or use public transport - the same goes for Lordship lane. Try walking once in a while - you'll be fitter, healthier and much calmer! :)

Umm yes soem people do - we walked/got the bus with my Stepson most places when he was small as we didn't and still don't have a car - we now have a fit, active and independent teenager. I understand it is not always possible but using small children as an excuse for travelly very samll distances by car is pretty much rubbish i think. However my main point was unlike attractions such as the beach Peckham Rye park is a very localised attraction so i stand by my point that the majoirty of people who visit it will be in walking or public transport distance. I'm nt a driver so why should i have to lose some of my local amenity to placate people who can't be bothered to walk to the park - there should be appropriate facilities for a limited amount of parking, prioritising the disabled - that is it. - it is a park not a car park

And whilst i appreciate it is not always an option you could get some of your leisure/exercise by walking to the park - i'd guess Peckham Rye park is a facility mainly used by locals who live within a couple of miles or less.

Regulations are there for a reason - Parking on the pavement is dangerous and causes inconvenience to pedestrians. The better question to ask yourself, before getting all het up about parking, is did you really need to drive to Peckham Rye park in the first place? A large percentage of car journeys in London are of a distance that can easily be walked. This area is also blessed with good public transport - i woudl imagine that your journey to Peckham Rye park was probably less than 2 miles - a distance that could easily be walkd or covered by bus.

Hi James, sorry to bother you again so soon! Whilst i'm happy with the new zebra crossing on East Dulwich rd the accompanying street lights are ridiculously bright. My flat over looks east dulwich rd and my blackout blind has always been adequate. Today they crossing lights were put on and my bedroom is lit up like a Christmas tree! I'm obviously going to have to invest in even more robust window coverings as a consequence. However i'd like to know why Southwark have seen fit to add a load more bright white lights to an already well lit road.

James- Thanks so much for your help. Someone from Southwark Council called me just now and is sorting out my bin issues as i type!

Hi James - i'm not sure if you are actually our councillor (we're right at the Peckham Rye end of East Dulwich Road) however it would be great to have some advice on what to do next. Since April 16th our brown food waste bins have not been emptied and we have received no notes from the bin collectors as to why this is (they have happily collected our green and blue bins) Over the last two weeks we have left the bins out and repeatedly reported it as a missed collection (every day last week!) but still not collection. My last contact was on Friday 22nd when i was told i would now have to wait until Monday before anything could be logged. I asked the people in the call centre if they could check with the people on the ground to see whay it was not being collected but apparently they can't do that. I have also logged a complaint with the corporate complaints team and emailed the waste services division last week but nothing seems to happen. Meanwhile we have bins full of nearly four weeks worth of food waste, which as you can imagine does not smell too good and we have no where to out our new food waste. I am going to try and put the bins out for collection again on our scheduled collection day (Tuesday) and see what happens. However if they are not collected again i'm not sure where else i can turn as the contact centre seem to be very unhelpful and are unable to get to the bottom of the issue. so i woud appreciate some advice on who to contact at Southwark to get this isue fixed (and to get rid of the two bins full of food wste before it gets any warmer!)

This one looks set to run and run. The Observer has a piece about it today. It quite sensibly points out that she can't have a tax break for an expense she doesn't incur, is she going to start moaning about all those businesses that can claim tax back on their expenses? I respect her choice but many cannot afford to have one partner working and i assume the government has decided the country does not want to lose skilled workers from the economy for a fair few years.

To be honest it would be good for the economy as well - she's presumably got a good education paid for or at least subsidised by the state so more producitve use of her skills would be good all round.

she could always go back to work and then she'd get the ?1,200 she's so desperate to get

Lowlander - do you check for CCTV and crime statisits everytime and every place you park your car? what an idiotic thing to say. I'm not expert but surely Sainsburys provide the car park as a facility for their customers and you would think therefore they would have some interest in providing a safe and secure environment for their customers.