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Just out of interest though, what does Nicola or the night nannies do that we can't? What was the 'diagnosis' if you like? And what happens when they're teething or ill? Is it OK for them to have a little relapse?

I got a coffee there yesterday for the first time, although I do like the atmosphere of the caff, I am sorry to say the coffee was god awful. But hey different tastes, different people. There's actually a little cafe in Rye Lane Markets as well which surprisingly enough does a decent coffee for a v reasonable price.

I have a copy if you are still looking for it!

Hi! I have a preemie! 29 weeks, she's almost 9m corrected now. (Medusa - I think I bought your beco carrier off you a while ago..) We spent 7 weeks in NICU/SCBU. Especially in the early days it is nice to meet up with someone who understands the NICU/SCBU situation and your particular worries etc.

The Bear does a great roast! Defo recommend them, but do make a reservation.

Yes. Works for me. Don't worry too much about newborns though. They sleep and don't sleep where ever they damn well please for the first couple of weeks/months. Getting a newborn to sleep in their moses basket/bed nest, rather than on you, should be task no 1. But again, don't fret too much about this sleeping on you thing either. You don't want to miss out on those newborn snuggles!

Hi Does anyone know where I can get NUK teats (First Choice - the wide neck ones) for 6-18m? I am using the 0-6m currently but need to move up a size and the NUK teats don't seem to be stocked by many shops. Before I go visit every pharmacy in SE22/SE15 ... does anyone know who stocks them? Thanks!

I had an unfortunate incident a couple of years ago in Burgess Park on my commute home, this was before its revamp. It was about 6.30pm, quite dark, raining and a couple of youths ran towards me trying to stick an iron bar through my spokes. Needless to say I was shitting myself. They missed and grazed my (gloved) hand and I quick pedalled it out of there but I was v shook up. After that I would detour or wait at the side of the park until other cyclists would arrive.

There is also Groove Baby. They have more folky type stuff bands coming to play in that big church in W Dulwich. http://groovebaby.co.uk/

You could also look in to wedges that are used to position reflux babies, to stop her rolling over. If you google them you will find them.

I never managed to bag one of those child and parent spaces. They're always taken.

I find the scans at the Harris birthright centre v good. They take a lot of time to look at every thing and it is the same service as you would get from a private scan.

The slope at ED station is fine. There is a lift at London Bridge to the right hand side coming out of the main entrance (so straight on after the turnstiles, thru the doors and right)

Mouse poison dries their bodies out, so no stench.

I know this thread is old now but I just wanted to say that NICU/SCBU at King's have 2 fabulous LCs ('the Judes') who are extremely dedicated to get your baby breastfeeding! My experience is that they always had time to come and see you if you had any questions. I have no doubt they will have been on the case. Some of the SCBU nurses are also v good at helping you along. I was personally manhandled on a daily basis by one of them! ;-)

I lost one of my twins six months ago now, so this is a topic very close to my heart. The first week or so I didn't want to see anyone bar my mum and my husband, but I definitely appreciated all the texts and cards, it made me feel supported and like people cared. I appreciated the flowers too, as a way of people trying to be nice, but it was a bit surreal looking at these beautiful flowers (which inevitably then die). My kitchen looked like someone robbed a florist and I definitely had no desire to put them in vases. So send a card or a text instead of flowers I would say. My father in law was a bit at a loss on how to support us. He wanted to be there for his son, but I couldn't bear to have him around. He then showed up one morning with half a garden centre and set out to do our garden, which I thought was extremely lovely. One person, who had lost her daughter full term, sent me a book on grieving, which was helpful for her and I know she meant well, but I wasn't quite sure what to think of it. One couple really stepped up to the plate, she kept sending me messages and somehow she always managed to hit the nail on the head, it was really nice and we got a lot closer over it all. They both made an effort to come and see our other twin (who was in neonatal) both in hospital and at home. They gave us some really thoughtful presents for her (a book on preemies and a bed nest for her incubator) I found it really difficult to know how to behave with people. Some of my friends were pregnant or new mothers and I didn't want to cause them any distress. So I was hesitant to bring up the subject and waited for their cue/questions (which in most cases never came). On the one hand I needed some sense of normality back in my life, talking about mundane stuff, but I also wanted people to know how devastated I was. Lots of my friends said things like 'you are doing so well', and to me that sounded as if they thought I was showing no emotion. They however only saw the 'me' trying to get some normality back in my life and mindful of their feelings. What they didn't see or heard about was the daily crying in the shower (the only place where you can be alone) and the terror of waking up and realising it wasn't a bad dream. I really wanted to talk about her. I wanted people to ask me what she looked like, what went wrong, how I was feeling, what was happening etc. At one point I was arranging the funeral, which was incredibly difficult for me, and I realised that none of my friends actually knew what I was doing. No one bothered to ask and I felt self conscious bringing up the subject ('what have you been up to this week' 'oh, well, I have been looking at tiny coffins, which is offing heartbreaking, and I understand I can only have an ugly closed white coffin, rather than the willow one I wanted, because of ... 'odours' ... as the funeral guy put it.') One of the midwives at King's said 'at least you have another child' and 'we'll see you here again in 18 months'. So yes, I agree with the other poster, bluesuperted, on things not to say, those ones are definitely up there. (All the other midwives at King's were lovely btw) On counselling - almost everyone said 'are you having counselling, you should have counselling'. I found that quite annoying actually. Whatever happened to friends and family supporting you? It always sounded like an excuse to not have to talk to you about potentially upsetting things. And although the grief is enormous and pushes all the breath out of your body it is all part of the normal grieving process. I did find counselling helpful and SANDS are awesome, but what I found most helpful about counselling and SANDS was that I was finally able to talk to someone who didn't recoil or flinch as soon as you talk about a dead baby. I found an article the other day that said that fetal cells of your baby stay behind in your body, somehow I found that a comforting thought, that your baby never really leaves you and always stays with you in that way. It definitely feels that way. Another thought I found comforting was that she had only known love in her life. Someone sent me a poem also, the 'no one knows how my heart sounds from the inside' which still reduces me to tears, so if you are looking for things to write in your card ...

Rye Minicabs provide a car seat if you ask at booking

I know there are various options available for exercise with baby (Powerpramming and Push Studios for example). But I don't like to walk too far to take my exercise :-). I have asked Gaia Studios on Maxted Road whether they would be willing to put on a postnatal pilates class where you could take your baby to, provided I find enough people interested. The time would be Wed at 11.00. I have posted this already in the Autumn Babies FB group, but wanted to cast the net wider to see if there are more mums out there interested. We would need at least 4, max 6. Would you be interested in such a class?

I was planning on going next week ...

Cool! I will send you a PM1

Hi, My husband is keen on raising our baby bilingual (Dutch and English), however I have been out of the Netherlands for so long that I struggle to speak Dutch to our little lady ... long shot but are there any Dutch mums out there that would like to meet up?

My baby had some donor milk at the very start of her life, because I wasn't able to produce milk for her at the time. You are doing an amazing job if you decide to donate to the King's milk bank. You are helping the little babies at the neonatal ward to get the best start! Thank you on behalf of the mums who have babies on the ward.

There's tits on every street corner in ads and mags so bit strange if I would need to keep mine covered!

We will. Covered by our children's mouths.

Good thing I don't have a fast let down ... ! I have done a lot of expressing in the run up (she was in hospital for a while) and my husband used to forget I was expressing in the kitchen and invite people in for cups of tea ... I wasn't too impressed with that! :-)