Suze Cook

We have two more spaces left for our Welcoming Baby Number Two Course. Join other 2nd time parents-to-be on Sunday, 24th November. Take some time out of your busy life to prepare for your next baby. You'll get expert advice on managing life with a newborn and a toddler, managing sibling rivalry, preparing your older child for the big changes ahead as well as a refresh on birth, breastfeeding and the early days. This one day course is led by a very experienced midwife plus a recent 2nd time mum. Our venue is The Vale Practice on Grove Vale. Course cost: ?200 per couple (?180 for East Dulwich Mums). For more information and bookings, please visit our website www.theneopractice.com or email us at [email protected]. Suze

Hi. I run a parents consultancy (we have sleep experts who we work with along with all our other expert consultants) but I also have a 20 month old son who started nursery recently and had a massive separation anxiety phase and essentially did what your son described above and my life became very difficult. I am working flat out on a new business, admittedly I didn't have a new born to deal with but I was struggling none the less. In the end, and it was about 5 weeks that I allowed it to go on for (because I was embarrassed to tell me people I was struggling seeing I run a consultancy dealing in this sort of thing!), I spoke to one of our consultants and her advice was until your child is happier in themselves during the day i.e, less clingy and needy then do whatever you need to do. So I decided to co-sleep with Gabe. This lasted for about 3 weeks and I thought that was it, we had moved in together. But I managed to get some sleep and feel better/stronger and I also felt that he was reassured and felt lots of love/security. Yes, I had a few kicks in the back but at least I slept. When I felt he was past the separation stage and was beginning to call my bluff a little and to be honest it was more about me feeling stronger , I got tough. With my partner's help, we started sleep training on the weekend. By the way, we didn't speak to him at all whilst we were doing it. We reassured him by touch but no words but every consultant has their own technique and whatever you choose, consistency is key. For the first three or four nights, he essentially was up all night, and I mean up all night! And so were we. But we persevered and took it in turns and one of us would wear ear plugs so we could get some rest. It was cracked in about a week and it was amazing to see the transformation in him. He eats more, he's stopped being clingy. He has energy. He is happy. He is sleeping and, we are, and it is such a relief. The other thing some of our experts have advised other parents is to try giving him no sugar before bed time. So no desert with dinner or fruit. I would also start the bedtime routine wind down earlier so that you have a bit more time on your hands to settle him, this will allow you some evening back before no doubt doing a dream feed for your 14 weeks little girl. I wouldn't use white noise or any other sleep association things. He needs to learn to sleep on his own again and he will but if in the meantime, you need to co-sleep with him or your partner sleep in his room, or he has a mattress next to you, then I would just do it because my son is now not pointing to my room anymore, their memories are so small that it's almost he has forgotten that mummy and Gabe moved in together for a while. PS If you can afford it, I would also get a night nurse, even if it just for one or two nights. They can help with your little one but you can also get a night nurse who has experience with toddlers and they will help you a little with them too, only if you want it though. Good luck. I know you have more on your plate than me but you will get through this x

If you are pregnant with your 2nd baby, come along to our Welcoming Baby Number 2 course at The Vale Practice on Sunday, 24th November. Take some time out of your busy life to prepare for your next baby. You'll get expert advice on managing life with a newborn and a toddler, managing sibling rivalry, preparing your older child for the big changes ahead - and meet lovely local parents-to-be. Instead of our usual 3-evening format, this will be a one-day course covering all the same material. Led by a very experienced midwife plus a recent 2nd time mum. Our venue is the Vale Practice next to East Dulwich station. For more information and bookings, please visit our website (www.theneopractice.com) or email [email protected]. Hope you can join us! Suze (http://bit.ly/1h4yo5t)

Calling all second time bumps? If you are pregnant with your second child then we are excited to tell you that The Neo Practice?s Welcoming Baby Number Two Course is coming to The Vale Practice. Potty training, when to move to a big bed, do I need a double buggy, how do I manage with a toddler and a new baby, when will I sleep, how do I avoid/manage sibling rivalry? What have I forgotten to get or prepare for this 2nd baby? The Neo Practice's midwife will cover all this and more! This one day workshop will run on Sunday, 24th November from 10am - 5pm. The course has been developed by The Neo Practice parenting experts and with input from lots of second time parents. You'll get expert advice on managing life with a newborn and a toddler, managing sibling rivalry, preparing your older child for the big changes ahead as well as a refresher on birth and looking after a newborn. You will also have the opportunity to meet lovely local second time parents-to-be. For more information and bookings, please visit www.theneopractice.com or email [email protected]. If you sign up to Neo Membership online then you will automatically receive 10% off course prices. Hope you can join us.

Hi second time bumps. I hope you don't mind me posting on this thread, for some reason I seem to be on it from a while ago and thought you might be interested to know that we are running an antenatal class especially designed for second time parents. For September, we only have two places left and so far we have mums (and some dads) attending from East Dulwich and Crystal Palace. The course has been developed by our Neo Practice parenting experts and with input from lots of second time parents. You'll get expert advice on managing life with a newborn and a toddler, managing sibling rivalry, preparing your older child for the big changes ahead - and meet lovely local second time parents-to-be. It's run over 3 evenings in Crystal Palace, led by a very experienced midwife. For more information and bookings, please visit us at www.theneopractice.com or email [email protected]. We also have a one day Welcoming Baby Number Two course in East Dulwich that is being finalised in the next week or two. This will take place just off Lordship Lane and will likely be in November. Use voucher code EDF for 10% off course prices. Hope you can join us! Suze

Calling all second time bumps? If you are pregnant with your 2nd baby, come along to our Welcoming Baby Number 2 course in September. We have two places left and so far we have mums (and some dads) attending from East Dulwich and Crystal Palace. The course has been developed by our Neo Practice parenting experts and with input from lots of second time parents. You'll get expert advice on managing life with a newborn and a toddler, managing sibling rivalry, preparing your older child for the big changes ahead - and meet lovely local second time parents-to-be. It's run over 3 evenings in Crystal Palace, led by a very experienced midwife. For more information and bookings, please visit us at www.theneopractice.com or email [email protected]. Use voucher code EDF for 10% off course prices. Hope you can join us! Suze

Potty training, when to move to a big bed, do I need a double buggy, how do I manage with a toddler and a new baby, when will I sleep, how do I avoid/manage sibling rivalry? What have I forgotten to get or prepare for this 2nd baby? We cover all this and more in our Welcoming Baby Number 2 course, just for parents expecting their 2nd baby. Next course, closest to ED, is running in Crystal Palace (on the Triangle) over 3 evenings (2 hours each) in September (16th, 23rd and 30th Sep). Just a couple of places now left. East Dulwich Forum mums price of ?144 per couple or individual (normally ?180). Please contact me if you'd like to know more or book your place. Come and meet some other lovely local mums from ED, Crystal Palace, Brockley etc who are also pregnant with their 2nd babies. [email protected] See www.facebook.com/theneopractice for more about us and course recommendations.

Potty training, when to move to a big bed, do I need a double buggy, how do I manage with a toddler and a new baby, when will I sleep, how do I avoid/manage sibling rivalry? What have I forgotten to get or prepare for this 2nd baby? We cover all this and more in our Welcoming Baby Number 2 course, just for parents expecting their 2nd baby. Next course running in Crystal Palace (on the Triangle) over 3 evenings (2 hours each) in April (15th, 17th and 22nd April). Just a couple of places now left. East Dulwich Forum mums price of ?144 per couple or individual (normally ?180). Please contact me if you'd like to know more or book your place. Come and meet some other lovely local mums who are also pregnant with their 2nd babies. [email protected] See www.facebook.com/theneopractice for more about us