Strawbs Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Wow Im shocked at the legs this thread has.. > > No one should have to justify why they are wanting to meet up > with a particular group of people - full stop. > This is the key point for me. As a gay man I relate to the OP's reaction to being questioned in such a away, even if it was not intended to be offensive. Much has been said that presents a fair interpretation of the OPs reaction. And Scruffy Mummy;s comments were particularly insightful. Most gay people I know have suffered many challenges in life that heterosexual people never have to face, the comming out process, isolation, depression, rejection from family and friends. I for instance was never able to tell my parents until I knew I was financially independant of them just in case I was ostracised and cut out from thehe family. I have friend who have suffered as much if not worse. Because gay peoples experiences are in part 'different' we do sometimes want to hang out with people of a shared experience for mutual understanding and support. So I was not suprised at the OP's reaction to questions that asked her to justify her choices even if they were innocent, though I thought the question belayed the questioner's ignorannce and I guess I may have reacted in a similar way it had been directed at me.
