SeanMacGabhann Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > > liked that TT > > Good post by indiepanda btw - and not the first > either > > I've chatted with Keef on this subject before and > feel similarly - but many of the parents from the > forum have definitely given me hope (as it were) thanks Sean. Good to hear you have hope. I have rare moments of hope. But I reckon I should go one step at a time and find a nice boyfriend before I work too hard on this issue! CitizenED - yes totally agree about the fear of a child being disabled. I know the truth is people find that its amazing what they can cope with when they have to - but given a choice any parent would wish for a healthy child. Somewhat selfishly I think what scares me most is the possibility of post natal depression. My mum has suffered from depression on and off all my life and has always told me having kids was what caused it. I discovered some years after she said this she'd be on valium in her 20s and didn't have me till she was in her 30s, so it can't really be down to the children. Though when I challenged her on that she said it was so much worse after having children. Having grown up feeling blamed for my mum's unhappiness, the fear of not wanting to end up in the same situation doing the same to my kids is very powerful. My sister has been with her husband for some 13 years, and she doesn't have any desire to have children either - suspect this is no coincidence.