indiepanda

Should I stay or should I go - The Clash

Stay (I missed you) Lisa Loeb

Stay the Night - Ghosts

Everyone likes going to a house party.... not everyone likes hosting. If I think about inviting a large group of friends over for a party rather than a smaller group over for dinner, I then start to picture red wine spilt on my nice light coloured sofas. Or on the landlord's carpet. Or having rows with the neighbours about noise.... wimpish I know!

I think we're alone now - Tiffany

aren't the rules you link on the song title not artist?

Too Much - Spice Girls

enough with the marmalade, all this sweetness is making me feel sick! just to finish the job off, lets have the really sickly... Lady in red - Chris De Burgh

Lady Marmalade - Labelle

Lady Madonna - The Beatles

Day Tripper - The Beatles

tomatoes

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Tank

Song 2 - Blur

SeanMacGabhann Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > > liked that TT > > Good post by indiepanda btw - and not the first > either > > I've chatted with Keef on this subject before and > feel similarly - but many of the parents from the > forum have definitely given me hope (as it were) thanks Sean. Good to hear you have hope. I have rare moments of hope. But I reckon I should go one step at a time and find a nice boyfriend before I work too hard on this issue! CitizenED - yes totally agree about the fear of a child being disabled. I know the truth is people find that its amazing what they can cope with when they have to - but given a choice any parent would wish for a healthy child. Somewhat selfishly I think what scares me most is the possibility of post natal depression. My mum has suffered from depression on and off all my life and has always told me having kids was what caused it. I discovered some years after she said this she'd be on valium in her 20s and didn't have me till she was in her 30s, so it can't really be down to the children. Though when I challenged her on that she said it was so much worse after having children. Having grown up feeling blamed for my mum's unhappiness, the fear of not wanting to end up in the same situation doing the same to my kids is very powerful. My sister has been with her husband for some 13 years, and she doesn't have any desire to have children either - suspect this is no coincidence.

Time after time - Cyndi Lauper

What I want to know is why someone who is 34FF felt they needed a padded bra?? Are they scared by the sight of their feet perhaps??

No, I agree. But I would have thought I would notice something furry against my skin. Not that likely I'll get a chance to prove it of course!

I saw this on BBCi and had to share, made me laugh. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/norfolk/7496923.stm how could anyone wear their bra for 5 hours without noticing there was something alive in there??

dossier.... should I be scared? ;-)

Hit me baby one more time - Britney Spears

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So many comments that resonate for me - whoever it was that said it was odd asking "do you like children?" as if they are all the same is so right. No one would expect you to like all adults so why you should like all children is beyond me. I can remember having some miserable times at school with bullying and bitching - not sure those children were exactly likeable. I know exactly what Keef means about being able to be spontaneous and have great nights out without a month of planning. Without exception all my friends with children rarely go out for the evening. And even if they did few seem to be able to stay up after 10 so bit of a waste of money paying for a babysitter to go out for such a short time! Definately true having kids doesn't need to cost a fortune - when I was a kid we didn't have computer games, TVs in our room, shop bought clothes ( we had home made or market stall), holidays abroad etc, but I don't feel like I missed out on that. I'd have liked it if we had the money for music lessons or something like that though. But some parents these days do seem to overload their kids with classes... seem to forget they need to have time to just be kids. At least once the homework was done my time was my own. When I think about my friends with kids (which is most of my long standing friends) some seem pretty happy and have managed to retain an identity beyond being a parent, can even see it's brought out the best in them - and one I would say that about wasn't planning a family. But some... I don't think they would ever admit it, but they don't seem as happy now and their world seems to have narrowed to the point they don't want to talk about anything other than children - conversations become somewhat one way. I might surprise myself and meet a guy I could think of as being reliable enough to be a father (I seem to have a talent for picking men who I wouldn't trust to post a letter for me never mind be a parent), or maybe life will throw a curveball my way... can't say never yet. But if I were a betting woman, I'd put money on me staying child free. The fear of turning into my mum is a powerful incentive to be careful with the contraception. I love her, but she isn't a very happy person.

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