stress_head

Loz Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > stress_head Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > They are not asking if it is any good, they are > asking > > if you want to buy it. > > I think you are being harsh - they are asking if > you like it, it fits you, you like the colour or > the style - all of which they can assist you with. > "Any good?" covers these quite succinctly. Harsh? Yes obviously it is, as well as entirely irrational....

Otta Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Better than saying "couldn't get it done up, > huh?". Not really, at least that would be honest. They are not asking if it is any good, they are asking if you want to buy it. It can be good but you may not want to buy it. Prob a cultural thing but to me it seems mad to ask a different question than what you want answered. Irrational rage in its full glory.

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Shop assistants that say "any good?" after you have tried something on when they really mean "are you buying that or what?" My non UK mother gets caught out every time and answers politely "yes very nice thank you" whilst handing it back to said shop assistant who then without fail gives her a dirty look in return.

Thank you all for your input, it is very useful and has been an eye opener I have to say. I guess there has been a lot going on: traumatic birth and postnatal period, sudden death of my relative who was like a brother to me, a boss who bullied me after my return frm mat leave as well as my father's illness. It IS a lot, I realise that. And perhaps I have developed a minimising approach to some extent. For me though part of this is "normal" as my father is born with a heart condition so I am brought up with his life being in danger on regular intervals. I have vivid memories from us going to say goodbye to him on several occasions as a child so this is "normal" for me. It never gets any easier mind, we are extremely close. As I wrote above I am no stranger to anxiety and depression and would recognise those symptoms I am sure. This does sincerely feel very different, which is bewildering. I do feel ok emotionally and the majority of events have passed for now. My dad is stableish, my boss has been relocated after my concerns were finally taken seriously at work. Knomesters experience has struck a chord with me though, perhaps that is what is going on. I will certainly investigate and explore this further. Everyone's thoughts are very interesting, thank you for taking the time to respond and to all the lovely PM's as wells. If anyone does have names of professionals you think might be able to help I would be grateful. Conventional pr alternative therapies, willing to give most things ago. Also - I am determined to get into an excerise routine again, several of the PM's have pointed this out.

StraferJack, I think what I was trying to say is that my life is as most people's pretty hectic, but I dont think it is not unsually so. Yes, I work in the city, but part time and try not to take work home with me for example. What I am trying to say is that I am somewhat bewildered at these quite extreme physical reactions to a life which is not unusually stressful if that makes sense. I think about all the people that I know that work longer hours, have more children, bigger problems etc and they cope just fine. Having had pretty recent experience of depression and anxiety following the birth of my child 2 1/2 years ago, I feel that emotionally I am in a pretty good place now and so all these physical symptoms are at odds with how I feel mentally if that makes sense. Knomester, that is so interesting with the ulcers - I experienced exactly this in the beginning of the year when my father was in intensive care. Mentally I was on autopilot and "fine" but physically I was a mess and I remember the ulcers very clearly. I do have a mouthguard but I have managed to chew that down too (gross I know) and the consultant said that sometimes it encourages you to grind your teeth harder. I am not overly keen on surgery to my jaw I have to admit but I need the pain to stop. I can hardly open my mouth at the moment it is so painful. Thank you for all your comments - it is really useful.

Thank you everyone, it is touching really that people take the time to respond. I problably should have clarified that I am not adverse at all to taking medication and/or conventional therapy such as CBT, in fact I am an advocate for both and found it very helpful for my postnatal issues. The thing is that at the moment, I feel fine emotionally - I dont feel stressed or anxiour or depressed but clearly my body does, I realise this must sound pretty daft. Belle, interesting what you are saying about how anxiety might have become my new normal - I havent thought of that but it would make sense.

I am a regular user of the family room forum but changed username for this, am not really sure why. Anyway, I am after some advice from people who have suffered from severe chronic stress or "burn out". To cut a long story short I have been treated for a variety of problems since my pregnancy 3 years ago such as PND, PTSD following a difficult labour, some inflammatory problems, iron def, insomnia, hair loss, unexplained weight gain etc etc. What has now hit me like a ton of bricks is a severe and acute pain in my jaw, resulting from constant grinding of my teeth. It seems like this can be resolved by keyhole surgery (great...), more cortisone injections and some osteopathy. But, the consultant sat me down and said that I really need to take stock and try to get to the bottom of what he feels is chronic stress. He said quite rightly that I need to be around for years for our young child and that my body is giving me warning signs that things are not well. High blood pressure, weight gain, and high cholesterol are a few other "warining signs". Clearly, this cant go on and this is the tricky bit. How does one resolve stress? Your life is what it is, no? Work, financial pressure, the work/motherhood balance, illness and death of relatives - that is part of life - for everyone- is it not? I do not think that my life is any more stressful than most womens so why is it that my body has decided it is not coping? It feels abit indulgent to say "I am stressed", almost attention seeking. Whilst I am very much a get on with it kind of person, I am certainly no unrealistic overachiever, I don't "feel stressed" or even anxious but clearly my body does? So, to try and help my body "fix this" where do I start? Diet and supplements? Alternative therapies? Sorry for the essay, but I am at a loss on how to fix this one and would love to hear from people who can relate, or share their experiences. Many thanks for reading, if you managed to get this far.