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Congrats to you all! If any of you are interested, I have various new baby/pregnancy items for sale in the family room classified section: http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?25,1079710

Congrats to you all! If any of you are interested, I have various new baby/pregnancy items for sale in the family room classified section: http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?25,1079710

I managed to keep my supply going when my baby was in hospital for two weeks and couldn't feed. I just pumped on a schedule which mimicked a newborn (she was 9 days old). So pumping in the evening should work for you. Remember though that a pump is not as efficient as a baby. So maybe pump for a bit longer than your child would feed. I didn't bother with galactagogues ie fenugreek, fennel, oats etc (although fennel tea and oat milk are my current favs), but you could experiment a bit with them, if needed? If your supply has dwindled, when you return, you could get a prescription for Domperidone - it's an anti-sickness medication, a side effect of which is increased supply. GPs can prescribe it for this secondary purpose. Good luck.

We will be there. Need to escape from the boxes!

Just wanted to say a really big thanks for all these messages and PMs. It really helped. I took her to see Babu Vadamayalan in the end, which at least reassured me that I am doing everything that I can. I had already been in touch with both Clare and Katie, who are great and gave me some other ideas too. Thankfully she's having a better few days at the mo.

Can anyone recommend one? Happy to pay privately. Feeling a bit desperate. My 9 week old daughter has silent reflux and has now had several days of not really feeding well (she's BF). When she sucks hard, it makes her gag. Her current regime of medication is clearly not working. I'm sick of being fobbed off by the GP.

Just wanted to say thanks to all who posted and pm'd. After a very long 2 weeks Kings, my baby is finally home (she got a secondary pneumonia). Now she's home all seems to be going ok, including BF. It was reassuring to hear of others who had been through it too.

My baby girl was born nearly two weeks ago. Sadly she has spent the last 5 days on Kings children's ward (with a brief trip to high dependency unit). She has an infection of her airways (Bronchiolitis) caused by the common cold virus. With lots of medical intervention to support her breathing she is slowly recovering. We will be here several more days. Just wondered if anyone else has been through this and has any words of wisdom? In particular about re-establishing breastfeeding (she has been nil by mouth/ fed by naso gastric tube but I'm pumping regularly and have a lactation consultant that I'm in touch with)? Also, wondering about the level of care I will need to give her once home (I already have a 2 1/2 year old boy and am still recovering from a c section)? Obviously these are all questions I will be asking the various medical professionals too.

Hello! I've only ever managed to make one of these meet ups way back in the summer. But I'm finally on maternity leave (due with number 2 in a few weeks). I feel like I might be the only one who is still pregnant... Anyway, I look forward to meeting some of you this morning. Oh yes, and many congrats to those who've had their babies. Jess xx PS Katie's mum (who's at Asquith Waveney Av), if you're reading this, I'm Cato's mum. Can you PM your mobile number. Would be great to meet up. I think you're now on maternity leave too?

Sparkle pm'd me to say she's restarting her Kodaly based classes in September. http://sparkle-music.co.uk/

Me too. I would like to know about Rye Oak. Not sure I really understand the need for it all to be via PM? But happy to hear via either method. Thanks

I've just emailed Jurand (there was a PM to me with a separate email address in it) to see if we can get a class going. Hopefully, Jurand will come back on here soon and reply!

That sounds great! Do you have any idea yet where, when, costs etc? My preference would be for a Friday or Saturday morning. If possible, I would also like to be able to do a trial session - I have no idea if my son (aged 2) is going to enjoy it.

Been meaning to join this thread for a while. I'm due on 19 Nov with my second. My son will be 2 1/2 when baby number two arrives. Would love to join you all on 30 June - park sounds good. I have to be somewhere else from 12 - 1pm that day, but should be able to fit around whatever the plans are.

Thanks for the all these helpful messages and pms. Definitely a bit of food for thought and investigation. I had clocked the Roehampton and Shooters Hill classes, but like others concluded that it seemed a bit unrealistic for me to travel that far on a regular basis. Apparently there's also a really good class in Richmond. Such a shame that there isn't anything a bit closer. If I do manage to track down anyone local who teaches Kodaly, I'll try and persuade them to set up a local class! Sparkle I would be interested to hear about the resources and teachers you mention. I doubt I have the musical skills to do sessions with my son (keen violinist until university but nothing since), but my sister (professional violinist) might be persuadeable. Thanks again.

Great, thanks very much. Do you have any more details about the place in Wimbledon (can't seem to track it down via Google)?

Does anyone know of any local Colour Strings (i.e. Kodaly method) music teachers or classes? Wanted for my 2 year old son. Looking for classes on a Friday or weekend. Thanks

Really sorry to hear about the problems you're having. I haven't had a prolapse but did have a 3rd degree tear as a result of my son's birth. It was repaired really well at the time and the aftercare was good. Kings are very good and have a good reputation. I was seen subsequently by Mr Bidmead and a very good gynae physio. Both were very sympathetic and knowledgeable. Mr Bidmead practises privately at the London Bridge Hospital I think, if you can bear forking out to see him sooner. I know these kind of health problems can be a bit of a lonely business, hence this post. Another good source of info and support are the ragged bits or rectocele/cystocele threads on mumsnet.

Snowboarder and Kemurf thanks for the suggestions. I will go and investigate. Snowboarder, it would be great if you could try out your nearly three year old in your mountain buggy and report back! Sunbob - the spectacular fail - one of the front wheels fell off when we were running, causing the other front wheel to jam. The buggy flipped and my son landed face first in a concrete path. Sadly, he had to have his top front tooth removed but he was otherwise fine. It's probably worth regularly checking the integrity of the wheels. I think it might have been some kind of systematic fault rather than wear and tear. Although if you're walking with it slowly and carefully, if the wheel fell off, it's unlikely to be quite as dramatic.

My son is nearly 2 and is big for his age (wears 3 year old clothes and is over 16kg and around 95cm tall). Our previous buggy (Baby Jogger City Mini) failed quite spectacularly and we're looking for a replacement. I want it as general purpose buggy - going to and from nursery, trips around the park etc. Might be nice to have an umbrella fold or one that folds smaller than the BJCM. Might possibly use for a subsequent child. I'm really struggling to find a replacement. My son seems to be out of the weight range for most of the buggies (which I could live with) but the biggest problem is that the straps, even when fully extended, don't fit him or give very little room for growth. My son is not that keen on walking, so we may need the buggy for a while. Any recommendations on buggies? Or has anyone else solved this problem by doing a DIY job on the straps to extend them further? Thanks

Thanks I did realise this. But the problem was not so much the running as the fact that the wheel fell off without warning.

Thanks for all the replies and pms. Sadly my son had his tooth extracted this morning by the Kings paediatric dentistry team, but at least it is now sorted. The care we received there was excellent (can't quite say the same about the out of hours dentistry service provided by SELDOC). For those with a Babyjogger City Mini buggy - it's probably worth regularly checking the wheels, particularly if you run with it. I will be emailing the manufacturer too. I wouldn't want anyone else to end up in our situation. Thanks again.

My nearly 2 year old son had a nasty accident today (the wheel came off his buggy and it flipped, whilst we were out running). He's fractured his top front tooth. He's been seen by the emergency dentist at Kings, but may need more treatment. Can anyone recommend a paediatric dentist - doesn't matter if private, NHS, local or central London? Thanks

There has been a a bit of discussion above of various lotions and potions and gadgets that might help prevent a tear. I wouldn't rule any of them out altogether, but I am doubtful if they would have made any difference for me. Even for perineal massage, there is no conclusive evidence that it will prevent a tear but it's still worth doing, just in case (this is what my Lanes midwife told me). The risk factors for a 3rd/4th degree tear identified by the Royal College are: birth weight over 4 kg persistent occipitoposterior position nulliparity induction of labour epidural second stage longer than 1 hour shoulder dystocia midline episiotomy forceps delivery I say all of this because one source of anguish for me has been the question of why did it happen to me and what could I have done differently. The reality is that most of the above factors are well beyond your control. The good news is that for second timers two of the above factors can either be dismissed (nulliparity) or have a very reduced risk (assisted delivery). Re: assisted delivery, the consultant I saw in the perineal clinic the chances of an assisted delivery second time around are very small. I also wanted to add, in case anyone is reading this who is recovering from a 3rd degree tear, that although I spent a while in surgery after my son's birth and lost a fair bit of blood, my physical recovery was quick, painless and straightforward. I am completely asymptomatic.

I will be watching this thread with interest. I had a 3b tear and am contemplating whether to have a second child. My tear was caused by a variety of factors: ventouse delivery so no opportunity for things to stretch; baby was large (9lb 4) relative to me and was not optimally positioned - initially ROP and born with his hand under his shoulder. I refused an episiotimy as I had read that tears heal better than cuts and even if they cut you, you can still tear on top of the cut. I've been doing a bit of research for myself and have the following info: If you've had a 3rd degree tear, the chances of another 3rd degree tear are increased. 3% of women for first delivery and 5% (also seen 10% somewhere) for 2nd child where first was a 3rd degree tear. The main issue with giving birth vaginally after a 3rd degree tear is the risk of incontinence in later life. Royal College of Obstetricians advises that if you have had a previous third degree tear you have between a 17% and 24% chance of developing some degree of bowel problems eg incontinence/urgency following a second VB even if you don't tear. http://www.rcog.org.uk/womens-health/clinical-guidance/management-third-and-fourth-degree-perineal-tears-green-top-29 This is the real clincher for me re: opting for an elective section. Both being pregnant and giving birth vaginally have an impact on existing damage and continence in later life. Things also get worse post menopause when you lose pelvic tone due to hormonal changes. A gyanae physio that I saw at Kings said that you can have a scan done to assess the extent of the 'deficit' in your perineum. However, what is evident on the physiology does not always reflect reality. People with little damage on the scan can have lots of problems and vice versa. The physio told me that when pregnant you can ask for a referral to the perineal clinic/gynaecology for advice on birth options, ask for the above scan of the perineum and ask for late scan of the baby to check birth weight. She also said if giving birth vaginally, to focus on perineal massage and on pelvic floor exercises before and after the birth and to ask for a prescription for the hormonal cream to apply asap after the birth to help plump up the tissue and speed up recovery. Sorry this sounds so negative. Good luck with your decision! It's very hard to know what is the best option.