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It's just because you haven't met the right man, LB (*pitiful nod*)


I can only pray that - one day - you find the right man for you and you then get all the tax incentives and extra legal protection you rightly deserve as a result of signing on the dotted line.

My dad, a divorced, divorce lawyer with some high profile scalps and a long and happy second marriage once said to me: "Marriage is a great institution son, but don't try to intellectualise it. Because on many practical and financial levels it makes no sense whatsoever". Word, Dad.


This after I'd asked him why my best mates wife, after badly cheating on him 12 months in, was now entitled to 50% of all his net assets.....


I believe that you can give a child a stable upbringing without a bit of paper, spending ?15,000 on one day and an automatic login to the John Lewis website. That said, that's just my rather unromantic view of the process and many good friends of mine would disagree.


But we're off topic - this is about the impact of wedding spend in marginal, regional economies in particular- to which I say it must absolutely, have a good and positive effect.

MrBen Wrote:

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> I believe that you can give a child a stable

> upbringing without a bit of paper..


Not if your partner will be forced to sell the family home should one of you happen to kick the bucket.

My original post was meant to be a light hearted swipe at the cost of being a guest at a wedding. Seems to have sparked off a very different debate.


For what it's worth I believe in marriage, like being married, I see it as a good model for bringing up children and find that most of my friends feel the same. Even the three divorces in my close circle of friends of almost 40 year's standing have resulted in two re-marriages and one permanent partnership.


On the whole I therefore believe marriage is a force for the good, should be supported and applauded as such. Bad marriages are clearly a bad thing for everyone involved but today's divorce laws make separating simple - even if divvying up the assets can be a problem.

A good wedding is a celebration and recognition of the 2 people who pledge to spend the rest of their lives together. it is a way of getting family and friends together who you know and love and don't see very often (-sometimes-) I only see most of my family at weddings christenings and funerals. Not many christenings now and I prefer weddings. They give me quite a high with all that LOVE stuff in the air. Keep them coming I say- just don't make them so big and complicated.:)

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