Relationship advice

[dulwichjigsawpuzzler]

No, this is not a wind up.

Thanks Saffron for your input, much appreciated

This has actually brought a smile to my face - the songs made me laugh.

@Sue, please warm up don't be so cold it's cold enough outside!

[peckham_ryu]

dulwichjigsawpuzzler Wrote:

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> We have tried counseling however things have not

> improved.

>

> Is it time to walk away?

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> Walking away will mean much upheaval like taking

> our daughter out of school and selling the house.

You have tried to improve matters with counselling. Would you like permission to walk away now?

We really can't give you permission. Only you can. If there is a better option, you will already know what it is. But if walk away is your best option now, it sounds like you want to plan things to minimise the upheaval for your girl.

None of us can know what you need to do now. Whether your decision will be stay or go, I wish you strength to take it, and a happier future. x

[dulwichjigsawpuzzler]

Hi Peckham_Ryu, no I am not looking for permission to walk away as that is a decision that I, and I alone have to make but relationships need a number of key elements to thrive, stay strong and last the duration. Good communication, intimacy, not meaning sex, and making time for each other are 3 of the key elements, in my opinion, a relationship needs to thrive.

[P.O.U.S.theWonderCat]

The way your original post read I can see why PR interpreted that way. You've not indicated anything that shows that you might be contributing to the situation too, and specifically have asked if it is time to walk away.

[malumbu]

If anonymous don't see any probs sharing.

Sadly I don't have the answer but imagine many relationships are like this.

Do try 'Relate' if no one else has suggested, I am sure that is used to be free. Of course both of you will want to do this.

https://www.relate.org.uk/about-us/faqs/how-much-does-counselling-cost

I thought that going to relate was compullsory before you could get a divorce. Not that I am suggesting the latter but thought that successive governments were keen on stable relationships. It was of course once the mariage guidance council.

Actually just had a quick look at the home page and looks really useful in a variety of circumstances.

Whats worse is that I should be tidying up which helps marital harmony and what am I doing? Meddling. Nuff said!