Irresponsible dog walker

[JohnL]

It's just like that Sainsburys TV advert.

I knew he was a bad dog.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYeuGuiExwk

[Lynne]

Just a comment, Louisa, just a comment. Calm down, dear.

[Rose79]

Thank you to everyone who has actually understood the reason for this thread.

Louisa well done to you if you would approach someone with a dog while with a child, you must think your a better person for that.

[Alan Medic]

Louisa Wrote:

> a) what makes you think the dog wouldn't follow?

> If this person is so horrified that a seemingly

> un-threatening animal is being annoying, why not

> hush the animal in a gentle and friendly way back

> to its owner and laugh it off.

> b) it doesn't have to be a horrible confrontation,

> it could be a friendly encounter. She could loudly

> make the dog walker/owner actually realise that

> it's not OK to let this happen.

> c) you, like others, assume confrontation has to

> be a 'bad ' thing. It doesn't at all.

> d) and on what basis do you think it won't? But

> simply choosing to ignore, and not actively

> seeking a solution, the same will happen again,

> will it not?

>

> Now, why don't some of you on here, particularly

> those who come in screaming me and others down for

> "attacking" the OP, actually contribute to the

> situation by offering some handy advice for future

> situations like this. Some people just like to

> shit stir on here. Others think doing nothing is

> better than resolution.

>

> Louisa.

Confrontation does not equal encounter. Confrontation is a bad thing.

[Huggers]

I'm with Rose on this one and also feel sorry for the people who paid for those other dogs to be walked - the ones who were confined to a park bench while the walker did their negligent thing and just sat there.

[nxjen]

It surprise me Louisa that you haven't yet made the connection that confrontation can lead to counter-confrontation and aggression. Unless of course that's your intention.

[Louisa]

Perhaps my choice of words has been misunderstood. My version of confrontation, doesn't have to involve shouting or being rude to someone, it often means happily approaching someone with a smile and just requesting that they do something about a situation they are/should be, in control of. What's more worrying, on this forum, is that many of you fail to make that connection. Hence people like the OP and others, would rather rant on here than confront a situation head on, thus potentially preventing a similar situation from re-occurring. I think it ludcrious that some seem to jump to the bizarre conclusion a dog walker may pull a knife on them, it's just crazy thinking. Sorry but that's my opinion.

Louisa.

[nxjen]

Well, this may be your meaning of the word confrontation but the Oxford Dictionary of English definition is a "hostile or argumentative situation or meeting between two opposing parties." Doesn't say anything about a smile or "just requesting".

Anyway, if you're criticising the OP for ranting on the forum about an occurrence rather than "confronting" the issue in real life, can I quote the following"

" ...ignorant self righteous mother on a phone, who you've just stepped out of the way for to let her and her oversized pram pass by on the narrow footpath of Adys RD, refuses to acknowledge your goodwill by saying thankyou, kiss your arse or anything else. Ignorant cow. Bugger off back to Clapham!"

[Rose79]

Well well well Louisa looks like your being hypocritical, one rule for others and another for yourself. Make me laugh. If you don't like people ranting on here our having an opinion of their own then maybe you shouldn't be on here. Your a little trouble maker looking to cause upset.

I will always stand by my opinion and if I was in the sam situation again I would NOT confront the person. How do I know the dog walker would not attack me or the dogs. We live in very unpredictable Society now, all you have to do is switch the news on to realise that.

[Louisa]

Ahhh but you see - the key difference is, I do almost always confront situations head on. Very rarely do I walk on by. The other difference in this context, which nxjen subtly fails to acknowledge, I was just dealing with a fairly lighthearted moment of ignorance, which was on a mostly tongue in cheek thread. You Rose79, made this thread to specifically call out a specific dog walker for what you believed to be a serious intrusion of your afternoons privacy in the park. Both completely different scenarios being compared, undoubtedly self righteous EDF finger waging effect. Do you get a gold star on this forum every time some historical post of mine is dragged up to whack me around the head? Very tiresome.

Louisa.

[nxjen]

Oh, the "I was only joking" defence

[Louisa]

Rose79 Wrote:

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> How do I know the dog walker would not

> attack me or the dogs. We live in very

> unpredictable Society now, all you have to do is

> switch the news on to realise that.

And the above statement summarises perfectly the point KK and I were initially making. Rather than look for the best in society, you make some dubious and peculiar comparison between calling out someone for being rude and ignorant in a public setting, with the state of our society today and how it's unpredictability (what that means I have no idea?), could result in something terrible happening. Yes horrible stuff does happen, does it happen all the time? NO, chances of it happening to you? Extremely slim to none at all. As a society we have become extremely insular, why not embrace others in the community and look for the best in a bad situation? The lady who rudely didn't acknowledge my letting her pass the other week, may be a lovely person having a bad day. Maybe she felt bad afterwards. Who knows? I'm not going to hold it against her! Look for the best in people and maybe they'll respond in a positive way.

Louisa.

[Louisa]

nxjen Wrote:

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> Oh, the "I was only joking" defence

Ok calm down, you'll get your praise from the usual suspects soon.

Louisa.