David Cameron attack on absent fathers

[Jessie]

fair enough. We avoided the courts, thankfully.

[Ridgley]

SJ Wrote

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"A bloke" is bound to have sympathy with someone he believes is being picked on.

But DJ shouldn't feel picked upon. ANYONE who comes out with a strident tone couple with opinions such as those expressed here is going to get pulled-up

I agree we all entitled to our points of view pulling someone up on a comment is different from picking a fight for the sake of it. Some people may feel a little bullied and some like myself have a skin like a badger backside and can deal with it and give a fuck.

[Loz]

I imagine that saved all parties a lot of heartache and a lot of money, Jessie. If only all separated parents could be that mature about their children's well-being.

[Moos]

I am forever grateful that my divorced parents were very fair about shared custody, or as fair as you can be when you live on different continents, and never never bad-mouthed each other, although both had plenty of mud to throw if they'd chosen to. I think we could have grown up very differently without their self-restraint and maturity.

[Ridgley]

I agree unfortunately there are some spiteful mothers who don't allow access and as you say Loz can be very expensive to sort out. It a pity there is no law that I am a ware of where if feckless fathers don?t support there children but when they reach adult age they can claim back payments especially if the father moves on to a new relationship and has a new family and is now in a better financial position or if the father goes a broad as well.

This happen to a friend of mine her father left her mother when she was 2 years old now he lives a broad in a multi million mansion never supported his child at all and according to my friend her mother never moved away and she never denied access. Her mother did a great job she is a lovely person.

[KidKruger]

Ridgley - No expense will deliver equal (or almost equal) parenting if there's a spiteful Mother. The courts do not enforce shared parenting. It relies almost solely on the Mother's inclination. It really is a travesty.

This is a big issue in UK legal system, we're behind France and (say) Sweden so I hear.

[ClareC]

There are spiteful fathers too..... In an ideal world parents put their personal feelings aside and do what is best for the children, sadly, some (mothers and fathers) struggle with this.

I believe David Cameron's commentS were directed at those fathers who choose to be absent, not the ones who have it forced upon them. Also they should apply to absent mothers too, although this is more of a rarity.