Anyone's child going to an (end of primary) prom?

[emc]

Hello

Primary school proms are apparently the new 'thing' in town and, to celebrate the end of summer term, I am looking to film with some children who will be attending one of these proms...if anyone's child/children is attending and fancy taking part in a bit filming of preparations/the prom pls PM me for more info...

thanks so much

[Carbonara]

Oh, yuk at 'Prom' for primary school children.

No, thank goodness this hideous pretension has not reached our friendly down-to-earth primary, which will be celebrating in a way made traditional over years within the school - no imported American HSM nonsense here!

I would rather see a film of the idiosyncratic, individual traditions within each school. But good luck!

[tiddles]

I know I sound like a complete old bat but I cannot bear this "prom" business. It is an americanism that I cannot stand!!

A 'leaving school disco/party' I can deal with - what the heck does 'prom' stand for anyway.

gets back to knitting and cocoa....

[Gidget]

Proms in the US are for high school students, not primary school ones. Junior prom, age 16-17, senior prom 17-18. Thankfully the one in the film Carrie, starring Sissy Spacek isn't typical! They are dances where the students dress formally, are picked up and given a corsage by their date/escort. I have never heard of a primary school prom!

[Mrs TP]

EMC - what's your angle on this?

[Gidget]

Mrs TP Wrote:

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> EMC - what's your angle on this?

She works for Daybreak on ITV.......famous for their mash-up programming.

[hellosailor]

I do agree it's absolutely hideous to bring this prom stuff to primary schools, yuk!

[nunheadmum]

I saw a photo the other day of a friend's daughter going off to her primary prom (in Scotland!) and couldn't believe how grown up she looked. And her mum is definitely not one to try and make her girls grow up too fast but I guess it's hard to stop it for such a 'special occasion' when all her friends are doing it. But it just seemed wrong to see a 12 year old looking like a 20 year old. She looked beautiful but it just wasn't right.

I do wonder who has fuelled the concept? Those who make the money out of servicing the market I suspect.

I'm joining Tiddles with my knitting......

[civilservant]

I agree - a primary school prom is an especially weird idea.

Dressing "formally" at age 11? Whose idea? Where are they the new 'thing' in town?

Seems like a classic example of the creeping ITV-isation of popular culture. I wouldn't want my daughter at a school that supported this kind of thing

[Carbonara]

nunheadmum Wrote:

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> I do wonder who has fuelled the concept? Those

> who make the money out of servicing the market I

> suspect.

>

The renters of 'limos' and 'hummers'.

Ugh.

[Mrs TP]

Thanks Gidget.

Despite the extensive debate we could have around proms at any education level I for one do not want any more 'oh let's all laugh at these people' type programs under the guise of serious documentary.

Would prefer more of Kittysailing's fab series on the history of London streets.

[Carbonara]

Mrs T - I agree.

[gwod]

Our has a leavers disco. I asked my 11 year old what she was going to wear and she said she was thinking of going as a cow. They are not ready to dress formally, it is an adult construct!

[parkview]

"she said she was thinking of going as a cow" - that made me laugh, gwod - congratulations on your down to earth daughter. Otherwise I agree with the sentiment here - I saw this photo recently in a newspaper and it just makes me feel sad:

http://www.castlefortjmischool.co.uk/2011/07/prom/prom-2011-020-copy/

[tiddles]

god that's awful!!

I am hoping its a northern/essex thing. Yes, I know before you all have a go, what a snooty thing to say. But I just feel my middle age rage descending.....

I have to say tho, thinking about all the 11 - 14 year old girls I know, most of them would rather stick pins in their eyes then turn out toshed up like that!!

[espelli]

Sadly it happens at schools in London too! The pressure comes mostly from the parents and not the school - many school staff find is as distasteful as people on here.

[sillywoman]

parkview Wrote:

. . . Otherwise I agree with the

> sentiment here - I saw this photo recently in a

> newspaper and it just makes me feel sad:

>

> http://www.castlefortjmischool.co.uk/2011/07/prom/

> prom-2011-020-copy/

OMG, boak!!! Wrong, wrong, wrong, all wrong.

Right, that's it - we're off to the outer hebrides and we're not coming back until common sense prevails . . . .

[Growlybear]

I don't understand parents who let their primary age daughters dress like those girls in the photos and wear make up - at 10 or 11 I think it's totally inappropriate. But I am far more disturbed to see that their school is clearly promoting this by publishing the photo on their website for anyone to see.

parkview Wrote:

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> "she said she was thinking of going as a cow" -

> that made me laugh, gwod - congratulations on your

> down to earth daughter. Otherwise I agree with the

> sentiment here - I saw this photo recently in a

> newspaper and it just makes me feel sad:

>

> http://www.castlefortjmischool.co.uk/2011/07/prom/

> prom-2011-020-copy/

[nunheadmum]

Sillywoman - not sure you'd escape in the Hebrides....it was a Scottish school that I saw my friends kids dressed up for. Though one would like to think that you can escape it somewhere.

[civilservant]

in ED possibly!

[kittysailing]

tiddles Wrote:

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> god that's awful!!

>

> I am hoping its a northern/essex thing.

>

Blimey - outrageously offensive comment alert. Do you genuinely believe all the people from the North of England would like their kids to dress up in tarty prom dresses. Wow.

[tiddles]

yes I know, apologies, wrist slapped (altho I did say it was a snooty thing to say)

I'll shut the door behind me.......

[Carbonara]

Yr 6 children raising champagne glasses?

I know it won't be champagne in them, but why is the school posting pictures of children aping adults celebrating with alcohol? 11 year olds should stiil enjoy drinking fizzy pop through a straw!

[Curmudgeon]

our Y6 are going to the Adventure Playground

because they are children

[sillywoman]

Interestingly, my 16yr old has just had her school leavers Prom. The real deal. She and her beautiful friends didn't look anything like that saccharine bunch of wannabe's in parkview's post. They looked gorgeous and grown up, and sophisticated, and cool - not a ball gown, taffeta or net underskirt in sight. And there were no limmo's involved. Just good old London Transport.

I was very pleased to see they're not buying the hype - they're having fun and celebrating the end of their compulsory education on their own terms. Not those dictated by the fake American dream peddled by TV companies.