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When you're a delusional narcissist, a thread devoted to simply quoting your own brilliance back at you - whilst simultaneously securing yourself a greater audience - will only really be seen and taken as a compliment..


If I'm wrong, of course, UDT is more than welcome to 'report his own posts as ridiculous' (is there a button for that?) and the whole thing can duly disappear.

It smacks of 'let's all pile in', safety in numbers etc... A whole thread devoted to this simply isn't necessary. From what I hear school kids now set up Facebook pages titled 'Fred Bloggs is a prick'. Fred mightn't be the most popular in class and might act like an idiot at times but he doesn't deserve that.

unless Fred Bloggs IS.. y'know...


Forget this thread for a moment and go read the various threads UDT plays a part in - he/she is clearly upsetting a lot of people, it's obvious to anyone reading them (not saying I always disagree with him/her either btw)


Compared to the vitriol on those threads, this particular one is almost affectionate


Also, with facebook you can see who Fred Bloggs is and he becomes a target. UDT is ensconsed safely in anonymity so no-one can "bully" them in real life.

UDt could say "hey hold off guys - it's a bit much" - to which one could reasonably expect UDT to hold back a little bit on his general posting style - but he/she seems to relish the attention it causes


so no, I can't see the bullying here

I think playground bullying is where the troubled externalise their problems by taking it out on the weak and defenceless.


This to me looks like the natural inclination of people upon seeing someone persistently shouting "I'm brilliant and better than you" to (fruitlessly) get them to take themselves a little less seriously.

atticus - you aren't realy addressing my points


Being bullied needs an imbalance of power - go read UDT's threads and the people upset by him/her - I don't see any imbalance of power


It's the sheer number and content of their posts which has triggered this thread (which, as I say, seems almost affectionate compared to the threads UDT is actually involved in)


But I'm open to being convinced otherwise - I wouldn't want to be part of bullying anyone

UDT, it would appear is no shrinking violet. He might even enjoy being the centre of attention. Despite this, I still perceive this thread as bullying in nature, albeit school-yard and not intrinsically malicious (I hope). What next the dreaded 'B' word, banter???

therein lies the rub Atticus - you wouldn't be comfortable, and you have said so


Equally you have enough nous to read what you have read and see that it isn't all gold


ergo, it's highly unlikely anyone is going to start a thread about you, because you aren't acting like an eejit


But UDT is very aggressive in his/her general tone - he/she is an aggressor, not a victim


bringing up "banter" is interesting, recalling as it does Keys and Gray. They too claimed they were bullied and victimised after being sacked, but it was their own behaviour wot done it

I agree with Atticus. I remember having, or trying to have, this discussion with StraferJack before and getting nowhere, I think because you couldn't see that with bullying it's not just your own intentions that count: it's also about how other people perceive what you're doing, and not just the person who's the target.


In particular there's a lot of bullying masquerading as banter, but the fact you're 'just' having fun doesn't make it OK. There's a history of people using the Lounge to abuse other people on a personal level and gang up on them, and there are others who either have poor social skills or use the relative anonymity of the forum to be totally inconsiderate in how they express themselves - whenever I meet new people in ED and the forum comes up someone always mentions it, and there are forumites who don't use the Lounge for that reason. Personally after the last couple of days I'm now heading for the door (again).

A pointless knotting of knickers.


To see this thread in any sort of malevolent light is is to completely misunderstand the dynamic that exists between UDT and.. A lot of our people. He's ON this thread, contributing to it, and ENJOYING it. Everyone's a winner. Unless you're steadfastly determined to be offended on someone else's behalf - when in fact they're more than happy to play.


Perhaps UDT is to be the last truly interesting thing about this place. Now there's a thought.

The rub is that noone feels the slighest urge to create one about you atticus.


The participants in this thread are long-standing members of the forum and have a long track record of being reasonalbe, thoughtful, measured and friendly.


Yeah there can be clashes and I guess a slightly acerbic sense of humour dominates but compared to many forums I've encountered this strikes a terrific balance between being welcoming and tolerant whilst generally avoiding being dull.


The fact that it has come to this, and that this is the only example of such in almost exactly 7 years of this forum (oh dear god has it been that long) and that the poster in question has been dealt with more harshly on other forums (it took him less than a week to get put on close moderation here after joining specifically to carry on an intractable argument on here with another poster and was banned from this one) should speak volumes.

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