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Not neutering her may have made me irresponsible and I wish I had done the right thing while she was alive. However, that doesn?t mean I didn?t love her deeply. I?m always going to love that cat.


Not like I need to justify myself but I?m hoping to put an end to this. Me and my mum knew that Fudge had been missing for at least a few days. We had (including) Fudge seven cats in total, all outdoors that came and went as they pleased. We would keep a tab on them, but it wasn?t unlike them to go missing for days at a time. One of ours is still a regular to the cemetery ? he goes there for up to a week at a time and then strolls back happy and ready for cuddles. This was not unlike our cats. (But no more, we have both vowed never to let the cats outdoors again after what has happened.)


Now I must admit Fudge was gone for longer than I realised. The night before we found out she was ?missing? me and my mum commented on how neither of us had seen her for a few days. I decided to have a look on the forum to see if anyone had seen her and ultimately case across the devestating post...


Yes I wish I had realised sooner. Yes I have been irresponsible by not getting her chipped and neutered (we were planning on getting her done really soon, the last of our cats to not be chipped etc.) But this by no means meant she had a horrible owner. I love Fudge and she loved me, a lot. Throughout her short six years here she had a life where she was loved and spoilt and unfortunately got taken away from us too soon. Like I said earlier, our cats have been outdoor cats my whole life - chipped or not, she would?ve been hit by that car either way. NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE THAT. Not your words of judgement or ill-wishing. I feel guilty as it is. I don?t need a bunch of strangers telling me what I already know.


There is a time and place for things like this and this is neither the time nor place. I beg you find some compassion, because however much y?all want to preach that your words aren?t nasty and hurtful - they are.


I love you Fudge. Always have and always will. Some spirits aren?t meant to be on this Earth for too long.


And with that ? this is the end of the thread. I?d like an admin to close or delete it now as I?m done with the vileness of some particular users on here. Thanks for anyone who has given me support, it has helped a lot. For now I?m going to continue to grieve without the added stress and upset of unkind strangers.

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