Unsociable teen

[gmm]

Think I posted this before in the wrong place... derr! Anyone any suggestions?

Moved to the area a couple of years ago; daughter now 16; wonder whether anyone has some ideas for places for her to meet others and hopefully make a friend or 2 for company? She's at school out of borough so knows no one locally - finds it hard to mix. Ideas appreciated! Thanks.

[Peckhamgatecrasher]

I could introduce you to the youth team at All Saints Church in Peckham - they have quite a lot of stuff going on.

[gmm]

Just googled and found their website - very energetic stuff! I'll sound her out... thanks VERY MUCH, pgc

[Bellenden Belle]

I believe The Woodcraft Folk meet at Kingsdale school on Thursday evenings. It seems to be an interesting movement - www.woodcraft.org.uk

Lots of different activities, with a lovely backdrop of respect, co-operation and encouraging young people to find their indvidual voices and take responsibility.

(the cynic in me would also point out that it will look good on a Ucas form too!)

[gmm]

I found it difficult to get info but shall keep trying. Thanks very much, BB. We were invited down to visit one of their international camps in Sussex a couple of years ago by another local group - unfortunately daughter was not very keen on what she saw but I suspect a regular local gathering would be easier to cope with. A good suggestion and one I'll put some energy into. Cheers!

[Narnia]

I have one of these, a 17 year old boy. He claims to have lots of friends but they all play certain games on the internet and live in Austria, Sweden, Denmark etc. He doesn't want to go out at all! He does occasionally (but doesn't want us to know where or what he is doing) but seems to prefer his computer. What I do know is that he has a mind of his own and as much as we might like him to get out more he decides what he wants to do. I'm curious to know if your daughter has a similar attitude to parential intervention given her age. She might prefer to work things out for herself! I don't know because as a teenager all I ever wanted to do was go out but that was a long time ago in a completely different environment.

What do you mean by her finding it 'hard to mix'? Is she happy in her home environment and can't be bothered or does she want to but can't? Teenagers are difficult to deal with in respect that they feel they are grown up and parents are not fashionable. At least that's what I think. Perhaps we can arrange a marriage but we wouldn't consider anything less than a farm and a number of sheep and cows as a dowry! What do you think? Have we a deal?