What is it with you women, and the need to freak each other out?

[Dulwich Born And Bred]

Congratulations Quids!!

Whenever someone gives birth that I know be it family or friends, we always ask them how the birth went ( and this is regardless to whether we have children ourselves or not) and we expect all the details! It has never ever put me off wanting to have a baby, I think we all know it is not easy, and if someone does not want to hear the horror stories then they can just say " Thanks but I rather would not hear it" I had no problems with people telling me there stories and I don't lie about my labour if people ask but yes, I don't like the ones who say things like " Your baby will be big/small, you will need a C section etc" no one knows how our labours will go so they should stop acting if they do!

[Sanne Panne]

HeidiHi Wrote:

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> Congratulations Quids!!

>

> Whenever someone gives birth that I know be it

> family or friends, we always ask them how the

> birth went ( and this is regardless to whether we

> have children ourselves or not) and we expect all

> the details! It has never ever put me off wanting

> to have a baby, I think we all know it is not

> easy, and if someone does not want to hear the

> horror stories then they can just say " Thanks but

> I rather would not hear it" I had no problems

> with people telling me there stories and I don't

> lie about my labour if people ask but yes, I don't

> like the ones who say things like " Your baby will

> be big/small, you will need a C section etc" no

> one knows how our labours will go so they should

> stop acting if they do!

I think the essence is that you should not volunteer the information (especially to a pregnant woman) unless you are specifically asked. If you ask someone after she's given birth (which is indeed quite a normal thing to do - at that point everything is about the new mum) and you're pregnant, you know what you're in for. But if you tell a colleague you're pregnant you're not asking her to tell you her birth story.