I read this article earlier this week http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/nov/10/sex-marathon-couples-revisited I m not sure I agree with it fully, as you don't want sex to just become a chore in the relationship, but I do think it is based on the principal of making it a habit and therefore part of the routine of the relationship. I agree with all the previous posts in that it is just difficult after you have kids, but I do think it is worth making the effort once every *however often you feel you should do*. I am not going to go into further detail, as I am posting under my actual forum name too...