Ruth_Baldock

No advice but I am right there with you. My vbac baby is due in July and was concieved 9 months post c-section. I had a pretty depressing mw appointment yesterday and I feel the same as you. I will be damned if I am tetherred to a bed being monitored and have an iv and be unable to use the pool/ move around. Feel free to pm Me. Vbac misery loves company (actually not misery because I WILL birth my baby the way I want and th NICE guidlines can get stuffed)

Yorkie, yes, we did CC after MUCH erming and ahing on the subject, most of it documented on here. I also think SB would also agree; no WAY would I have a little un on the way if Baby B's sleep hadn't been sorted. BEWARE though, the moment they start sleeping through...the broodiness starts. Seb started sleeping through on the 18th September. I became pregnant on the 21st October. Watch out! Seriously though, I feel for you. You're a saint, there is no way I'd be able to do what you've done for 18 months. You've done really well. FWIW, the moment he started sleeping properly, everything else improved- mainly his eating, he'd been a terrible eater but got much better with more sleep, and was better at interacting with other children. Probably because he felt half human for once!

Yorkie: We live in a flat and our neighbours hear EVERYTHING. When we were going to sleep train, I warned them. They've got 3 kids, trained each of them, so were very understanding and said an hour of moaning at7pm was better than the screeching they heard between 10pm-4am every night for nine months...

Well I think that Seb is THE MOST BEAAAUUUUTIFUL BABA IN THE WORLD! (said thrice daily). Husband said "What if the next one isn't cute????" Genuinely worried now.

I'm intrigued now, I want to see what Mini Moos (twosling?) looks like. I am way too nosey, sorry. In fact, ignore this whole message.

I used to be anti- CC but now we've done it with Seb, I can see why sometimes people have no choice. I was actually looking at photos of him the other day, pre-decent sleeping and the poor bubs had massive bags/dark circles under his eyes and was yawning in about two thirds of the photos D: He was getting 7hrs sleep in a 24hr period, just not good enough. CC was hard for us to do, and it took about 10 days really to work (not 10 days of screeching for an hour each night, but you know what I mean). I remember getting back from work one day, to hear him screaming (day 2 of CC, husband picked him up from MILs as I didn't finish till 6.30pm) and it was awful. Every day that week, I was sick at work just before hometime because I was a bag of nerves. It quickly got better and he usually has a good chuckle to himself when he sees his cot now, and tries to get in before I've even put his night-time nappy on. Different things work for different people: Yorkie, I hope you find a solution that works for you all xx

SW: really loving this idea! Who wants to do mine after Bubs 2 arrives and OH buggers off back to work? Early August-ish. Will have boistrus 19 month old too. Seriously though, it would have been a lovely thing to have first time round- I remember when OH went back to work, 3rd Jan 2010, one of the worst days of my LIFE D:

Sorry Keef, I am quite angry and jumpy. It's the pregnancy hormones. I'll probably be crying over a Hollyoaks advert in ten minutes, you know how it is (or I am assuming you remember if Mrs Keef was like me when preggers with Keefette.)

Erm, EXCUSE ME felt-tip? Please say that's tongue in cheek? Because I'd rather not look into my babby's face for 10 minutes when we're walking down the road makes me a bad parent? And the rest of us that do it? Don't bloody think so. But anyway, echoing everyone's sling recommendations- baby wearing is lovely (this coming from a front-facing buggy user, and bad parent). We have an ergo and a big scarfy one, better for bubs than a Bjorn (or 'crotch danglers' as my friend calls them) because of weight distrubution. I wore Seb a lot before I got a bump and I do still sometimes wear him on my back...but not recently because he's a bit of a chubster now.

I get really excitied about cilit BANG. When I buy it, I say to Seb 'cilit BANG, SEB! BANG!' and he thinks it is HILARIOUS. I am also obsessed with antibacterial wipes. Love them.

another vote for thule ;)

Your MIL is talking sh*te. Sorry, but I get SO ANGRY when I hear of over-bearing MILs. STAND YOUR GROUND NOW, seriously. We had Bubs Baldock 1 in a bugaboo bee, parent facing, until he was around 6m. Now he's world facing. He is also extremely chatty, and this is an example of his language of 13 months: Me: Breakfast time! Bubs: Yes! Me: Do you want some banana? Bubs: *shakes head* nah nah nah NO. Me: Apple? Bubs: ah yeh yeh yeh. NOMS. I think that's a pretty good convo, we both get out point across. Maclaren xlr seem to be good for tight spaces, have a friend in a similair position to you.

Oh bums, can you not donate if you've had a blood transfusion? Had one with Seb, didn't get round to donating when he was still on the boob...but want to with next baby. Am still producing milk, do you think they'd take it? Haven't BF Seb since November and am almost 17w pregnant...

If we had a cleaner, she'd probably die of shock from the state of the bedrooms/living room. bathroom and kitchen okayish. we have a surveyor coming over on Friday. Then visitors at the weekend. DREADING it. Won't clean, shan't, refuse to. Am pregnant and can't use products. *lies*

At 13? Hell no. My art class at A-Level went to New York, but we were 18, and had known about it since the middle of fifth form, so had been paying in installments from then.

Yep- I especially liked what he said when him and Donna first arrived, explaining her history and her birthplan. I said to Husband, YOU need to do that- it's very important. YOU NEED TO BE MY EYES AND EARS. He is now even more terrified than before.

Thanks for the tip! I'd only ever travel by black cab if my bank account allowed it.

Right, well. I need to get to Tooting every Friday for the next 8wks, and I need to get there for 9am. I've decided to splash out (huge lols...) on a cab there, and getting the tube/bus back. Bubs is 13 months and needs a carseat, and since Addison Lee have randomly stopped doing theirs (grumble), that's out of the window. I can't get the comcab website to work either, boo hoo (black cab the easiest way to travel) Has anyone got a recommendation for a reliable taxi firm to take me and Sebastababy (as we call him) from SE5 to SW7? Ta!

Good lord, that bloke Wayne was an ANGEL. PERFECT birth partner, told Husband to 'take note'.

Seconding the Naomi Staden book; re-reading it atm, in fact!

Equally, PRE birth, do not sod off for a 'lost weekend' with your best laddy friend when your partner is 38+2. Do not come back complaining of a hangover. Agree with Mellors. YOU think you're tired? Do bugger off.

1) Do NOT tell random strangers commenting on the adorable newborn that he was a 'c-section because of FTP', because it will make your wife, within earshot, feel mortified and like even MORE of a failure. Keep schtum. 2) Tell overbearing family visitors when it is time to go. Firmly. 3) Do NOT say "You're doing it wrong, my Mum/Gran (WHO NEVER BREASTFED) says you should change sides every ten minutes. Instead give lots of encouragement during the tricky breastfeeding period. 4) Like 1)...it is okay to give strangers evils when they stare/point/tut at your wife breastfeeding a squirming newborn at Pret in Bluewater. 5) Get dinner in. Do not whine/b*tch/moan about awful state of the kitchen/house. WE KNOW, OKAY?! 6) Flowers and other pressies greatfully recieved. 7) Take as much time as you can off work. Freelancer? Worried about networking? TOUGH. 8) When you go back to work, come home as early as poss. Try to call in the day, to break up the monotony. 9) Don't blame your wife for everything that might happen. If the baby is jaundiced IT ISNT ANYONES FAULT. 10) Tell your wife. family and others how well she did during labour and how well she is doing now and how proud you are of her. Repeat loudly and often. 11) DO WHAT YOU ARE TOLD. 12 Be nice

Hi Fuscia, We did end up in Kings last Saturday- he had a chest infection and was prescribed a course of anti-biotics. Seemed to work nicely- within 36 hours he was well again. This time, no wheezing, clear snot, and a tickly cough.No temperature. He does have asthma (like moi) so it seems that any sniffle always turns into major dramas. However, I am starting to get worried about his immune system or potential allergies. My sister had leukaemia as a child and it started off like this D: (constant colds etc- she had one for about 4 months on/off as well as other symptoms, not to alarm anyone with a snotty child) With this in mind, we have made an appointment AGAIN with the GP. For next Thursday. REALLY must change GP as a matter of urgency.

Cough is the worst- he coughs out his dummy/wakes himself up coughing. Grim. Hoping for a better night tonight, or I will go mad. Considering doing night shifts with my husband- one night, me on duty then the next him.

Hello forum mums (and Dads?) I'm not sure how many of you were planning to head down today, but...er...don't. Unfortunately today's session has had to be cancelled- my son has been up all night (not kidding) coughing and we're both exhausted and unwell (in his case). Big apologies- there will be a notice on the door in any case, explaining this. We'll resume as normal next week :) On another note, does anyone else have a baby that seems to have been constantly ill since October? Two rounds of antibiotics, an inhaler, truckloads of baby olbas oil and karvol and room vaporisers and tixylix have done...not much. Tired of this now...