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Hiya, here is a website which I find quite fun to look at (and then only do about 1% of what it recommends): http://www.brillkids.com/ They sell rather expensive software (I tried the free trial, it was fun but in 10days with a 9months year old, what did you think the results would be like? :)) Anyway, there is a forum & a fair few free resources, which are quite good. When I was little, my mum used lots of games build into normal days to get me learning stuff, e.g. having numbers "races" while walking the dog, etc. mx

yes - call seldoc. Also, NHS direct can be very helpful. And check about what combination of nurofen / calpol for babies you can give at that age (I cannot remember, but I did find nurofen much better at bringing a fever down, must be different reactions?). Hope it gets better soon mx

Hiya, I have been searching for a weekend class for my (very active) 19months old. I recently spoke to a friend who runs a gymnastics club in Sussex & has introduces parent/toddler classes where they learn basics like jumping, rolling etc, all in a fun setting. I was wondering if there was something like that around here? I did check out tumble tots, but they only run weekday sessions (it seems) but i need something on the weekend.... Any ideas? mx

Hiya, sorry to hear about your horrible experience, and totally understand your need to "vent" - bad attitude like this is particularly distressing when you have a crying toddler and are worried about them. Hope you are all ok now. I don't personally know that pharmacy and live more in the Peckham direction but please be assured that most places around here are really nice, friendly and helpful. I always found the Lloyds Pharmacy, as well as the one on Lordship lane (think they are called Sogims?) excellent. Boots on Rye Lane is a bit hit & miss, IMO. I hope you are settling in well - you & your kids will love it here! mx

Hiya- one way we keep overcoming irrational fears is by "kissing" - i.e. what ever LO is scared off, I show that it is safe by giving it a kiss and saying what a good xyz it is. We had kissing the pop-up book, kissing the hairdryer, (almost) kissing the microwave... although I have drawn the line at kissing the hoover & lawnmower... No idea how you can "kiss" the fly or bugs, though...

Hiya - thanks for the tips, funny enough, ever since writing on here, he is actually getting interested in sitting on the potty! after weeks of them just cluttering up the house...Of course, nothing goes in there yet, but it is progress! Babs - in my searches I have come across this for young babies https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&pid=sites&srcid=ZGVmYXVsdGRvbWFpbnxveGZvcmRuYXBweWZyZWViYWJ5fGd4OjNiZDVjYTJjMDVlYjIwMWU&pli=1 (sorry I cannot figure out how to do a link???) - wish I had seen it at 8months! mx

Thumbs up for this - we have a boys one and my LO loves it. Still have to hold him somewhat where he cannot stand but I have much more confidence to let him run around (obviously with supervision) in chest high water (his chest not mine :)) He loves swimming and the swimming costume with floats was recommended by the swimschool we go to. have fun! Jacks50 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > we used the vest with my boys but they struggled a > bit as they ride up and get in their face, but > with my daughter we used the swimming costume with > the built in floats - it was much better than the > vest as it pulled it down and kept it out of her > face. (they make boys ones too!) She got used to > it within 10 mins and was swimming around the > pool, shouting at us if we touched her! (very > independent lady) she was 18 months when she first > used it.

After my c-section I read somewhere that c-sections can sometimes interfer with the production of certain hormones and result in milk coming in late - sorry for being vague, it's been some time. I definitely recommend getting a lactation consultant - like Strawbs, big regret that I didn't Thumbs up for contacting claire kedves at kings - she is amazing, and get your friend to speak to the GP, domperidone is a drug that can help, her GP should be able to advise. Best of luck mxx

Thanks for your the tips - i will go & get one of those seats that go on top of the big toilet, figure, I probably need them anyway.... And Caroline - that is reassuring to hear that you had similar experiences, I was wondering what I was doing wrong! I definitely want to make this as stress free as possible - he is still very young, no need to rush. Interestingly enough, today he sat on the car potty by own choice (it stands around, just in case) - although with nappies on! Taking them off, he was a bit hesitant, then sat and and sat and..... nothing. LOL! I will start putting his doll on it again, it's a "drinking & peeing" doll, so maybe that gives him a hint :) mx

Hiya, my lo is still too small (18month) but i strongly believe in giving pocket money. No idea what the appropriate rate is, but I have a few friends who have given pocket money from 4yrs on and the children use it for all the little extras they want. Seems to be working very well.

Hiya, I am using the word "training" in the loosest sense, as we are really trying to be child led here. But recently, my LO has started to be very aware of bowl movements - pointing to his bottom half, clutching, and making (quite funny) noises to indicate when he is about to do a po. This is now quite reliable. Similarly with pees, although not all the time (I know about the peeing as we tried a day of no nappies around the house - my floors have never been cleaner). He also hates wearing nappies, and tries to pull them off. So I thought it would be a good time to try the whole potty thing - but suggestions of sitting on the potty are generally met with blank refusal. Sometimes with howling (even though I don't try to force the issue at all...). We have two potties - a plain one and a fancy car-shaped one, which was of lot of interest as a toy - not as a potty.... Any suggestions? He seems genuinely upset about going in his nappies (although 1min after the deed, he forgets about it...) thanks for any recommendations! mx

Hiya - 18months on, I still love my bee and LO seems always very comfortable. I am not very tall and find it easy to lift into the bus, simple to fold and manage to pack a huge amount of "stuff" into the bottom basked. We too had the shimmying wheels but absolutely no problem to get the repair kit (I phone the helpline no. in Holland, I believe, and they were very relaxed, no questions asked about purchase, just sent us the kit within 3 days). I have seen there are places that allow you to hire a buggy for a week or so to try it out (obviously difficult if you don't have a baby, too :)) One reason I went for the bee was its high resale value (currently, at least)... mx

Hiya- I am trying to buy things that will prove interesting for a long time, e.g. Duplo, Brio train set etc. I look for these on here, to keep the costs down - all I got so far has been in ace condition! happy hunting for presents! mx

Hiya, I have just posted this offer in another section of the forum when I remembered that there are a number of people on here how are just starting out/ work from home who might be interested in getting a website designed for free. Please have a look if interested: http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?30,944327 PS: I promise a friendly, low jargon approach! mx

Hiya, we had the cocoon, but no liner - i then bought custom liner and foot muff from ebay - it says custom but they were a lot cheaper than the bugaboo ones.... takes a bit of trawling through, but I paid only ?10 for a reversible liner and about ?25 for the footmuff.

Hiya, we were still feeding at 4am every night until very recently and it was a habit -he was 16months, and sleeping in another room. One thing that really helped was letting him have lots of toys (cuddly, cars, little hardbacked books - you name it). I stopped feeding him and pointed out that his toys were there all waiting for him to come to sleep, plus lots of "shshshsh" and "snuggle downs" with soothing pats etc - and amazingly enough it worked! (I was totally surprised, believe me, he was never a good sleeper...)So now he sometimes wakes, I can hear him playing in his cot with his toys, then goes back to sleep. It seems to make no difference to tiredness in the morning. Of course, some babies get overexcited by having toys and want to get up to play - it really depends on your LO. Best of luck, hope you get good sleep soon! mx

Hiya, I don't have direct experience of night terrors but a friend of mine still gets them (she is 31) and she says it tends to be brought on by trigger points of stress and overtiredness. I guess with little children, there is so much going on that could stress them (not even bad things, just excitement, change of routine etc). There is someone on here who posts under childsleepsolutions - I don't know them personally but maybe you want to PM to ask advice? I really hope you get a better night today, and some more help soon mx

Actually I was just forwarded an article in the German new magazin Der Spiegel on the subject of an increase in the number of cases in both children & adults in the UK but also in Germany. So maybe more awareness is needed....

My experience with mortgages is 3years ago, but it was not good. At that point, banks did not want to consider a lending multiple based on the combined income from my husband (self-employed) and mine (salaried at that time) - even though he was low risk, had 25years experience in his industry etc. We ended up using my salary only. If both of you are freelancing, you might be struggling. There might be specialist lenders out there, but I am not aware of any and guess the rates would not be great from them. On the other hand - what do you have to lose if you take this contract? You could always terminate it if something better came along (i.e. sense of self-preservation...)

Hiya, I just bought a second hand mini micro for my LO. He is only 18months but has been longing for them a while (lots of sly attempts to play with other kids' scooters at the playground). He cannot really use it yet, a couple of tries with one foot but mainly he just pushes it along. But it keeps him very happy and entertained for long stretches of time. I justified the early purchase with the fact that one was going cheap and that it will (hopefully) last for years to come...

Oh, I also need to know about the Thomas the tank potty... please

Agree with all the above - ours actually got freaked by the ballons but then loved the fact that there were lots (10) people. And keep the camera ready - you never know what firsts will happen! Have a great time! mx

We also had a babydan until LO could walk - then just used stair gates to stop him from climbing upstairs. He loved the playpen initially but then totally refused to get in - cue mega screaming. He is very, very active, but we just kept him in the same room as us and he is allowed to run around between the rooms on the same level. We have baby proofed the kitchen but not really the living room - just insisted from early on that he should not touch certain things. It does mean toys everywhere but saves having a big playpen crammed in... good luck!

brilliant!

When Alex was just a few days old and I needed to see a dr urgently for myself and he had developed a few spots, no other symptoms, they saw us within minutes, gave Alex a thorough check up (he had prickly heat) and sorted me out there and then... guess it is a lottery on who is on....?