Dulwich Born And Bred

I read this on another site and thought it was funny!

OK, here's my situation. My mummy has had me for almost 5 months. The first few months were great - I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened.

Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep through the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like it's pretty common after mummies have had us for around 6 months.

Here's the thing: these mummies don't really need to sleep. It's just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep - they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle.

It goes like this:

Night 1 - cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it's hard. It's hard to see your mummy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it's for her own good.

Night 2 - cry every 2 hours until you get fed.

Night 3 - every hour.

Most mummies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some mummies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These mummies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don't give in. I cannot stress this enough:

CONSISTENCY IS KEY!!

If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I KNOW IT'S HARD! But she really does not need the sleep, she is just resisting the change.

If you have an especially alert mummy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My mummy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it.

Last night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it.

BE CONSISTENT!

I cried for any reason I could come up with. My sleep sack tickled my foot. I felt a wrinkle under the sheet. My mobile made a shadow on the wall. I burped, and it tasted like pears. I hadn't eaten pears since lunch, what's up with that? The cat said "meow". I should know. My mummy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL. Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room. Too hot, too cold, just right - doesn't matter! Keep crying!!

It took a while, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your mummies' internal clocks.

P.S. Don't let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out. Trust me

If you do get a pampering present, make sure she is ok with it. I am one of those ladies who don't like spas or pampering sessions from other people ( weird considering I am a trained massage therapist!).

Sanne Panne, you could always try our lovely bonyard on here, he does delicious home cooked food!

Jamma, I think you are looking into it too deeply. I was happy to get a present, would have preferred diamonds but hey, the wii fit will come in handy when I start my operation pre pregnancy body plan.

I am sure he is intending to be hands on and I think it is lovely he is wanting to get a present. Most women I know who were pregnant wanted presents from their partners for enduring carrying a baby around for nine months and for enduring labour, their presents were taken as a token to mark the birth of the baby and as a lovely pick me up. None were offended and none took it to mean their husbands would not be hands on! ( they either are or aren't, presents or not!).

I got a Wii fit....not sure if I should be offended or not. Most women said they were given diamonds as their push present in my birth club.

My niece is four and absolutely loved it! She was so shocked that Santa had a photo of her. Oh to be a child again, that innocence is just so priceless!

We used to get it, but then it stopped. We live on Lordship Lane.

I don't think Sainsbury's local will be selling bonnet peppers, yams etc so Nisha should be fine plus people waiting for the bus can easily nip in Val's and Costcutter's whilst at the bus stop. I won't always be walking that few minutes more to sainsbury's for a loaf of bread when I can get it at Val's/Costcutters, but if I want something a bit more then Sainsbury's local will warrant a visit.

I decided on the name of my son whilst I was carrying him. It was great to have a name for him and refer to him by his name instead of 'it'. Everyone actually commented that they feel like they know him personally because they have been referring to him by name long before he arrived!

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Sorry Sean, just noticed the thread!:-$ I should have posted on there. Why didn't Gimme just say that?!

Sprocket, now there's an idea.....

Why not? not ALL of the threads on the EDF are useful. I am sure if I looked hard enough I could find some of yours that is probably pointless.

I was kind of hoping Father O'Connor frequents this forum and could come and collect his post.

LOL Sanity Girl and Lorraine with regards to the loo! I forgot about that one! I have had my son over my shoulder whilst I answer the call of nature when he is in one of those moods and won't be put down.

The things we do!

Oh and Lorraine, yes, Stella B does stock them!

They are great Lorraine http://www.fitflop.com/products/inuk/#product_040_chocolate very expensive though!

That is mean that people don't stand up for you but I found them quite rude as I was very pregnant and people would not look at me in order to pretend I was not there, therefore they would not have to give up their seat for me.

I actually wear the same clothes two days running now. I used to change every single day but not anymore, I don't even bother to iron most of my clothes and I will still leave the house if my clothes has sick on it, I would never have done this prior to having a baby.

I was actually quite embarrassed last week as I went to the hospital for a check up and left my son for the first time ever with my sister for an hour, and I was quite aware when I was out that I must look a right state and people must have thought " Look at that tramp in her trampy clothes with her jelly belly showing through that sick stained T shirt" I made a mental note never to leave the house without my son in tow so that people are aware that I look rough BECAUSE I have a son and my belly is because of my son. Having my son gives me the excuse of being slack with my appearances.

People never gave seats up for me on the bus when I was heavily pregnant yet everyone has been giving their seats up for me when I hop on the bus with my son in his sling.

I have a mad craving for wine and chocolates and lots of it...not good if one is breastfeeding.

I can no longer diet, I last half an hour then I go and find some food to shovel in my gob.

I think high heels are highly impractical, I would never wear flats but now I live and die in my fit flops, even ordered the knee high boots fit flops.

I leave it a while before I shave my legs as my son starts moaning every time I pop in the shower so washing my hair ( which was a twice a week event is now once a fortnight and the shaving which was every other day is now once a week.)

I have an audience when I shower now. My son does really silly things like shoving his fingers down his throat or holding his breath which means I cannot leave him alone for five minutes so as a result he is in his bouncer chair in the bathroom with me whilst I shower.

I am really touchy about everything, I used to have thick skin but it does not take much these days to make me blub, from puppy dogs on the adverts to someone saying anything slightly negative to me!

I think four hours uninterrupted sleep is like Birthday, Christmas etc all in one! Bliss!

I don't buy anything for myself anymore, but I keep seeing things that my son 'needs' I mean...20 bodysuits is not to much...right? he NEEDS them!

I worry about everything now...world peace, global warning...other children...

Oh yes and my table manners is appalling! I no longer use a fork and I shovel food in my mouth at an alarming rate in order to eat it warm, I would eat the pattern off the plate if it had one!

I realised I had a problem when I went to the pub for lunch with friends for the first time, I had my son in my arm, the food arrived, my son started stirring, I shovelled in the food as fast as I could so I could feed my son and my friends were still on their third mouthful....the shame...

Just found two little parcels that could have easily fit through my letterbox tucked under the door mat, and the funny thing is, one of them is for Father Connor at St Thomas Moore Church, I am not near to the church and the last time I looked, my house did not LOOK like a church. Looks like I have to play Post person and find the time to post it to him!

The thing is Pickle, I would want the boozy coffee, followed by a bottle of wine and then finish off with two glasses of mojitos, one glass is not enough. I am not sure that is sensible when breastfeeding a 3 months old, saying that I'll probably would get drunk on the coffee alone since it has been so long!

Molly, on my birth club they gave links saying it could make the baby poo, or because it could make the mothers sick, dehydrated, have stomach cramps etc, it could distress the baby.

In no order of preferences,

My son to take to a bottle so I can have my usual christmas boozy coffee (Bailey in place of milk) and wine and mojitios! I don't actually drink much but since I have not been able to due to pregnancy and BF, I have a mad thirst for the forbidden drink now!

Wentworth Miller, Jonathan Myers or Jensen Ackles, I am not too fussed which one, and no wrapping paper needed.

Calorie free chocolates and crisps.

My pre pregnancy body back please since I worked hard to get it nice and slim!

I would not have liked to have gone longer than the two weeks as my son was very dry and flaky from where he was inside for so long! His nails were so long too!:-S

I read that the castor oil can make the baby poo/poorly,hence I would not try something like that if it means risking the baby health.

Oh my goodness, I know Leoni Penna as I was under her care for a short while....we had a run in after the break down of my episiotomy in which I was hospitalised for a really bad infection a few days after giving birth. The less I say about my run in, the better I guess!

Belle, good midwives are like gold dust, especially since we do not have enough of them. There is just a huge lack of communication when it comes to Kings I find.

I had bad experiences with Kings on FOUR separate occasions and different departments so I have no faith in them. Did not help reading the newspaper the other day to hear one of their own midwives committed suicide because Kings did not inform her that she was not to blame for the death of a baby in her care.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1234219/New-midwife-hangs-hospital-fails-tell-blame-sick-babys-death.html

Pretty amazing how we all have completely different experiences about a hospital, for you it was fantastic, for me it was hell. I still have one investigation ongoing with regards to Kings and very nearly losing my son at the hands of a Doctor when he was rushed to A&E with an infection.

Its a shame about the Albany Midwives as I know people who have used them and they had nothing but good thiings to say about them.

ClareC Wrote:

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> Congratulations veryseriousgirl! Thank you for

> taking the time to post such a positive

> experience, especially when you must have only

> just come out of hospital :-)

>

> Did all the partners of people being induced at

> the same time as you get to stay? Must admit this

> is the part that terrifies me most (being left to

> deal with the unknown alone). The midwife that

> hosted the tour told me this wasn't allowed :-(

> Maybe this is one of those things that the rules

> say one thing but the reality is often different.

>

> Mental note to self to bulk buy RLT ;-)

No, as my mum was told she could not stay. I had to fight to get the father to stay yet opposite me a lady had three adults with her, and everyone else did not have their partners. Depends on the midwife I guess!

Clare, you are right regarding Kings and inductions. I had my son there 13 weeks ago,my baby's father was told he had to leave the labour ward, my mum had to go home but my baby father did stay because I was not happy at all about being left alone as I was in so much pain, I had to argue with the midwives to allow him to stay and they gave in and said he could stay in my cubicle with me. He did have to leave though after I gave birth, hence I was bedridden and unable to tend to my son.

You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, you pay your taxes, you go where YOU feel comfortable.

I tried everything, nothing worked. My son was two weeks late, I ended up being induced after a failed sweep.