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Saffron, that's what I do - pull out a chair/bed and hold his hand. Trouble is, it has become habit and I want to spend the night in my bed tbh! He goes sleep well at 7 and at lunch time with no problem. Ginster, I've done the bribery of a 'sweetie in the mornings for you don't wake mummy' but that's fallen on deaf ears, as has a sticker. Thinking he's too young to understand that concept just yet.

So my son 2yrs 2months has hit a big sleep regression. About a month ago he started waking hysterically, with what seemed like nightmares ie really genuinely upset. This was about once a week and the only way to settle him was to bring him into our bed or me sleep on his floor (not very comfy!). However over the last 10 days he's waking once if not twice wanting mummy or daddy. I've tried the ssh pat, a sleep sheep/white noise - that goes on and he starts getting cross knowing I'm going to leave him. Last few nights he's woken but not seemed very upset, ie no nightmares (I don't think), he is just calling for mummy/daddy. He absolutely will not settle until I lie on the floor holding his hand. There is no fixed time to the wake ups - anytime from 10.30 to 5am. I think he's now got in the habit of not self settling unless I'm with him. Tried controlled crying last night for 1.5 hours, gave up and ended up on his floor holding hands again. He wasn't crying hard during this time, just standing up with his will of steel gently crying for me. I've tried the ssh/pat going in every few mins but he get's more upset every time I go in. I'm exhausted and don't want a co sleeper. Any ideas on what to do? Thanks

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Thanks yummers and buggie, it is definitely separation anxiety so will perserver with the sooth pat and read that link. Last night was 40 mins of hysteria before sleep so it can only get better!

My son is nearly 13 months and used to be great at going to bed at 7. After about 5/10 mins of being quiet and happy he stands in his cot really screaming. He's been walking for about a month, don't know if this has anything to do it with it but for the last 2/3 weeks or so he's been getting worse at going to bed. I've tried bringing bed time forward 10/15 mins so he's not at the too over tired point but it hasn't made a differene. I've stuck to the same routine etc (have a 4 year old so already fully 'Routined' ) so can't really work out the issue. It certainly seems to be only me he wants and not my husband as baby immediately lies back down and sort of stops crying when I'm in with him. I've tried the sssh pat, hand on him etc, cuddles, standing by cot then moving further away but to be honest nothing is really working and every night it is at least 30 mins of a screaming baby (unsettling the 4 year old and parents getting frazzled etc!). He has a sleep sheep with white noise I put on once he's 'kicked off' to help calm him but also doesn't seem to help. Any thoughts/tips would be gratefully received ! Thanks

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Hi Sorry not sure where best to post this message but we've sold our flat and urgently need (ie before Monday next week) to remove a wardrobe from our flat. We don't live locally anymore so not possible to do ourselves. Can anyone recommend someone please ?? Thanks

Hi - can anyone please recommend a family friendly hotel for June 2015 holiday - we've two children 4 and 1 so would like to be walking distant to things. Ideally, we're wanting interconnecting rooms or children in a separate sleeping area so not sure if hotels are really geared up for this (without breaking the bank!). We need guaranteed sun so thinking perhaps Portugal, Turkey or maybe Greece. We did a Thomson all inclusive in Majorca 2 yrs ago with 1 child and we liked the ease of it all ie kids entertainment in the evening, on the beach and close to town, just don't want to go back. If we are barking up the wrong tree even considering a hotel are their any apartment rental recommendations? Many thanks

I had similar issues and what helped was adding fruit to anything I made - over a week or so the amount of Apple, for example, that I mixed in with chicken casserole got less. I also mixed an Ella pouch with mine which also worked. Don't forgot though that even if you want your baby to do BLW, your daughter might not be on for it and want pur?es and spoon fed. Certainly something I've learnt with my second is that a baby knows it's own mind and won't always do it 'your way'! Good luck

We are looking at doing a sensatori Thomson holiday in Turkey next summer with two children (4 & 1). If you've been, would you recommend? They are quite expensive so is it worth it? Also if you've been, we are looking at the the double room for 4....could that be all a little too close for comfort?! We are not parents that do co-sleeping at all and normally can barely share a room with them for 1 or 2 nights. ( don't mean that to sound cold hearted but we all sleep well but separately from them!)

Was reading up on mirena coil last night - sounds like there is a very high chance of weeks and weeks/months of bleeding and discomfort until things are settled. Do you think this is the norm mirena users? Whilst It sounds better than I thought not sure I can deal with that.

Why go through the hideousness of getting a coil fitted if it has the hormone - sounds easier just to pop the daily pill and if there were any side effects then I can be in control of stopping immediately. Unless there are any other benefits?

So, two children down and we are done (tbh husband far more so than me but I guess in reality no3 isn't quite so appealing as previous very wanted no 1 & 2). I used to be on the pill and came off 5 yrs ago when we got married. Was on it for years without issue but now at 37 for some reason I'm reluctant to go on it. Risks of breast cancer etc etc (although am not prime "candidate" etc). Given my periods are hideously heavy (on trans acid to reduce heaviness each month as they've got worse since having children). They also last a proper 7 days if not 8. Basically the worst and I hate each month. What do "most" people opt for? Dr is plugging the pill - coil I'm v reluctant about as heard they can make periods heavier - simply not worth risking!! Husband is happy to vasectomy as soon as I give the green light - but can't quite make that step just yet. So....what to do. Withdrawal worked v well from marriage to no1 pregnancy and between no1 and 2 but I guess then if any 'whoopsies' happened against our time frames it didn't really matter but now we are "done" I don't really relish a 'whoopsie'! So all in all, in bit of a quandary .....

Hi EG - have just read your last post and things sound much better. I haven't read all the replies either (quite a lot!) but for what it's worth if he takes a turn for being upset again perhaps see a cranial osteopath (can highly highly recommend Simon at The Vale Practice). He literally just puts his hands on patient - I had It all through pregnancy no 1 and then he saw my son. It is totally non invasive but my point being that some babies, as a result of their birth, get bad pressure headaches especially if their head plates (not technically put but hope you follow!) don't release or go back properly after the birth. I know of some babies that have been transformed by a calming cranial osteopath treatment. Hope you're starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and enjoy with pride your baby.

Have you tried baby massage using oil on baby's tummy. My baby had problems when little and my hv gave me tips like gently massaging clockwise in a circle and holding his ankles and making his legs go like on a bike. They helped him become less windy. It also helps baby to 'go'. There were other exercises too - only took about 5 mins at bath time. Also, with my 3 year old we had awful poo probs until only two months ago and our hv said he needed 2 pints of water a day - obviously way more than your little one would need at his age but my point is I was really surprised by how much liquid a little one needed. We increased his drinking by getting a gimmicky drinking cup and it worked wonders! Your son is probably too young to fall for that 'trick' . It's worth looking at if he really does have enough liquid intake.