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Can anyone offer a good disco party hire recommendation? I’ve looked on Google but seems a bit full on? Just need someone to give the party a sense of occasion, get the kids dancing for a bit, but still allow kids to do other stuff (eg, crafts) in background for those who don’t want to. Big but not a massive room (so no quiet zone possible)… really don’t want something too manic

Not true. Unless she?s got a temperature? From https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-stay-at-home-guidance/stay-at-home-guidance-for-households-with-possible-coronavirus-covid-19-infection#SymptomsPositiveTest ?You do not need to take any more LFD tests after the 10th day of your self-isolation period and you may stop self-isolating after this day. This is because you are unlikely to be infectious after the 10th day of your self-isolation period. Even if you have a positive LFD test result on the 10th day of your self-isolation period you do not need to take any more LFD tests after this day and you do not need a follow-up PCR test. If you are concerned you may choose to limit close contact with other people, especially those who are at higher risk of severe illness until 14 days after the start of your self-isolation period.?

Thank you Monkey!!!

Still bad nearly 4 years after giving birth. Causing a lot of back pain and discomfort. A lot of conflicting advice out there, and finding I?m just not sure if I?m doing recommended exercises properly. Would really appreciate any insights, experiences, recommendations?

Thanks Betty This will inevitably happen to us so great to have the advice Starting a new job soon and dealing with the absence from nursery until tested factor is already stressing me out.

I just wanted to post to recommend Mama Codes. My 8 year old has had a fantastic time online with them over lockdown and is now signed up for their autumn weekly after school online clubs. I honestly can?t recommend them highly enough. Richard is a fantastic online teacher, who is so clear, so patient, and so respectful of all the kids. He has really helped my son grow in confidence and ability/enthusiasm. As he goes back to school tomorrow, just wanted to post this as a thank you and a recommendation. It was one of the few highlights of our week in lockdown and we look forward to carrying on.

Abbotsbury gardens are wonderful. Think they?re open

Thanks - but I am looking for classes, not resources.

my 7 year old is really struggling without the school routine. His school doesn't provide much support and I woudl like to find some kind of other learning environment that he can participate in - even if it's just once a week. Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations? Would be v appreciated!

Glad it makes a difference tho!

We can?t go any lower on the ceiling because of where the windows are relative to ceiling (close). Can?t replace windows obv - also in conservation area so wouldn?t get planning even if mad enough to do that. Otherwise I would have done this a long time ago, and sorted out claims later.

Yes absolutely - zero. Thanks for link James! Mazza6 All great point and sorry for not clarifying We own 60% ish of freehold. Flat upstairs owners own the rest. We haven?t got a mgt comp, have tried to deal with stuff between us as and when. We insisted on a carpet because they had bare floorboards, that lease specifically outlaws, caused friction but they did do it (not because it was a lease issue mind, saw email thread between them about ?having to appease us? - I think because they?re thinking of a future loft conversion and want easy compliance on various issues).Sound proofing is obviously more expensive- we are offering to pay freehold share. It?s actually made things worse as folks bounce around on nice soft carpet. But they don?t take the lease seriously. Doubt they?ve actually read it. Said they hadn?t a clue about no pets clause when they granted permission about the cat recently. Have done work on communal areas without our agreement Haven?t reimbursed us for work on the front garden that should be jointly funded. And do not pass on the clear noise restrictions in the lease to their tenants. For us - what?s the point in having these safeguards? The noise/ pet issue is most difficult for us, but the rest suck too.

Whoop!

Ganapati Takeaway kitchen is shut. I need some kind of alternative. Desperate. Any updates re restaurants/deliveries? Could do with a recommendation,.

Ok, so definitely not essential, so didn't want to post in the important Covid thread, but I need to get a few basics tomorrow and wanted to avoid Sainsburys as it is DEPRESSING. Well ok. Admitted. I NEED M&S chocolate eggs. I cannot cope with next week home school schedule and my new pre school/toddler crafty-ness without M&S chocolate eggs. Lordship lane store is my closest M&S. We're off to the park very early tomorrow and I was going to pop in. Is this madness? Does an air of apocalypse hang over trusty M&S? Will I succeed in my chocolate egg mission? Or should I avoid?

This is such an amazing thread thank you

Thanks Ole! Yes, I am, but probably need to get more organised I do feel for upstairs - a lot of the noise is what you might expect to be making in your 20s/30s, but effectively they?re being leased a property where they can?t have people home into the early hours without making anti social noise In that situation, I?d be looking to reduce my rent tbh for not being open about the state of the flats when I signed up, but much easier to blame the mean and moany downstairs neighbours I guess....

We have lived in this flat for 10 years. One flat above us. We are subject to awful impact noise and other noise from upstairs. I can hear normal conversations, let alone being woken when they crash in from the pub with their mates at 1-2am Monday morning. Tenants slam the front door constantly, which is stressful and highly unpleasant. My son finds it disturbing/ daughter woken up by noise etc We?ve asked them to reduce noise nicely, pointing out to them that they don?t really live in what you might understand as a separate property (ie their floor is effectively our ceiling)... they don?t care. Lots of ?oh it wasn?t me it was x new housemate so I can do anything? The lease on the property (ie that we own as joint freeholders, tho we have 2/3 share) has specific clauses related to noise restrictions (ie no music after 11) but landlords do not enforce. As far as they?re concerned, their tenants can do whatever they like unless the landlords themselves (who don?t live here) feel it?s anti social. They don?t view the lease as important - grant tenants pets despite the no pets clause and expect us to just put up with it. They want to have as little to do with the flats as possible and don?t feel they?re obliged to do anything about the dire noise, despite us having a freehold relationship with them. We?ve raised soundproofing with them since 2016 (can only be done from their flat), but they?re always dismissive. I?m done. We are losing sleep and I?m losing sanity - the stress of the continual conflict with tenants is becoming acute. Can anyone recommend someone to give good legal advice here? Our solicitor advises on our rights, but not on how we can enforce those, and I need someone who can help me action. I don?t see how we can move, as son is so settled at school and the cost of relocation etc. I need to find ways of staying here without dreading what the night will bring. Any help or recommendation v appreciated

Thank you! Great recommendations

No - the nursery can?t recommend childcare unfortunately. I have asked but it?s against policy. Can?t afford a nanny share, otherwise this would be a good solution.

My daughter has been off nursery with 3 separate illnesses ( 2x Hf&M plus one nondescript ?virus?)in past 4 weeks. We?ve been really impacted by this as a family, and I need to make my life easier by having really solid back up options. My work is more flexible, but it?s also insecure, so the fact that I?m developing a reputation at work is stressful. Covering her illness myself is no longer an option , and I can?t keep on with the phoning relatives scenario. That?s not working either. So what?s a good option in terms of emergency childcare that you can depend on to come through. I need someone/somewhere I can call in at short notice and I need them in my contacts. Now! Please tell me they exist!

Thank you both for your kind and helpful responses. I will investigation both routes. I cannot handle even the basic confrontation at the moment. Every email feels like there's someone in my face screaming at me at and that's NOT the tone of them (although I wonder about the intent in the gaps between the sentences if you know what I mean).

I don't know exactly what I'm asking for: advice, support, experience? Long term EDF user, but didn't want this to be attached to my user name, as I know quite a few people on here and don't want this to define me. And it makes me feel like an idiot to be honest..... I recently left a short term contract job after only a few weeks. This was partly because I couldn't manage it (and the very long daily commute) during horrendous sickness, headaches and insomnia. These were all pregnancy related, I found out about a week before starting that I was pregnant. I don't think they handled this properly, in terms of communication to me and discussions about how to ameliorate this situation, but I was also keen to put it behind me and wanted to move on because I felt utterly unable to cope. It was a maternity cover contract too and I felt paralysed by feelings of guilt, letting people down, and - yes, I know seems ridiculous in the cold light of day - shame in the fact that I was in the situation in the first place. But there were other reasons to let the job go and why I didn?t fight to keep it ? i.e. it certainly wasn?t my dream job, wasn?t going to give me great experience I could use (as became clear in the first few days), but it was money and potentially my last source of income before having a baby in October (I don't see many people employing me at the moment). And, had I known what I know now from HR, I certainly would NOT have resigned when I did.... So, related to that.. ..I have only just received (a month after my resignation) the first communication from HR about various things relating to the job (didn't have any commnunication from them before this related to the pregnancy, sickness or resignation). And a lot of it doesn't add up to me, although I don't want to go into it here. I don't know whether I'm being oversensitive or ignorant (probably both - and I know I'm more likely to feel vulnerable at the moment) but, to be honest, I feel a bit hard done by, upset by the whole thing, and lacking confidence to pursue it further. I don't have the resources (now I don't have a job) to consult a lawyer at the moment - i.e. I kind of want to know whether I have real legal basis for my feelings before I went down that route and risked making my financial situation far worse. And, at 16 weeks pregnant with still very bad days re illness, I don't know whether I have the emotional resilience to pursue this so I would want to get some idea of what getting involved in a dispute would actually mean. I also want to settle these feelings so I know, if I am being unreasonable in my expectations, I can square things with the organsiation and just move on. Is there anyone out there who has been in a similar situation (I know, mine's quite niche), knows their way around pregnancy related issues in employment, or who can offer a perspective from any personal/professional (even HR) experience? I know I'm relying on community spirit here, but I can offer a bottle of wine, or several coffees/cake, in return?

Good idea, Monniemae, will ask - looks like from their website that you can transfer to them any time from 16 weeks plus. And I'm sure it's all great for antenatal at St T's, but I had an exceptionally bad experience there with the 13 week and I am not eager to go back. I will explain this to midwives, who I'm sure will be sympathetic even if they tell me that I still can't do what I want... Out of interest, have St T's started doing any scans after 20 weeks? I know Kings do 32 week ones, just wondered if St T's do now too.

Thanks Monniemae, lemon and silly woman. I phoned Kings, who said that, whilst I'm in catchment for the hospital in terms of antenatal etc, I'm not for a HB. But it looks like I can have my antenatal at Kings and then transfer to the riverside team, like you did monniemae..So I might do that. Kings is better for antenatal for me for numerous (and probably self-identifying) reasons that I don't really want to go into.