dulwichdreadlocks

LuLu Too Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > HellNoHellYeah Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Anyone had to deal with someone who suffers > from > > this? I'm being....not sure how to describe > > it....stalked/pursued/targetted/befriended by > an > > individual who has this affliction. She comes > > across like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction... > > > I'm curious as to whether this person you mention > has received a definitive diagnosis of BPD. Have > she told you this or is this your interpretation > based on their behaviour and history? > Given her offending history, some degree of PD > would not be uncommon. > > As Annaj said - decide your boundaries and stick > to them. > Do not be manipulated - she is responsible for her > own behaviour, actions and the consequences > thereof. > Be explicit and clear about what you will and will > not accept - Maybe tell her if you do not wish to > be her friend or even acquaintance. > Alternatively disattend to her - ignore her. Do > not respond to emails/calls/texts if you do not > want to be involved in anyway with her. > > And if you really are frightened of or feel > threatened by this woman, then you must report > this to the Police. > If she is known to Mental Health or Probabtion > Services then this information is helpful to > them. > Even if she isn't known to such services, a Police > Caution (if grounds for such) will serve as some > degree of feedback to her on the unacceptability > of her behaviour and be noted on her Police > record. terrorizing people.

Yes I was. I don't get your connection btw being a raver and having low self esteem though woofmarkthedog Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Errr.... > > Flashbacks ....paranoia........ low self > esteem.....what do I tell the kids..... > > > Ahh haa > > > W**F > > > *even i'm starting to hate me.....*

Ordered from there for the first time today. They are wonderfully polite and accommodating. Seem really pleased to receive your business which is not something you can say for so many companies these days.

AA Gill is so awful Dr Proctor Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > AA Gill > Michael Winner > Paul Hamlyn (Publisher) > > Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.

I am moving to a new flat and new a phone line installed. Rang shitty BT and they want ?125 for installing it plus they can't do it for nearly 3 weeks. Do ANY of the other phone companies actually install new lines or does BT have a monopoly?

Mikecg Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think running is a bad way to exercise if you > have a bit of extra lard hanging around if you do > it on grass rather than the streets its an > improvement but the impact damage you can cause > can be quite extensive, my knee is also pretty > messed up in the cartilage department so I have to > be careful now so it's a toss up between going > down the gym or going on the piss. Going on the > piss is winning at the moment. Speak for yourself mate but not all of us have "a bit of extra lard" Have you considered going on a diet or something?

Is anyone here going to this? http://www.timeout.com/london/books/event/141558/andrew-motion.html

That's really helpful LegalBeagle - thanks. I didn't realise G&B accepted people just for coffee; I had thought you had to come in to get pissed/drink wine ;)

Anyone know of a local cafe that has: 1. Decent coffee 2. Plugholes so that I can plug in my laptop while I write? (My laptop battery has a short life span when not plugged in) Cheers :)

I mean when people go on about this stuff in 'real life' not on EDF.... Moos Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think almost everyone with and without children > finds endless buggy, poo, sick, minor ailments, > sleep-training, schools, bad behaviour etc. etc. > talk incredibly boring. Unfortunately, it's kind > of necessary to talk about kids if they're part of > your life, in order to work out how to solve the > various challenges that they bring. > > Best thing is to avoid talking about it in front > of non-buggy poo etc. people. I think it's quite > rude to harp on about your interests if you know > the person you're talking to doesn't share them. > > > However, like *Bob*, I'm not sure that people talk > about baby issues on the forum much outside > dedicated threads on the family room, so are you > making a wider point?

Before you flame me, I'm not suggesting that your kids are boring. I am asking whether any other childless people reading this sometimes find the whole buggy-pushing, baby-talk stuff utterly mind-numbing?

Like some of you, I'm also a coffee snob. Strangely when I was snowed in recently and out of coffee and the only thing available to me was cheap instant coffee - I was able to easily say no and do without. So perhaps I'm not exactly addicted to coffee, just addicted to high quality coffee;-)

*Bob* Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > dulwichdreadlocks Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > *Bob* Wrote: > > > -------------------------------------------------- > > > ----- > > > How did you manage not to spot the only local > > > bookshop in the area? > > > > Do I need to go into the bookshop to rent a > flat? > > I'm surprised you managed to find a letting agent. > All those pictures of properties in the windows, I > suppose. Dead giveaway. It was a tough call.

I'm toying with the idea of giving up coffee (again) and I'm keen to hear about other people's experiences with caffeine withdrawal and so on. I currently drink one or two very large black Americanos per day. When I've given up coffee before (by going cold turkey) I've ended up feeling tired, depressed and unable to poo. My reasons for wanting to give up coffee are that it makes me anxious and unable to sleep. Have you successfully quit coffee? Did you feel better - or worse - once you'd quit? :))

I am heading to Chener immediately to see this for myself!

That's really silly and surely being a graphic designer makes you a 'professional' anyway? sophiesofa Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Argh they are so rude aren't they. Me and my > boyfriend (i'm a graphic designer and he's a > carpenter) tried to rent a flat a while back but > there was another couple interested but the flat > was givien to them because they were a > 'professional couple' even though we were willing > to pay more than them, move a month earlier and my > boyfriend could fix anything that went wrong. > They just have no common sense! ARRGGHH

*Bob* Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > How did you manage not to spot the only local > bookshop in the area? Do I need to go into the bookshop to rent a flat?

I rang up a letting agency about a flat today and the second question I was asked was "occupation?" When I replied that I am an author, the letting agent immediately hung up the phone. Is author up there with drug trafficker and prostitute in terms of being seen as an unseemly occupation?

Moos Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The bookshop at the bottom end of Lordship Lane. I didn't realise it was a proper bookshop! Never ventured in as it didn't look real!

Moos Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Can help you with no.3 - it's because Chener is > fab! What is Chener?

>:D reminds me...years ago i was sleeping out in > Mexico, got bored, thought my skin could do with > an impromtu beauty treatment, so slathered it with > this honey. next morning I woke to see my cheeks > from my eye and a hord of minute spiders tucking > in.

....why is service so slow at Blue Mountain? ....why does the man who works in Healthmatters seem so unfriendly? ....why isn't there a Waterstones? ....why the disproportionate number of Indian restaurants on LL and vicinity?

IMO, East Dulwich is not all it's cracked up to be...

My Iphone was free.

I had quite a weird situation on the 185 today. I am wondering if I encountered 'Nigel'?