Nursery will not give me Child friends names

[reneet]

I am upset that the nursery my daughter goes to has refused to give me the names of the children she loves spending time with. Her birthday is coming up and I wanted to leave messages for their parents, inviting the children to my daughters birthday party, but the nursery has refused, I donot understand their reasoning, I am not asking for personal information, I just want the name to address the invites to and I will leave them on the message board for the parents to pick up.

[nunheadmum]

This sounds a little over the top but I guess it's all part of nurseries having to be overcautious in case something happens and the finger gets pointed.

Can you ask them to give out un-named invites and put your number in them (explaining the issue) for parents to contact you? Or perhaps put a note on the notice board with your number? Perhaps if you named the nursery on here and the age of your child, others from the forum with kids there could PM you?

[berryberry]

That is odd. My son's nursery make a point of introducing us to any new friends he makes in class to encourage his social skills. Its quite sweet.

I agree with nunheadmum, just print up a general invitation and invite children in his immediate age group and wait for the confirmations. I hope it goes well.

[kristymac1]

I think that's really bizarre - its important for parents to know who their kids are engaging with, you and other parents may want to meet up outside of nursery hours to foster friendships further - I'm assuming your little one is too young to tell you herself, so its up to the care givers to involve the parents. Bizarre.

[new mother]

I think they are trying to encourage you to invite everyone, perhaps?

[snss75]

Really strange! My son's nursery were forever telling me about his friends and even named a boy that is his "best friend" in my son's end of year report as apparently they are inseparable. I did the exact same thing as you when it came to inviting his friends to his birthday party and the nursery were more than happy to name the children he mostly spends time with and the parents were equally excited when I spoke to them about the party, especially since most of the kids now start reception and will be going to different schools. Both the nursery and the parents were keen to foster their friendship, just like kristymac said. If you are wanting to limit the number of children you invite, maybe you could do un-named invites and ask the nursery to hand them to the children they feel your child spends most time with? Or like nunheadmum and berryberry said, limit it to your daughter's age group? I feel for you, I'd be pretty pi..ed off if my son't nursery refused to tell me who his friends are!