A MASSIVE dilemma re parents and driving

[PeckhamRose]

Thanks everyone.

I am very grateful to you all for your advice and help.

[Ladymuck]

Good luck PR xx

[Fuschia]

I would have thought taxis to and fro would be cheaper than taxing, insuring and running the car...

[PeckhamRose]

Sometimes it isn't as simple as it sounds.

But thanks again everyone.

[NXgirl]

That sounds a horribly difficult situation. I don't know what I'd do in that situation, especially as it sounds as though your parents live too far away for you to be able to help directly.

Like several of the other posters here, I think that it might be worth investigating a mobility scooter further. I think that these can sometimes be funded using the motability scheme (it sounds as though your parents might be eligible on the basis of disability, though there's quite a bit of paperwork if they haven't already done it). Alternatively, it's often possible to get second hand scooters.

Taxicard, dial-a-ride, online delivery and local charities are all excellent ideas as well. Might it be worth trying to speak to someone at the local Age Concern to see if they have volunteers who might do basic tasks? Otherwise, social services can often provide home help, who can do bits and pieces around the home as well as picking up shopping and running small errands.

Citizen's Advice Bureaux or Age Concern would be my first point of call - they should be able to point you in the right direction, if nothing else.

[intexasatthe moment]

Also ,just to add ,in case your parents haven't already done so - it mught be possible for one or both of them to claim Attendance Allowance .

[ruffers]

PeckhamRose Wrote:

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> Sometimes it isn't as simple as it sounds.

> But thanks again everyone.

Read the thread with interest but have to conclude PR that yes, when it comes to it, the decision is as simple as it sounds. The consequences may be complicated but the core question is simple and it seems pretty clear to me he shouldn't be driving.

Imagine a londonbikers thread on about a driver with limited vision causing an accident...

[womanofdulwich]

Just seen our milkman - with www.milkandmore.co.uk

might be worth a go .

x

[sophiesofa]

My parents had this issue with my granny who also doesn't live near any of us. She really couldn't see well but wanted to continue driving. She's a bit stubborn and wouldn't listen to my mum or her other daughter so in the end all the grand children had to ring and persuade her it was too dangerous and luckily she listened to us. So it might be you need to get someone else, such as a family friend to have a word so he really listens rather than just dismissing it as his daughter being unnecessarily worried. My granny uses taxis, she does grumble about it but she'd definitely spending less than running a car.

[cassidy]

The southwark circle is very good dor helping the elderly with shopping, odd jobs etc

www.southwarkcircle.org.uk

[Tarot]

Can you get two people on a mobility scooter?

[PeckhamRose]

and their dog?!

Parents live nowhere near Southwark which is why I wrote the detail in my original post.

Mr PR is a helper on Southwark Circle, and after five months of waiting I might get my CRB check for to be a Helper on Southwark Circle, too. One day!