ljenkins37 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Does anyone have information as to who best to contact with concerns for an elderly neighbour. My partner and i often see an elderly lady walking our road and have, along with others, had to help her cross the often very busy road and get into the entrance of her home. Even at this point it seems she is still having difficulties getting into her house and using her stairs. Whilst we of course do not mind, this recently occurred quite late at night (post 11pm) and we are now quite concerned as to why she is even out at this time and for her general welfare. Any advice is much appreciated. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/ Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abe_froeman Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Might be worth calling the Age UK helpline and seeing what they suggest. I'm sure this is something they will have experience of. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167258 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sally Eva Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 social services. Persistently. and be good neighbours yourselves. I'm sure you are. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167271 Share on other sites More sharing options...
siousxiesue Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 ljenkins37 Wrote:-------------------------------------------------------> Does anyone have information as to who best to> contact with concerns for an elderly neighbour. My> partner and i often see an elderly lady walking> our road and have, along with others, had to help> her cross the often very busy road and get into> the entrance of her home. Even at this point it> seems she is still having difficulties getting> into her house and using her stairs. Whilst we of> course do not mind, this recently occurred quite> late at night (post 11pm) and we are now quite> concerned as to why she is even out at this time> and for her general welfare. Any advice is much> appreciated.Have you tried chatting about her situation whilst helping her out? Say just ask casually about family etc Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167273 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Penguin68 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Unless it is clear that someone is actually in distress and in need of aid then you must avoid breaching their privacy. Many older people (I am one) value their privacy and whilst some will be grateful for evidence of being a caring neighbour, others won't. Maybe engage in conversation, offer to swap emergency contact details (yours with hers) so that if either should need assistance the other could help. (You might wish someone to be notified if something happened to your house whilst you were away, for instance). Find out if she has relatives (children?). At the moment you are afraid she is getting into difficulties, or might do shortly. But jumping the gun may not be helping her. Particularly if 'the social' try to move her from her house against her will.Ideally you might see if she does need help, perhaps with shopping, or gardening, or DIY. But remember that the elderly are (rightly) very suspicious of those trying to get access to their houses or lives. Respect that. Work slowly to gain her confidence. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167277 Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pugwash Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 As previous posts have commented - this lady is likely to value her independence and may not take too kindly about others trying 'to help'. Strike up a conversation by all means - I assume she recognises you as neighbours and offer to get the odd bit of shopping if the weather is too bad. You can offer your telephone number, should she need assistance. You mention that she has difficulties in getting into her house and using stairs. An assessment by an OT (Occupational Therapist) could result in stair rails/grab rails and other aids - you could ask her whether she would like you to make contact with OT. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167280 Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljenkins37 Posted August 18, 2017 Author Share Posted August 18, 2017 Yeh i agree we didnt want to intrude too much on her but it was only after a fairly late in the evening incident that our concerns heightened. Thanks for the tips. Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167399 Share on other sites More sharing options...
rendelharris Posted August 18, 2017 Share Posted August 18, 2017 The PDF available on this page: http://www.2.southwark.gov.uk/downloads/download/2305/a-z_of_services_for_older_people_in_southwark is an A-Z of all services for older people in Southwark - perhaps you could point her to it or if she's not tech'ed up print it out for her, then maybe she could look through and choose any groups or services which might be suitable for her? Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167419 Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelBel65 Posted August 18, 2017 Share Posted August 18, 2017 How about a confidential chat with the charity Link Age Southwark who are based at Dulwich Hospital on ED Grove? http://linkagesouthwark.org/services/ Link to comment https://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/topic/163951-concerned-neighbour-who-best-to-contact-with-concerns-for-an-elderly-neighbour/#findComment-1167432 Share on other sites More sharing options...
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