Calling EDF wives...

[chimbwi]

Can you help?

I'm a jeweller and writer after a wee favour.

Can you remember the day hubby popped the question?

I have to write a blog post likely titled; ?First thing she thinks about her engagement ring.?

You know, the "first" thing that came to your mind when you "first" set eyes on it. Preferably at a surprise proposal. Your candid opinion. A few sentences to a paragraph max. All anonymous. Example:

?It literally took my breathe away? my own real-life fairy tale. My knees went weak and almost forgot to say yes, I will marry you!"

Another example:

?It's his grandmother's!!!" ("Let me explain: the ring was an heirloom that Tom?s late grandmother had worn. I just didn?t have it in me to protest but after five years of marriage, I still don?t like it. Happily, I love the wedding band ? which I had input in choosing - and that helps a lot!")

Can you help? Pretty please with a cherry on top.

I'll send a link to the published piece. If you can help please DM your paragraph.

***Lastly, as a token of appreciation, I can have your engagement ring professionally cleaned at cost.

Thank you,

Alvin

[moondancer]

Have you just copied this out from a Woman's Own 1954 ??

[chimbwi]

If I say yes, will you promise to help?

[Lynne]

We went and chose the ring together. It seemed rather a big thing not to have a say in

[Robert Poste's Child]

You could look for the DM online article not long ago, one of those 'tired hack trawls Reddit/Instagram' jobs.

Isn't it a bit, well, vulgar to buy the ring in advance and thrust it in the woman's face at the moment you propose? Used to be, anyway - on such an important topic you wouldn't want to imply that you're too sure of yourself or (worse) that she's open to a bribe. If the woman accepts, she then chooses the ring.

[Lynne]

Aye, Robert Poste's Child. I imagine a mort of junketing and prancing when that there ring do be a-gleaming and a-winking in it's liddle box.

Sorry, just finished "Conference at Cold Comfort Farm". Not as good.

[JohnL]

Saw a US man propose on YouTube - first she throws something at him then she tries on the ring - doesn't fit she puts it on her little finger - he says "it's only the dummy one"

[Angelina]

is the ring more important that being proposed to? how sad.

[Dbrskh]

I turned around one night in bed at 1am and woke my now husband up to tell him ?we should get married!?. Half asleep he said ?yes! Will you marry me??. Two months later we took ourselves to the registry office and got married. A month later we sent ?we eloped? cards to our families. No one was happy they weren?t there but totally missed the point about us getting married had nothing to do with them. I missed out on a proposal and my husband picking my engagement ring...but I married the man I love.

[JohnL]

Dbrskh Wrote:

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> I turned around one night in bed at 1am and woke

> my now husband up to tell him ?we should get

> married!?. Half asleep he said ?yes! Will you

> marry me??. Two months later we took ourselves to

> the registry office and got married. A month later

> we sent ?we eloped? cards to our families. No one

> was happy they weren?t there but totally missed

> the point about us getting married had nothing to

> do with them. I missed out on a proposal and my

> husband picking my engagement ring...but I married

> the man I love.

My sister had lived with her boyfriend for years and years (since she was 18 - she'll be 50 now) - last year I looked at her facebook - and just flippantly it said "got married".

Assume it was for legal reasons and she didn't want any big thing made (I had to 'give away' my other sister and I didn't think I was that bad :) ).

[chimbwi]

Thank you all for your comments so far. Very helpful indeed.

[Robert Poste's Child]

Lynne Wrote:

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> Aye, Robert Poste's Child. I imagine a mort of

> junketing and prancing when that there ring do be

> a-gleaming and a-winking in it's liddle box.

>

> Sorry, just finished "Conference at Cold Comfort

> Farm". Not as good.

Did they go a-mollocking when the sukebind was in flower?

In my next EDF incarnation I'm coming back as Aunt Ada Doom.

[Lynne]

Sukebind be mostly a-grummetted up and tis lonesome times mollocking alone.

[Robert Poste's Child]

You and me both.

[KidKruger]

A friend of mine agonised for months about asking his girlfriend to marry him, he cashed-in some policies or other to get her a ring he hoped she'd remember, arranged a lovely night out and eventually did what he thought was a traditional / worthy proposal. She said yes and loved the ring and their wedding was great and they have a family now.

I'd never thought of it as being a sense of entitlement on the man's part when he proposes with a ring, but I guess anything however positive, can be perceived if required, differently.

[Robert Poste's Child]

'If required'? Not sure what that's implying but if it was in response to my post it was really just about good manners. I'm probably older than you, though, and I realise that popular culture has moved on due to what people see on TV and in films, not to mention the wedding industry.