The sad times

[computedshorty]

There are things that happen that are completely out of my hands, and I am unable to change them.

Yesterday I had a phone call from my younger sister age 73, living in Eastbourne, she is housebound after accident.

Sheila told me that our brother Brian had died that afternoon, she will of course not be able to attend her twin brothers Funeral.

In my mind that is the most tragic thing that could happen.

In the past circumstances have prevented, us from attending three of our siblings funerals.

Our older sister Edith aged 78 died in Spain, we were unable to get a flight in time.

Our next older sister Doreen aged 83 died in Burnley Lanc?s, we were not able to go because of our own infirmity.

My oldest brother William aged 69 died in the Philippines, the climate meant that the Funeral had to be done immediately.

We were able to attend our next older brother Kenneth aged 61 Funeral as it was at Elmer?s End, coincidently the same Crematorium as will be for Brian. Aged 73.

For me these times are traumatic enough, with out the extra difficulties.

I still have the memory of driving my car to the Crematorium for the Funeral of my father William aged 80, back in 1965 the car broke down outside One Tree Hill, and we had to ran through the Cemetery to the Crematorium just in time to see the coffin disappear from view.

A memory that had haunted me for 47 years.

I do hope that I can get there for Brian, but I am presently being cared for 50 miles away.

[lux aurea in obscuro]

Hello Computedshorty,

Sorry to hear of your loss my thoughts and prays are with you.

50 miles is not so far could it be a friend local to you is able to assist with your mobility issue? I hope it works out for you and your able to attend.

Peace.

[steveo]

Cheer up Shorty

[Gidget]

I think Shorty is asking if anyone can drive him to his brother's funeral.

[PeckhamRose]

I might, if he could pay for the car hire and petrol, depending on the time and day, of course.

[Huggers]

and his sister is housebound and can't go either. However, when my mother was in this situation we were able to arrange for a carer to accompany her in a paid taxi. It did cost an arm and a leg but she made the ceremony- a wedding in this case, despite being immobile and a bit doolally. I do wish Computershorted the best of luck with finding a good arrangement.

[DJKillaQueen]

Hi Computed, very sorry to hear of your loss. I had a similar tragic experience from my mother's death three years ago and very much understand your sense of helplessness.

Try getting in touch with Eastbourne Seniors Forum and see if they can help in some way. They may certainly know of a local taxi service for the housebound and probably subsidised by the local authority too.

Eastbourne Seniors Forum

They might be of help to your sister for other things as well.

PR...maybe Southwark Circle will be able to help computed if no one comes forward to take him(her)?

Southwark Circle

Good Luck x

[yuhang]

I hope it works out for you and your able to attend.

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[dengser]

I do wish Computershorted the best of luck with finding a good arrangement.

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