Ruth_Baldock

Not up for a night feed- still got a few weeks to go until that all kicks in again- but if Seb wakes in the night or I wake up for any other reason (last night was because my husband "needed a pee, where's my dressing gow ?" grrrrr!) then I too lie awake and it's utter crap :(

Another snorer here; my husband says it's terrible whenever I'm pregnant and I suspect that's due to increased pressure on my asthma/spinal problems like EmilyE pointed out. Cheeky S also snores, so when we used to bedshare, poor husband never got any sleep... My Stepfather snored so loudly that he kept my mum and I and ALL children awake, despite him sleeping downstairs and most of us 2 floors up in the loft conversion. With him it was a weight/fondness of the drink problem, also smoking. If he's going to have a drink now, Mum makes him sleep downstairs and uses heavy duty earplugs. She says seperate sleeping arrangements saved her sanity, I can imagine why.

The fitting studio are excellent, I went there when I was pregnant with Cheeky S, and then when I'd been bf him for 6 months, and I've just been back again for more comfy bras. I also had the same problem; me and S favoured one boob over the other and for a long time one side was a 32E and the other was a C. Ack. All evened out in the end though...

Seb always, always gets a fever when he's teething. He also gets a teething spotty rash and snotty nose, which leads to mucho coughing, so it's almost impossible to tell if he's teething or has a virus. He has 18 teeth at 16 months though, which leads me to believe it's almost always teething rather than illness. brufen always works, calpol never does. poor babs.

It's all true. ALL TRUE.

We usually get crying if he wakes in the middle of the night (normally from a bad dream, so can't blame him...). In the morning we hear him having a little sing/chat, then he sounds like he's lecturing someone, then we get 'Mama, dadaaaa! ab ab ab! (seb seb seb!) MAMAS!!!! DAAAAADAAA!!!!!!!' until he gets really p-d off, and then the shrill shrieking of death begins. Lord help us all. If we get in early enough, we can usually give him his dummy and he snoozes for a bit, but my husband can never find the dummy. It's at this point that the Benny Hill theme starts playing in my head...

I believe it involved a post-bath, naked toddler, running around the top floor of our flat demanding ceebeebies and milk and biscuits and then shouting 'NNNNAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAOOOOOO! NOOOOOO DAAADAAAA!!!'. I also believe it took my husband well over 10 minutes to wrestle the child into his babygro/gro-bag. And even then, my son had to remind him to put his mobile on before he left ('Dadaaaa! this! do this!' with vigorous pointing) I was downstairs scoffing Haribo and watching 'Don't Tell The Bride' on the tellybox. Smug.

:) This fills me with optimism. Subsequent babbies are meant to be more chilled when there is a toddler hanging about, right?!?!?!?! Anyway, I liked the article even though I am no longer bedsharing/cosleeping/breastfeeding (I don't count latching on, saying 'Noms!' then biting me as breastfeeding by any stretch of the imagination...)

Thanks to all that posted! I managed to prove to my husband that I was, as usual, right by: 1) Showing him this thread and 2) Making him try to calm Seb down and get him to go to bed/sit nicely without my assistance. He then agreed that Seb should be kept in a cot until sixth form. We're going to invest in a babynest, second hand probably, and then when Baby is old enough for a cot, buy a one of those toddler cot/bed thingies that converts, so that if Seb STILL isn't ready for a bed (i.e. still a total and utter mentalist), we're okay. Poor, because of all the money thrown at this, but okay. This means I get to go to John Lewis and do more shopping for baby things. This is excellent. As a hilarious aside, when I mentioned the three-month rule for change in a toddler's life around the time their sibling rocks up, I told my husband that I'd read about it on here. His response? "Do you literally do everything the internet tells you to???" WELL, OBVIOUSLY! We don't have a magic 8 ball anymore, what else am I meant to do?!?!

Ooh yes, Millpond v good :) Well done to you Moos, and little twosling. I used to dread/hate night-feeds until Cheeky S started sleeping better and then I couldn't WAIT for his 6.30 bf- after which he'd conk out in our bed till 8-9am. Lush! I really hope, by some divine luck, that Baby Baldock Mark II is one of those mythical babies that feeds every 4 hours,doesn't cry when they wake, has a nice feed then goes off to sleep QUIETLY until the next feed, then sleeps through at 12w (hahahah ha ha ha HA). This is unlikely. I don't even know how you'd sleep train a baby in a 2bdr flat, when they're sharing with their older sibling?!

BSP: I had similar comments for months and months. Seb's sleeping habits only became a real problem from about 4 1/2 months onwards, but until then, we did what you did and it worked great. By the time he was 10 months old, I was a wreck, but my husband was aokay. My Mum was all onboard to sleep train but my MIL would call me up just after I'd put him down, comment she could hear him crying, and make pained noises and talk about being 'cruel' and 'brutal' and 'just shh him to sleep' (I did this once, it took almost three hours. Then he woke up 45 minutes later...). Sleep training Seb was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, I was a nervous wreck during the process, but I felt we'd hit the wall, so to speak, and on average, I was only getting about 3.5 hours sleep in total a night. I went back to work and kept falling asleep on the bus, only to be woken up by the driver at the end of the route :/ However, I have friends who have their 18mo old up with them till 10:30, then go to bed for a breastfeed, then they all sleep soundly till 10am the next morning; works fab for them (their little girl is nice and calm in the evenings; Seb would crawl around like a maniac...) so I guess it truely is different strokes.

S' head was always perfectly formed and sans the whole Friar Tuck bald patch because he was up so much in the night. Woe. My husband is a bit of a hippie usually, so I'll suggest the lovely hammock. I've seen them pop up on here a few times. Hurrah!

Cheeky S is LESS than 1.5- still only 16mo- a baby, a mere baby! *wails*. When we took S to look at beds in John Lewis, he was MOST unimpressed, even with the dinosaur bedding, which made Husband say 'hmm, maybe we should wait'. Yes, yes we should. By the time New Baby is 6-9 months, Seb will be...er...2.5? Ish? I think I'll suggest to my husband that we worry about it then. Also, you're right- so much for such a little person to deal with! New bed, new baby (and all the crying/pooing/constant bf from Mummy) which that entails.

I really love the idea of a babynest, for loads of reasons, but also believe they have a good resale value? I also like this: http://www.johnlewis.com/230878308/Product.aspx (We had a look in JL, it's very very light, yet stable, and would be easy to store. Also bigger than a standard moses basket...) I am convinced that if S isn't in an enclosed bed-type-thing he'll go mental. Also, we hear him waking between 10pm=midnight and chatting away, playing with his cot toys. He normally drops back off to sleep, but if he could get out of bed then it would be a much bigger problem. It took 6 months to get him into a good enough bedtime routine, and I think he's too young to understand 'It's bedtime, get back into bed'. When he's on a mattress at my MIL's, he gets up and plays in the room, and also, rolls off mattress onto the floor. Oh gawd.

I also work with a Sorrel...*shifty eyes* Who are you?! Who do you work for?! I think it's a lovely name! Tarragon, less so. Although...looking at it written down, it looks nice. Loads of 'Chillis' at my secondary school, takes me back...

When did everyone move their 'babies' to toddler beds? How did it go? I still feel that Cheeky S is too small, and too cheeky, to be moved to a toddler bed (I suspect he will shimmy off and scream whilst throwing himself againt his stairgate/play with his toys all evening). I also suspect it will result in weeks of crap nights, in which Muggin's will be doing the re-settling. Hmph. My husband thinks this is A Brilliant Idea, and I think this stems from not wanting to buy another cot, only for us to have to get rid of it in due course (say, 4-6 months) when Cheeky S IS actually ready for a bed rather than a cot. I asked whether it might be an idea to get a cot that converts into a bed, and put him in that so the smaller cot (the one he's in now...) can be used for the new baby, but apparently this was not acceptable to His Majesty. Mr B seems very very keen on getting him out of his cot and into a bed before the next baby arrives (in 7-10 weeks...). I am less keen; can you tell?

I was born in 1985 and let me tell you, the number of 'Jason' and 'Kylie' s at my primary school was huge, mainly a few years below me. Apparently, my name was most popular in the early 1900s. Lamia wasn't featured (no surprises there...)

Ooh, a graph! Fancy! Yes, lots of nickname opportunities with Sebastian: Seb, Seb-Seb, Sebastababy etc...

I drank RLT like it was going out of fashion in the third trimester. I felt very 'healthy' and smug (I thought it tasted minging) but it didn't do too much for me, I have to say. No, no, you're much better off with a hot curry (Safa in SE5 do amazing aubergine ones, mmmm. Best curries ever) and the dreaded sex. Tried and tested, and all that.

MP: LOVE the name Cillian, yet another one Mr B vetoed. We had a similair problem with Portuguese names sounding a bit naff when anglicised, we liked Adriana for a girl for about two minutes. No idea where we got Sebastian from, it's not overly Iberian, I don't think. I was talking to my Mum about this, in any case, because we've all got slightly odd names. My sister is Lorelai Octavia, for example. I was going to be called, not joking, LAMIA. Off all the names...very nice, but to be called after a poem about a mythical snake lady...well. I think I dodged a bullet, with the first name thing, thats the thing about having mad hippie parents. Saying that, Cheeky S has about a million names, one of which is Dallas. Yep. Sorry kid.

I wanted to call this baby Rio- always wanted a girl called Rio. Husband was less than impressed.

Personally, I've (unfortunately) never had a good experience with a HV; mainly through shockingly bad/incorrect advice. I was told to stop breastfeeding IMMEDIATELY and exclusively FF my son when he lost a bit of weight, even after he regained it and started to, slowly, put weight back on. A friend was told to give her 4wk old baby 1 oz of orange juice to relieve constipation. I was told to begin solids at 17w, and was also told to bring my son back for his second MMR shot 8 weeks after his first one; surely this can't be right????

Baby's first name a secret until she makes an appearance- middle name Ruby though, Helen, good guess work!!!!

Ha, I know the feeling... My husband: Won't you be bored with nothing to do when we're not here? Me: Nothing to do? That's the dream!

Many exes have ruined lovely boy's names for me! Yep, Helen- one of each. Can stop here, phew, not doing this pregnant and Mum to toddler thing again. Ever. Baby has a uncommon but not unheard of first name, and the name my family call me as a second name (no one in my extended family has ever called me Ruth, very very odd...) SB: I remember talking about the name Atticus with you when Baby SB v 2.0 was still in utero! Good taste :) Love love LOVE his actual name though, and he's the only one I know so there :P