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etta166 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Saffron Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > I think it's 1 month between cp vax and mmr. > > Also used sltc and it was fine. > > > Do you know why that is? There is a combined MMRV > available too, so just surious why the MMR has to > be given a month apart from the Varicella vaccine > on it's own. MMRV in very young children comes with a higher risk of febrile seizure. MMR and Varicella can be given on the same day, separately, without this risk. The reason for this difference is not fully understood. If not given on the same day, then a sufficient time in between must be allowed before giving the other vaccine. This is because the active response to the first vaccine can interfere with the other. Sorry, that's still a bit confusing. I'll try to find some links for it tomorrow. xx

I think it's 1 month between cp vax and mmr. Also used sltc and it was fine.

Yes, it isn't just boys. We get frequent headbump phone calls for our daughter - BUT I've never had to collect her from school because of it. Shouldn't games that encourage excess rough play be discouraged by schools, even if some parents are encouraging it at home? Surely one of the responsibilities of a school is to instill sociable behaviour common to all students? Agreed it's a never ending problem for playground monitoring, but that job would certainly be better if staff ratios were higher and schools had clear rules for staff and students regarding rough play, even related to accidents. Accidents are certainly more likely with less supervision, otherwise why bother with supervision at all.

Agreed, an injury to the head that leads to the school requesting that you collect your child from sickbay, should automatically lead to the classroom teacher and the head making themselves available to discuss the incident. TBH, wouldn't it be a liability for them not to discuss it with you? How many adult supervisors are there in the playgroud? What's the adult/child ratio? What's the school policy towards the child that caused the injury?

Agree it's developmental, totally normal for some children. If you try to 'force' her to be independent before she's developmentally ready, you're likely to cause a rebound effect where the clinging behaviour will be more intense. There is an anthropological shift towards independence around 4/5 years, but all children vary. Agreed there are no teenagers who think it's cool to cling to their mums! DH and I helped our daughter with night time separation anxiety by making a little mat next to our bed where she could choose to sleep. Giving choices helps give the child a sense of control, makes a better transition towards independence. xx

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Not had to do this for a nanny, but my university students have to have these for clinical placements. I think the process would be similar. Search the gov.uk site for disclosure barring service check, and follow the directions. You can do this yourself from the government website, no need for a third party service. xx

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I did a combination of NHS physio at Lewisham plus private sports massage at the Sunflower Centre in Brockley. This was for postpartum rotated pelvis and ongoing problems from mild scoliosis. There is also an excellent osteopath at the Sunflower Centre. This combination of NHS/private worked really well for me. Maybe worth a go? NHS physios don't really do manipulations, and can be difficult to schedule. Good luck. xx

You might be able to get a place on an NCT short course. These are intense 2 day courses. There are likely to be several running locally. xx

Sids in Brockley is pretty decent, near the junction of Adelaide Ave.

TE44 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > There is nothing stopping communication between > the child and parent, Actually, the level of communication (i.e., understanding) is set both by the child's age and relative intelligence, no? Therefore the depth of communication is effectively 'stopped' by the ceiling of understanding. > i'd imagine there > may have been some people grateful, whos children > will not accept there reasons for not buying > things. and > feel to keep the child happy will give in almost > every time. Maybe some people are grateful. But others are upset and disturbed, including children. Shouldn't the gallery/artist have given this more consideration before deliberately putting into a public area, an exhibit which could cause considerable distress to some individuals of a vulnerable population? (Or maybe they did consider this, and they did it anyway. Maybe they DID CONSIDER that this had the POTENTIAL TO UPSET YOUNG CHILDREN, and they DID IT ANYWAY in public. That's just creepy any way you slice it!)

Tbh, as a piece of art I agree it's rubbish as it seems to both patronise and degrade a vulnerable population, i.e. children, who aren't able to grasp its meaning. As an anodyne, let's film our children giving away balloons to other children at Southbank. Like 'free hugs' but with kids/balloons?! PM me if you're up for a laugh...

Well if it is performance art, and I see her, I will definitely be attempting some performance art of my own. *checks bag for tampons and hazmat suit*

I'm temped to say try sticking a tampon up her nose and light the string on fire, but you probably don't have one in your bag. How about just sneezing copiously on her, complaining of feeling feverish after a recent trip to west Africa, then collapsing nearby? Just a thought.

Wow that is weird and sad. Will be on the lookout for that if we hit Southbank over the holidays.

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Sounds like you're all in a really tough phase, but it is just a phase! xx

jennyh Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- >... With the arrival of her brother > we fell into the classic trap of sweetening her > with tv etc whilst I spend hours > feedings/changing/rocking etc so there aren't many > things that she cares enough about to have them > taken away! > > She cares about YOU! And your time with her is being 'taken away' by her brother. Any chance you can increase your one-on-one time with her, even if it's only an hour once a week to do something of her choosing (books, caf?, local shop)? xx

BeccaL Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Have to say, not sure about relating behaviour to > Christmas presents - are you "really" prepared not > to give her presents if her behaviour doesn't > improve? I think with this sort of thing it's > essential that you are 100% prepared to go through > with the sanction, whatever it is, because they > will test you on this... > Sorry, crossed posts. But I agree with you on this one! And on the subject of testing behaviour, and siblings... I did actually wrap up a jar of dead worms for my brother one xmas when he was particularly horrible to me! :-O

Wellll...... at the risk of making myself incredibly unpopular... I'm going to suggest that xmas presents ARE just given out of love, and we love our children (and vice versa) even when we're totally annoyed with them. So maybe the idea of xmas presents should be somewhat divested from immediate behaviour, and instead reinforce the idea that she could be thinking about what presents she might want to give other family members for xmas? Just a thought. Otherwise, I agree that you need some type of more immediate reward. What about a marble jar? Set a goal, eg 5 marbles for a treat. A marble goes in for being good, but marbles don't come out for bad behaviour. This way only the good behaviour is rewarded. The bad behaviour receives no attention at all. A treat might be a lucky dip bag containing a mix of minichocs, stickers, mini toys etc. Or you might agree to set a 'super goal', 10 marbles for a bigger toy, afternoon out with just the two of you (no sibling), etc. When the marble goal is reached, you empty the jar and start again. You could still run the sticker chart in the background. Maybe, a sticker every time the marble jar has reached its goal? xx

I work fulltime, and from the age of 2.5 yrs for my daughter I did a combination of nanny/nursery, until starting reception this year. The nursery was near my work, which was nice but the commute could be a little fraught. I liked the social structure at the nursery, and great inter-change of ideas with all the staff. My LO did ft nursery 3 days/week, then nanny 2 day. This gave her more one-on-one time, which I thought was very important at a young age. Plus, it gave me a little extra flexibility (could request the nanny to come early/stay late if needed). Combination care definitely worked for us. xx

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Sounds like nighttime separation anxiety, not like you're being "played". There may be genuine physiological reasons that he needs more reassurance now, e.g. developmental stressors. Repeated nightmares are a classic sign of stress in children and adults. If it doesn't get better with extra bedtime cuddles, I think I'd seek some more specific advice. Although tbh an hour of intermittent checking and cuddling for a ~5-6 yo seems within the range of normal. It's just v stressful on you at a time of day when you need to relax too! What about letting your LO fall asleep in your bed then move to his? Or make up a little mat by your bed where he can come sleep in the middle of the night if he wakes upset? xx

Not had one yet (a bit pricey), but Neal's Yard Remedies reed diffuser looks nice. If you have a can-do attitude, you could probably make one for yourself much cheaper. xx