Saffron

I react to some sunscreens as well, low or high factor, and sensitive skin creams. I've never been able to figure out which ingredient(s) it is, but some sunscreen formulations make my skin feel like it's burning even though there's nothing to see. For about the last 20 years, I've consistently found that Olay sunscreen is ok for my skin. It's low factor, so I have to keep re-applying. Covering up and sticking to shade between 11am-3pm is good. Also you might try a zinc-based sunscreen on areas prone to burn, like nose/cheeks. Zinc is a physical sunblock rather than a chemical sunscreen, so it's formulated completely differently.

Try baby oil, then washing liquid?

Try offering them for free or low price in the family classifieds. Give a good history of their use. With modern nappies and mattress covers, the mattress underneath may be fine. Otherwise if you don't want to throw them away you could have an outdoor cover made for the cot mattress as a big play cushion for the garden. Mattress from the moses basket could be used as a prop for a dolly bed.

Agreed about the relative polarity of the article. Plus I'm also deeply uncomfortable with the negative cross-cultural comparisons in so far as they seems to promote an ugly kind of 'us' versus 'them' attitude, instead of just trying to find what works best for a given context. I'm pretty sure not all French nurseries are 'forcing' 2 yos to sit still at desks, as neither are all British nurseries perfect models of free play!

What did you finally remove them with?

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-22815837 Wow, just WOW! (and not in a nice way)

Wow, you two have all fun. The only unexpected calls I ever get are for those ridiculous PPI claims people! (Maybe I should start asking them about their nipples?!?) ;-)

first mate Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I can undersdtand why Louisa was peeved too. The > buggy owners tutted because she didn't ask them to > move and would possibly have tutted if she had > done so. Sometimes, you don't want to have to ask > people to move, you want them to pick up on the > bleedin' obvious. Purportedly tutted.

Sometimes it helps to veiw a tantrum as having 3 discreet stages. The first stage is "point of no return". It's like the event horizen on a black hole. If you can avoid tipping over this point, by distraction, walking away, negotiating, extra cuddles, or bribes etc, then you can effectively prevent the tantrum. If you can't avoid the tipping point (it's just not always possible, is it?!), then a tantrum is inevitable. This is the second stage, the "angry/explosive" stage. This is like a an emotional short circuit. Don't try to talk or reason with a child in this stage. Any thing you do, even kind well-intentioned words, can add fuel to the fire. You cannot reason with children in this stage. They are not in control of themselves. (This is the point where I silently and unceremoniously shove little Saff in the buggy, and leave the playground wondering why we ever go there at all!) This stage burns itself out. Then stage three begins, the "sad/sorrowful" stage. The screaming tapers off and sad sorrowful little snuffles ensue. At this stage, children need a lot of cuddles, but sometimes it's good to ask if they're ready for a cuddle, just to check they're really finished with stage two. (This is the point where Little Saff is often not only sad, but also unhappy with herself for misbehaving. We usually both say 'sorry' --b/c I've often lost my cool at some point too-- have big hugs, and talk about what went wrong. She's only 3 yo, so we keep it really simply, just one or two sentences, and don't try to lay blame.) I think it's much harder if you have more than one child with you. (But even one child can be very challenging!) Does it work if you keep a treat in your bag for the way home, so your LO has something to look forward to when you leave the playgroud? This might avoid a tantrum altogether. My daughter really like warm milk, so I keep some in the bag for the way home. She finds this really soothing when she's worn out from a long day. The bath is more problematic, but we've been having this issue too. So I think it's pretty common. If she's past tipping point once I get her into the bathroom, then I don't try to talk or negotiate with her. I stand in the bathroom with her until she's done screaming. This would definitely be trickier with two children! Could you put your younger child in the bath while you sit with your older child in the bathroom with her? Alternatively, sometimes we're able to avoid a tantrum by offering a shower or wash in the sink instead of a bath.

Is there a story club at your local library? Also there used to be a morning story session at the Horniman. Does anyone know if it's still running?

There is another very good reason for making a sympathtic GP your first place to seek profession help, if professional help is what you want. That reason is that your GP should order blood tests which could help rule out other health issues such as thyroid, low iron, or low Vit D, etc. While not being the cause of anxiety/depression outright, these conditions can exacerbate underlying problems. If after that you want to explore other avenues of treatment, by all means there are many to choose from. SarahG, your post seems genuine enough, but keep in mind that there have been cases of people posting disingenuous comments on local forums. So suffice it to say that making blanket statements about the curative powers of any treatment (NHS or private) aimed at vulnerable individuals, is always going to met with some skepticism. xx

cuteclaire Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > how does someone know if they have the bipolar,i > have anxiety attacks and panic attacks is this > similar in anyway at all,i hope you don't mind me > asking you.x No, that sounds quite different from bipolar disorder. Bipolar individuals alternate to varying degrees between mania and depression - in other words extreme highs and lows. Panic disorder and Generalized Anxiety disorder are two distinct disorders not associated with bipolar. Also some people just have more anxiety than others but not a disorder. If it's upsetting you or interfering with you life, definitely worth seeking some advice from sympathetic GP or other professional. Xx

Another vote for lego duplo, plus there's another size up from that. I don't know what it's called, but it stacks higher a bit easier. Now that my LO is a bit older (3.5), I sometimes put it in the cupboard for months then bring it out on a rainy day. She still loves it. It's always worth rotating toys. It's like seeing old friends again when you bring them back out!

Marilyn Wedge (in the link) makes some valid points about social context in respect to diagnosis and treatment. But what's her point at the end of impling that attachment-style parenting is related to ADHD?

I'm not saying that the "Thrive" method doesn't work. I'm saying that there's no such thing as a "cure all", which is how Rob Kelly appears to promote his method.

With all due respect, I disagree that everyone is able to entirely eliminate anxiety. For some people, a better strategy will be to harness this aspect of their personality with positive coping behaviours. It's down to the individual, his/her personality, etc. For some people it can be better to learn to manage anxiety successfully, than to repeatedly try and fail to get rid of it. Of course, it may be down to definition as well. One point of view may be that successful management effectively equates to getting rid of it. To the OP, as per your original post, I was trying to think of some words of wisdom to make you laugh. Sorry couldn't come up with any words of wisdom, but I did think of something funny that happened when I was very tired, post-partum, struggling with anxiety. First time at a new swimming pool with my highly mobile ~1 year old, I was so anxious about being in a new environment (and also soooo shattered from endless sleep deprivation), that I managed to put a coin in the non-refundable locker the wrong way around -- twice! Then the poor bloke next to me took pity, and he actually put the 20 pence in for me!! Mortifying at the time, hilarious in retrospect. Sense of humour was one of the first things to suffer post-partum for me. Laughter can be very elusive, but it really is excellent medicine. xx

stacey-lyn Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > In N'Orleans we call 'em beignets. > > And I bet y'all can't stop at one, f'sure. F'sure! But I'll eat my hat if ED ever gets a branch of Cafe du Monde or Morning Call!!

Maybe it's the "unflinching belief" that's the aberration? In which case, it could apply to anything.

I think those foods are all really high in oxalic acids, particularly if eaten raw. Could it be the oxalic acid making a pre-existing condition worse?

But is violent extremist behaviour driven by religion, or is it a disorder in itself which finds expression in religion?

What would be the cost of buying a cheap stroller-style buggy when you get there? Could be really useful for naps.

???? Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > StraferJack Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Those 3 links aren't meant to be definitive or > > anything. Just first three i picked up on > phone. > > I'm not trying to be argumentative but was > > surprised when I saw that ES article presented > as > > good > > > ....or better than Brand,s rubbish just a quick > reference from today. You really think his is > insightful? Really? Really! Well, it's all relative. For me, insightful compared to the bollocks I've seen/heard elsewhere. For others, obviously, Brand IS the load of bollocks. But I like that it gets people talking about the issue. It's interesting to read different points of view. (Forumites for sure have some interesting insights... but again, it's all relative, no? ;-) )

Can you elaborate on what you mean by "it all boils down to sheer weight of numbers and territory"?

Hmmm, link not working...? Here's the long form:

http://darkernet.in/russell-brand-and-the-woolwich-murder/ Some very interesting insights.