womanofdulwich wrote:- I am so determined not to let my partner be that useless- or my sons!! I am afraid that it's not up to you, diy skills are obtained by working as or with tradesmen, everyone I left school with had to buy a kit of tools. Now they leave school with '0's and 'A's and sit in front of a screen at work. Hardly the picture you were painting for your offspring. When I left school I was expected to "get a trade" which no-one could take away from you, and if I had any other ambitions they took a poor second place. I was always in the top 4 or 5 at woodwork and metalwork without trying too hard. It seemed an inevitability that I would end up working with my hands as I was not interested in further education, I wanted money, and working in a paid job seemed the way forward. My buddy who retired a couple of years ago, recently tiled the bathroom for his daughter and son in law, the soninlaw played football whilst the job was being completed. He works in insurance and has little or no practical skills. So my buddy ended up bailing them out. I have several such stories I could recount of retiree's shoring up their ham-fisted offspring.