Jeremy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > jimmy two times Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > I'm confused. The woman behind the check out in > Sainsburys called me 'love' today. > > Good point. Plenty of women call men "love", > "darling", etc. I don't think it's a sexist thing, > just a common turn of phrase in some circles. I > can kind of see Sue's point, but sometimes you > just need to take things in the manner they were > intended. I agree that sometimes 'love' is employed with no hint of insult (I'm northern, I use and hear it all the time when I go home), but I think Sue was right to flag it if she felt it. Often with sexist (or other kind of "ist") comments, it's the casual nature that makes it so insidious. What I took issue with was Sue's saying she was offended by it, then Iain and JTT both saying it again, like Sue's feelings on the matter didn't count. In some circles cunt is considered a term of endearment, but if someone didn't like it, I wouldn't call them a cunt for not liking it...