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I had a (quite quick) home birth and was extrememly happy with the decision. Regarding hospital transfers - a friend of mine planned a home birth but in the end had to be transferred to the hospital. When I spoke to her about her experience she said that she would still plan a home birth for the second one, even if it was likely that she would need to be transferred again, because her experience up until the transfer was so positive. -A

Hello again Ruth! I woke up this morning thinking of you and had a thought -- have you tried putting your baby to sleep on his side? The midwives and health visitors don't tell you about this, but if you ask them about it specifically they'll tell you it's OK. I foung that putting my baby to sleep on his side helped him to settle more easily and he slept longer. I wish I had know you could do this from the beginning. If he was on his back sometimes I could roll him onto his side and he would settle back to sleep without a feed. If he doesn't balance easily or moves around too much, you could try buying a sleep positioner or rolling some towels to place on either side. I would offer you my sleep positioner - but it's already in my in-laws loft in Essex! Also, and I have no illusions that either of these suggestions will be a magic cure, but you could try putting a drop or two of lavender oil on a muslin and place near him when sleeping. Perhaps this might also help him sleep more restfully? Thought these might be worth a shot!

Obviously, different things work for different parents and babies, but thought I'd add a voice from a thus far successful experience with exclusive BLW. I started BLW with my baby at 5 1/2 months after he started grabbing food out of my hand and sticking it in his mouth and it's worked a treat for us. It's not always perfect - he sometimes gets frustrated if something keeps slipping from his hand, but he's now 7 months and I'm amazed at how his dexterity has improved and he can get just about any food he wants in his mouth. He does gag sometimes, but has never choked. He gags much less now than in the beginning and only really gags with something new. In terms of the amount he's eating, he still breastfeeds quite a lot, but he's obviously getting a decent amount of food based on what I find in his nappies! That said, I think the book is not very well written and lacks practical guidance. I pretty much just "winged" it based on my instincts. If anyone wants to talk to me about it, feel free to PM me and I'll be happy to give my phone number for a chat. -A

I also called Kings about this recently. I think it took them about 2 weeks, but they did eventually return my call. FYI, they don't accept milk if your baby is over 6 months (unless they are desparate!). -A

You should contact Molly: molly@thenappylady.co.uk. She knows everything about real nappies - which very rarely leak, even at night! -A

Dear Ruth, I just skimmed this very long thread and gleaned from it that you tried co-sleeping, but thrashing was an issue. Just a suggestion, but you might want to try a co-sleeper cot that attaches to the side of your bed. This way, you all have your own "space," but you don't have to get up for the frequent feeding. I've got a cot that one of the sides actually rolls down under the cot and you put the cot next to your bed. You can find them on ebay, Amazon, and most of the baby sites that sell nursury furniture. I should have prefaced this by saying that co-sleeping really works for us and we're lucky to have a baby that doesn't thrash about (although he used to thrash his legs a bit when he was in the process of waking for a feed). However, I just thought I'd let you know about this option in the even that you think it might help you. Wishing you lots of luck! -A

Molly - I think your idea of a "buggy meet" is brilliant! Buying a pram was the thing we spent the most time agonising over, only to be somewhat disappointed with our Fastfold. When I was pregnant I used to actually stop women with prams in the street to ask them if they liked the one they were using! I definitely would have attended a buggy meet! -A

2 suggestions: If you've got any nipple cream around - use that at night before you go to bed. If your hands are really bad, use Flexitol Heel Balm! You should be able to find it at most chemists.

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ESPH on Lordshiph Lanehas a creche, though I've never used it. They have yoga and pilates classes that you can take your baby to, as does Push Studios. I've taken the yoga and pilates classes at ESPH and enjoyed it. -Amanda

I've used this company a few times: http://www.englandtransfers.com/. It's the least expensive one I've found that will supply child seats. They charge ?74 roundtrip for a regular saloon car, but if you ask for a child seat they will often supply a van that has a built in child seat. -A

A quick note regarding travel insurance when flying - I had problems getting coverage when flying at 32 weeks. Egg will cover you regardless of how many weeks pregnant as long as the airline is willing to carry you. I did a lot of searching and this was the most liberal policy I could find. -Amanda