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MrsLL2b Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Jenny you poor thing, you must be exhausted and so > worried which won't be helping your emotional > state. Yes you are right! I spent most of the day whimpering with her! :) The GP looked at me like I was crazy when I was snivelling through her symptoms. Its quite overwhelming having a poorly baby, ive been fortunate that she has always had an ongoing cough/cold etc and nothing of massive significance. My back is crippled under the weight of her as well! only so much rocking and carrying you can do! Thanks everyone, and Fuschia I think you are right...I plan to take her to hospital tomorrow morning if she vomits her morning milk or if there are any issues overnight. I have been going to her every hour or so which does mean that I can monitor her quite well.

Yeah I guess, I'm just afraid of giving her too much and then starting from scratch again with her in such a state. She has kept down 2 days of antibiotics which is really good, whoopeee! The doc today said that the redness in her ears had improved which shows that they are working which is good. So just the vomiting to deal with now, perhaps a case of getting her tummy used to having stuff in it, I wonder if small amounts of porridge etc would be better than larger volumes of liquid, who knows! I worked out that via the 5 min spoon-feeding today she prob had about 450mls of milk, half a yoghurt and about 40ml of rusk/milk/fruit puree mix. Better than yesterday so have to see that as an improvement. Sometimes hard to stay positive on day 5 of illness!

they gave me a bag to collect a sample but it didnt go very well and she pood all over it. I dont feel she is desperately unwell right now in comparison to how she has been but will see how she goes in the morning and if worse then i will take her, feel like ive sought all other advice i can. just really wondering where to go from here with feeding...it seems to be the quantity that makes her vomit so i guesscarry on but a little bit more each time.

HI Just to confirm , we have had 3 appointments with the doc for this particular illness so I am clued up on diagnosis and treatment etc, now looking for some advice. :) 10 month old started vomiting on Thursday morning, thought it was a tummy bug but it hadn't passed by friday, went to the GP who said she could see some redness in her ears but to wait until today to get that looked at again. Said that if baby wasnt keeping down any fluids and had dry nappies to go to A&E on Friday eve. friday afternoon she picked up a little and kept down some Diaralyte which really helped. Still vomiting on saturday and very floppy and lathargic plus rubbing ears and gloopy eyes. By yesterday the eyes were swollen and bruised underneath and still not keeping down fluids. Went to seldoc and was prescribed co-amoxyclav for ear infection and told to give with calpol etc to control pain and fever. Anyway, today we went back to the doctor because 4 days of little or no fluids seems to have really taken its toll on her. very upset, very sleepy, wont move much, dry lips, cold, pasty looking. STILL vomiting! I got quite upset in the surgery as I feel a little desperate. Doctor said nothing else they can do and that my focus is on getting fluids into her as her stomache is irritated so... On doctor's orders I have spent around 6 hours standing holding her and swaying, alternating 5ml spoons of milk, diaralyte in water and yoghurt every 5 minutes. Its sheer hell. She is starving hungry so has cried all day and just stares longingly at the milk, cant really sleep because she is hungry. On the plus side she hasnt vomited so I know she has had around 200ml of fluids today which I couldnt say yesterday. She has picked up a bit as she usually does around this time in the afternoon and I have been able to put her down with some toys to play with. for the last couple of hours I have given her 2 spoons of fluid at each 5 min interval and even upgraded to a little rusk soaked in fruit puree and milk in the hope of making her feel a little more satisfied. I am not sure what to do next though and where to start in the morning after a night of nothing, she will be starving no doubt. Do I just try the same thing or perhaps do 15ml every 5 mins or every 10 mins? How do I get back to being able to give her a bottle feed of milk?? Sorry for the desperate tone, its just so upsetting and hard hearing your hungry baby cry and knowing I can feed her but that she's not well enough to keep it down. Anyone out there has been through this sort of thing? Feels like such a prolongued period of no real feeding, I dont know how to get her better really! Also anyone know anything about ear infections and the effects on the tummy?? Help! :)

I have a teething anklet if you want to borrow it? Requires quite slim ankles!

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Thats very helpful thank you very much!

My daughter slept her best in the moses basket when she had a large blanket rolled up like a sausage around her sides and head. Obviously you dont want to leave a blanket in the basket when the baby is able to unravel it but we found it very effective up until about 3 months. We used a cellular blanket so that if she did manage to work away a little edge she would still have holes to breathe through. We also swaddled and that worked a treat too until about the same age when she became too wriggly! Good luck!

Thanks everyone. Sadly going out the front isn't an option as we dont have access and to be honest I think the fact she is timid means the unknown would probably be terrifying. I had a baby in february and whilst I thought that would upset her it has done the opposite and she is very close to my daughter. Because of this I have been off work for much of this year and have been in the flat and able to scare away the neighbour's cat although it doesn't scare easily and is very confident! The cat used to come into the flat so we changed to a microchip catflap which has helped the anxiety quite a bit. I think the latest issue may be because I'm now in work 2 days a week so not there to protect her so much, the change may have unsettled her. In answer to the other questions - the cat was mainly bought as a mousecatcher and lives outside. It seems hungry most of the time and i don't think it has been neutered which would account for the aggression I guess. Its a big muscular thing as well and has well and truly claimed our garden for it's own as the previous bully cats have all vacated!! We do have another female cat and she is a bit more feisty so doesn't seem so fussed, if only they could gang up together! Isn't it horrid when they get beaten up :( you can't choose your neighbours as they say! Might try the rescue remedy and see how it goes.

My cat is being bullied by the neighbour's cat and as a result has become timid and wont go outside anymore. In the past it's led to over-grooming and a very bald belly and legs. More recently a nasty episode of cystitis and urinary tract infection because she's holding her pee in and not going out. Anyway, long story short...she has just come back from the vet having had various treatment and is doing better but still afraid of outside. Shes got a nice warm place to sleep, a litter tray and ive also got a feliway plug in thing. My question is whether anyone has tried bach rescue remedies for pets and if so is it worth getting?? All advice welcome! Jenny

Another vote for SPD. Def ask to see someone about it and get a referral to the physio as soon as you can, they can definitely help. In the meantime try and keep your legs together as much as possible, swing them around when getting out of a chair or the car for example...that is the first bit of advice they give you, not that easy in every day life I know! As number 2 says there are special belts they can issue that you wear to keep your pelvis in line and stop it from separating. Good luck!

Thanks everyone! She is at an age where she hates being in the carseat and rarely sleeps so journeys are quite horrendous, lots of back arching and pushing legs up against the back of the chair with much crying! I think she is just very uncomfortable because the slope of the maxicosi doesn't work now that she is so into sitting bolt upright. I will read up on those options, thank you! Sadly I do think that she will be popping out of the chair soon enough but frankly she hates being in it so much currently that I wonder if another one might be better...surely the screaming child for hours is more dangerous!? :)

Hi My soon to be 10 month old is quite long and in the next couple of months her head will be poking above the headrest on our maxicosi cabriofix. Looking for some advice about changing carseats for the next stage as im not sure where to start. I had read a couple of things saying to postpone the change for as long as possible as forward facing seats arent as safe. To be honest we don't often drive but it only takes one accident. Anyone got any tips or thoughts? Thanks Jenny

I went to soft play at Brixton leisure centre recently and thought it was brilliant! I think it is on all the time so you can go whenever and for how long. Its ?3. Not sure about parking though its easy to get there on the 37. Mine is 9 months and cannot crawl yet but I took her into the main part and she loved it, I just found it hard lugging her through all the tunnels and up and down the slides! They have ball pools, lots of slides including spiral slide, hall of mirror type thing, loads of other tunnels, nets, bits to climb over and under. Dont know about her but I had a brilliant time!

Second Aveeno stuff, we use the moisturiser but have used the bath oil too.

It was me who said that and I do stand by it, not always at a young age of course but I do still think its important. All I know is that my daughter is happily settled at nursery, is happy with other adults and children, is happy to play with others or on her own and is happy generally. Like most things you need a balance, to feel loved by your cuddly parents and to equally feel happy and free when on your own. I agree that there are ways of doing this and leaving a distressed young baby who needs her mother/father isnt always right but I still think its important at some point to encourage this sense of security. Of course I do not deny her love and affection, my maternal instinct is fiercly strong and every day make sure she laughs and is smothered with kisses but I do consider it my job to teach her things to equip her to engage with the modern world as she grows up, perhaps I have taken this approach earlier than some. Anyway, going off topic. I hope that you find some ideas that are useful rahrahrah as I am sure there are many things you can try. Good luck!!

littleEDfamily Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think there is a very good chance that your baby > now has very negative associations with nighttime > in her cot. Once you have fully investigated the > possible physical causes, I would suggest you try > a whole new nighttime routine - for instance > putting her in your room in a different cot, > considering co-sleeping, rocking her to sleep > etc...you can always reintroduce her cot in a > separate room when the negative association has > been broken (and when you are getting more sleep > and have the strength to try it again). > All very logical advice and makes a lot of sense. Another friend of mine is in the process of going from co-sleeping to cot sleeping and it is all about breaking it down into stages as you have said. i dont think that anyone is trying to normalise leaving a small baby to cry, after all the original poster is trying to find helpful advice and a solution so she doesn't have to do this...

I think its important to remember not to judge on this forum and to consider someone's elses way of doing things different to your way but not necessarily the wrong way. I understand that leaving a baby to cry goes against all natural instincts but once you have looked into the possible needs and ruled them out some consider it worthwhile to look at other options. I love my daughter more than anything and she always comes first, part of my considered approach has been to choose appropriate times to teach her things. One of these things is that she can feel safe, secure and happy on her own whether that is playing or sleeping,I consider that if she is happy in this environment she will grow up to be a child who knows she is loved and knows she can be comforted if she feels unsafe but is also content by herself as there will be times she is! Obviously if she needed comfort and love at night then i would give it to her, if however she was simply struggling to drift back off to sleep (as is the case frequently) I would rather give her the chance to try rather than go to her and have her accustomed to needing me so desperately, there will be times when i am not there and how equally distressing for her to be waiting for me and for me not to come. Obviously people approach things differently. I havent actually taken the same approach as rahrahrah but I wouldnt say it is wrong or that I was shocked, everyone does what they see fit. I would be interested in hearing at what age people teach things like self soothing or feeling secure and comfortable by oneself?

When you say 'crying down' are you leaving her to cry? If so for how long will she cry for without your intervention? Mine learnt to go to sleep on her own but then regressed various times and became keen on crying for us to go in, as soon as we did she would smile and laugh. Obviously i love giving her cuddles and attention but not throughout the night when I wanted to teach her it is sleepy time! Perhaps if you are going in every 30 minutes you are stimulating her? Like Hellosailor says, if she is crying hysterically or crying for a long periods then it would seem there might be another cause. presumably you have looked at teething/wind etc as possible reasons?

Just discovered the soft play at Brixton leisure centre today, was brilliant! I had a great time, let alone the baby!

thats great thank you! very helpful indeed.

Ah ok - thats useful to know, if you find where you read that Id be interested in reading it too. The prob I have is that she doesnt really get tired enough for a nap until around 10am by which point its just a bit too late, I then shift everything else back but it doesnt always work out...but then when does it ever always work! I should add that the nursery were giving her a morning nap at first, when I asked about why she wasnt having it anymore then said they try to put her down but she just wants to be up which I guess isnt surprising considering she is in a room full of playing children. I am also aware that it is easier for them if she doesnt have a morning nap! :) just want to do the right thing for her and have her at her happiest and most rested as much as I can. My gut tells me she still needs it and perhaps I just need to shift things around a bit.

Hi My 9 month old has been at nursery part time for a few weeks and for the last couple of weeks whilst there she has dropped the morning nap. I don't know how they manage but can only presume that they just distract her and keep her busy, apparently she isn't upset and she still eats her lunch well. It means that she has a good lunchtime nap of around 2 hours, she has no afternoon nap and when I get her she is knackered and goes to bed easily and sleeps well. My post is really just getting some opinion on napping at this age. With me she seems to really need the morning nap (lots of eye rubbing etc) and will sleep for about an hour. That said she has stopped getting upset when tired and could probably play through it if that makes sense. The prob is that she usually does this later than she used to as she has more energy in the morning now, it then means that she often has a pretty poor and late lunchtime nap and is then tired in the afternoon but is out of the habit of sleeping so cant drop off and there isnt time to squeeze a nap in. Then she will have a difficult bedtime. I am tempted to try and drop the morning nap when at home (although I am gutted because ive always used that nap to get dressed, have some breakfast and take a deep breath etc!). What sort of naps do other 9 month olds have and do any only have a lunchtime nap, is it enough rest??? Thanks!

Hi No real advice im afraid but in my experience my daughter went from very quickly trying to sit up and flopping over to being able to hold herself up well, probably no more than about a week. I would just sit her with lots of cushions all around her and let her fall and she quickly got the hang of how to balance her weight a bit better and not throw herself around. I don't know how else you can help teach them rather than experience and trial and error...like I said my girl did just start sitting better the more chances I gave her. Good luck!

HI not wanting to harp on like a loon but my daughter has her 2nd tummy bug in 3 weeks and I am wondering whether it will always be like this?? She has been going on and off for 6 weeks or so and so far has pretty much been ill constantly which I expected. My question is whether I can expect this to go on for just the winter...or further!? And from those with experience, can I expect to literally catch everything that she has as well! Obviously I am new to the working mum thing but I have work to do and cant see how I am ever going to get it done if she cant go to nursery and I cant go to work! She is nearly 9 months at the moment FYI Jenny