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???? Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I thought this was going to be "a fella wandered > into a pub" type joke :( Me too! This is a bad one: A guy walks into a bar and sees a horse tending bar, apron and all, wiping out a glass. He stares at the horse for a minute without saying a word. The horse returns the stare and breaks the silence by asking, "Hey buddy, what's the matter? You can't believe that a horse can tend bar?" "No", the guys says, "I can't believe that the ferret sold the place."

steveo Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > The grocers with the post office next to > Sainsbury's is next on the list Is that definite or supposition?Be sad if it goes - try to support them rather than Sainsburys when I'm up there. They have a wide range of goods in there and have always been really friendly. H

I accept that people are busy with the local elections, but the 1 million pound(?) project for the park is down in the London Party local election leaflet that came round so it would be nice to know a little bit more.

Longshanks Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Is there still opportunity to have an input into > this. Renata? Or as someone said, view some > plans/proposals? Can I second this! When I spoke to whoever was on a stall outside Peckham Rye Park cafe - I think someone from the Council and one of the consultants(?) - they said they were just completing something to put up on the web for people to see. This was quite some time ago (4-6 weeks?) Surely there's something for people to comment on by now?

Hi there - I can empathise here. Its hard for kids when this happens. You probably do this but does she go to any other of her friend's houses for playdates? Could you invite some of her friends/a few you know she really gets on with really well round to yours and build up friendships that way with less of the 'pressure' a party can bring? Also not that it makes it easier but I bet that she is not the only one this happens to - there will be others feeling/experiencing the same. Good luck. Would love to know ow you get on... HP

Damn - read the thread thinking it might be linked to the SOHO one. Never mind. holloway Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i love the french house in soho, cidre breton is > one of my top ciders albeit to the disgust of my > west country mates. this new gaff on the lane is > bound to be a bar though??

As someone else has already said - better rail links from Peckham Rye - so closer to Peckham Rye Park good if you're not set on Dulwich Park. I'm biased but personally I much prefer Peckham Rye Park/Common. Re: primaries - there is also of course the new Harris on Lordship Lane near Goodrich and Heber and St Anthonys Catholic.

goldilocks Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Not sure what the comment 'Goodrich and Heber seem > better than Goose Green' are based on really. > Ofsted? Personal experience? Historically it was > the case, it doesn't seem to be any more. I > wouldn't discount the area around the station > based on hearsay Agree. Don't go on just OfSTED or other people's opinions. Go and look at the schools yourself. You might find the one you prefer/think would suit your child best isn't the one you expected! HP

What a shame. Got a VAX a fair few years ago because it does carpet cleaning as well. Its been brilliant!

Hi there srisky - I'd heard the same. I'm hoping it will happen for us, but we have health issues within the family that will certainly make it challenging and perhaps, for us, sadly unattainable. I hope you get your wish. HP srisky Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > We are also contemplating adopting for number 3 > (in the distant future) I feel lucky to have > experienced pregnancy & child birth and I don't > feel the desire to do it again even though two > children doesn't quite feel enough. My children > are loved beyond measure and feel sad to think > that there are children that feel unwanted. It's > just awful. BUT I imagine it's very very difficult > to bring up an adopted child when your biological > children are young (I think minimum age gap is 3y) > as they can't be treated as an equal but need > special dispensation, attention, rules relaxed and > this may upset your own children. unless you adopt > a baby who won't have any 'issues' but they are > relatively few and may have older siblings.

Sorry - I have no relevant experience to add, but notices that this has recieved a lot of views and no post. Hoping that someone PM's you with useful advice/support! HP

redjam Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Lochie, not sure I agree with the Polly Toynbee > comment. I have two and am very happy with two - > I've always known that was all I wanted. Much as I > love my kids, I also love getting my life back a > bit now they're older, having a (relatively) > peaceful and tidy(ish) house, having enough money > to go on nice holidays and a decent social and > work life of my own. Obviously you can have all > those things with three or more, but it's harder. > I have quite a low chaos tolerance level so I was > very happy to get out of that exhausting, > topsy-turvy baby stage and back to my 'real > life'. > > Clearly no one is going to come on here and say > they regret having three. Once you've got them, > you love them - that's nature. But I'm interested > that no one has brought up the ethical > implications of having three or more. I feel bad > enough about the waste generated by our > four-person household and the thought of all the > extra food and STUFF needed by another small human > being is enough to put me off the idea on its > own. > > I do realise I'm probably going to get shot down > in flames by all the three-kid parents on here for > raising this! But I wonder if it's something that > people ever think about when they consider having > three or more? Um - I guess I sort of skirted on this with my 'have two, adopt another' wish. Part of that is a recognition that personally, I struggle with the ethics of having more than 2. If I was to live up to my words here - and its about resource use for me, then I'd be back to being vegan too and I'm failing miserably on that. Also - adoption has been a wish of mine for a long time. I know I could love any child - mine or adopted and there are just so many out there that need a home. I don't necessarily feel the need to be the biological mother - just to give someone who needs the love and care a home. HP

my plan was to have two - which I have - and then adopt. Sadly the adopt part is yet to be ... I live in hope.

Anyone remember the bouncy Stonehenge a couple of years ago at CP Park (and elsewhere). Was BRILLIANT for kids and adults alike...

Were they like that all day then? Got there near the end and giving the benefit of the doubt put it down to them having had a 'full on' day. CP Park guy always lovely though!

Went past the cricketers today. Soft ball. Passed quite close by with my two kids and they very politely waited a few moments to bowl when we'd gone far enough past the wicket. They're interestingly bowling right down the 'cut through' - suppose its because the grass is shorter there?? Anyway - they weren't causing any problems and looked they were having a lot of fun. Almost wanted to join in. HP

Can't someone take it to a vets? They can check for microchip etc...

Carbonara Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Forgewood. I'll second Foregewood. Really lovely.

Saila Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I have a son exactly like yours, I fell pregnant > with boy 2 (sex determind early on due to CVS). > Booked straight onto the raising boys course > (which btw is highly critical of the book!) > > I found it super helpful but now that son 2 has > arrived, I've been surprised by the difference in > him w/out using any tricks from the RB course. He > runs up to me wanting to read books, whereas son 1 > thinks everything is 'boring' if it's not climbing > or running. > > So I think it's a lot to do w personality. > > Son 1 walked at 7 months, legging it around by 1 > year. Son 2 only just starting to walk at > 1.5yrs... It's been a dream this time round! > > It'll just take more patience and prob more hands > on help/tutoring to support your more active > son... > > Ps my sister has 4x kids and her girl is like my > son 1. So it's not just a girl/boy thing, but > personality. She literally can't sit still :/ This is all so true! Yes, I'd forgotten that they distance themselves from the book and rightly so. I guess until you have a second child its hard to realise just how different they all are! H

Help-Ma-Boab Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > They are NOT using a cricket ball. I was behind > the wicket and the ball came to rest at my feet so > I retrieved it for them. It's a fairly light white > rubber ball, spongy really. These guys are well > fielding and I can see in no way how folks cannot > slightly adjust their route around them. > > I'm all for these guys. Well done HMB for being 'on the ball' ha ha ... Not a cricket ball - doesn't sound so dangerous then...

titch juicy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Could we keep the cricket going and make the ball > a little harder so that m&?:ns like Lee that are > too lazy to walk round, get hit and hurt due to > their own stupidity and pigheadedness Hang on - I've got a bit of sympathy here. The path across is well-established enough to be almost 'official'. Particularly useful for those with wheels - buggies,ETA: CYCLISTS, SCOOTERS, as well as those not watching the sky for cricket balls as they trawl along the path etc. Maybe the cricketers should try and keep the play away from there - there's plenty of space after all. Does their play have to cross the path? HP

Penguin68 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > If you do want to opt out, a suitable form (which > allows you also to attach details for family > dependents if minors) can be found here:- > > https://medconfidential.org/how-to-opt-out/ > > There is also some more information on this site. > I believe the problem is not the intent (which is > to present aggregated data to allow research to be > undertaken not just on hospital admissions - which > is already up and running - but on GP issues as > well) - but on the fact that despite assurances it > would be possible, with only a litte data mining, > to identify patients even where apparently > anonymised information has been presented - and > the government's (by which I mean any > government's, I am not making a party political > point here) inability to run things as expected > and promised. There have been too many inadvertent > and incompetant data breaches made by civil and > other public servants - let alone those data > breaches which were intentional and corrupt. The > value of individual health information if you are > an insurance company, wanting to write risk > against known events, not probability, will become > too attractive to avoid corrupt offers of access, > particualrly if you fear your rivals have already > got such access. > > Whether NHS officials will take any account of > expressed patient desire for opt-out is of course > another moot point. Thanks for posting Penguin68! Been looking for the form! HP

HI there - sounds normal to me too. There's a great 'Raising Boys' course at Rosendale Children's Centre - worth going on if you can get a place. If he's concentrating on something else then he may not be 'hearing' you. Try just touching him lightly on the shoulder - when you get eye contact - even for a split second - then you know he's listening to you... Also apparently boys hearing - i.e. actually what they take in can vary from ear to ear and day to day (sounds bizarre - but got this from the Raising Boys course). Re: 'do things well' - I guess his definition of this and a parents and whether it is 'necessary' or important to him might be different?? Go with your gut instinct as well though - Health Visitor visit good advice.

first mate Wrote: --Toddlers do need special > spaces to play but should the emphasis be more on > engaging with the natural world and less on > plastic, metal and other artificial structures? > > What about a maze, some special trees and logs > which kids can climb over, a tree house, a secret > garden? I don't understand why a wondeful outdoor > space has to 'built' on to make it suitable for > use. Great ideas first mate! This would benefit everyone - not 'just' kids'... HP

Ah - what great idea for a thread! For me and my kids today its the lovely lady who runs 'Kids Club' at the Brixton Picturehouse on a Saturday morning (I know, I know, not quite in ED). She is always cheery, has only kind and uplifting comments to make, is full of enthusiasm and joy and makes our trip there! HP