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Has anyone taken their child for a chicken pox vaccine? Know where we can go to get it done? I know its something we would need to pay for and do privately.

http://www.eastdulwichforum.co.uk/forum/read.php?29,787823,788466#msg-788466. Does this work? If not the post was called : back to work, please tell me it will be ok?

Absolutely get all the information - but also don't be too worried by it. As a previous poster said it is common and the fact is old properties move around. The chances are if it's stood for 130 - 140 years which is possibly the age of this property it will stand for another good while. Biggest thing to think about is whether the problems are in any way on going and whether it could cause you difficulty when you go to sell. My understanding was that once a property was underpinned it was much less likely to have problems in future - but the issue of land slip subsidence raised by benmorg in the above post obviously suggests its more complex than that. I assume you are having a full building survey done? You should get good advice from your surveyor on how to proceed. You may find you can pick up the existing insurance on the house - we did this when buying our property. I think it's likely your monthly insurance premium will be higher when you do tis though?

My son is a few months off two - and suddenly the terrible twos are starting - he has started throwing little strops when taken away from something he is interested in and gets really cross when told to sit down rather than risking life and limb standing in high chair. He has half an hour of tv in the morning and has started imperiously demanding it - i told him this morning he had to say please (which he does about halfthe time but not very consistently)- he flatly refused! We battled for a while and eventually i gave in because i had to leave for work. Now im kicking myself - I should have stuck to my guns - but i also wonder if expecting him to say please and thank you is setting myself up for failure...is he too young to focus on that? What have you experienced mums found are priorities? Part of me feels things like please and thank you are important to instill very early and really i just should have refused to let him have what he wanted - but the other part thinks he would have just moved onto something else and not really understood he was being 'punished' and maybe i shouldnt have set myself up to fail? Maybe save the lessons on please and thank you for times when i have longer and hes in a better mood?

Ooh someone who knows about folkestone ! Im really interested in folkestone - do you live there now helena? Whats it like? Is there lots to do? Does it feel reasonably cosmopolitan?

My understanding of the permitted development rules is that an outbuilding /garage etc falls within permitted development if below 2.5 m height. I live on a corner plot and want to build a small storage building to the side of th house - it would not be visible to the street as it would sit behind an existing brick wall (and be shorter than 2.5m). I'm sure if it were detached permission wouldnt be needed but I wonder if it is needed if I create a door opening through the side of the house so we can walk through from house into the storage space? It wouldn't have any drains etc - but would want to put in lighting. I'm not sure when an outbuilding becomes an extension? I assume I would need building regs for it - but obviously that's a separate matter. Anyone a wiz on understanding southward planning rules? I had a bad experience with the worlds rudest planner in the past and I had bad advice when I went to the one stop shop...so slightly wary of even raising it w planning office if I dont need to?

My nephew went through something similar - is she talking yet? For him it was connected to being a late talker and frustration at having complex thoughts he couldnt articulate. His parents found that limiting the amount of time at nursery helped a lot - they worked out a way to drop off late and pick up early (wasnt easy for them and may not be possible for your daughter). She may be finding it very stressful being atound other children? Perhaps at 2 she just needs a bit more one on one time w adults than time w other children? A lot easier said than done though!

I am in a major quandry! We have been offered a few mornings a week at a nursery and i cant decide whether to take it up. Im worried if i dont accept i will lose the place - but we have an au pair who my son is very happy with and so dont need to send him yet to nursery. It would be good to have him established in a nursery by june when the au pair leaves - but obviously that does give plenty of time still (of i can get another place). Quite a big issue is the cost - as we dont need the childcare its added expense - but bigger issue is whether it would be good for my son to start in sept. he will be 2 in october so part of me thinks he is still young and getting more out of adult relationships at the moment than needing to play with other kids (and he does a lot of playgroup type activity and plays well with others already). But by the time he's 2 will he need the stimulation of a more structured environment with lots of activities? He is a sociable child and i think would adjust to nursery - just cant decide whether he needs it just yet...i wonder what experences people have in terms of when their kids started nursery and what their experiences were? need to decide by today - so difficult - i keep changing my mind!!

Thank you!

This is a long shot but i wonder if anyone has an underactive thryoid and found a really good nutitionist/ specialist who has helped them? If so could you pm me? Id lile to find someone who specialises in helping people who are on medication for thyroid problems to lose weight / reduce medication etc

Just back from hythe (near Folkestone on Kent coast)- really recommend - pretty town with good beach and best of all a mini railway which you can take along the coast - perfect day out for toddler. There is also a safari park just outside and lots of lovely country pubs just inland. Folkestone was a pleasant surprise too we got a babysitter and splashed out on a night at rocksalt - trendy restaurant on seafront. Great atmosphere and amazing views. Great thing is that it is all about 1 hours drive from east dulwich! So easy!! We stayed in a b and b - but think there are lots of options including holiday flats/ self catering - which might work well?

I wonder if you clever ww pros could help me with a couple of questions :our work canteen does a hot meal everyday which I sometimes will have - (replacing the carb - rice, potato etc - with salad) - so it might be something like a chicken breast in tomato sauce or a beef curry... How would you track that kind of thing when you aren't exactly sure of the quantity or how it's been made? Or if you eat some sainsburys tortellini but the pro points tracker only lists Asda tortellini do you just use that (as an aside does ww have some sort of deal w tescos and Asda - seems to have more of their food than sainsburys) ? I have discovered pret a manger lists all nutritional details on their website and so have added a couple of things I eat regularly into the propoints calculator - but I'm struggling when I don't have the nutritional info. Also why do you think it is that you need to eat all your points? Is it to do with your body going into starvation mode if you eat too little? But would that really be true from one week to the next? I could understand if you undereat for months - but does the body react that quickly?

Took my 19 month old to dr the other day as he'd been poorly (temperature, not eating etc) and then woke up with a funny rash. The dr has taken a swab to check for scarlet fever and we'll find out in a few days - in the mean time dr has prescribed antibiotics in case it is scarlet fever. Wasnt too worried as he has been pretty chipper throughout and is no longer feverish and had started eating again after being off his food... But since he started the antibiotics yesterday he has been grumpy and sleepy and was off his food again this evening. We are struggling to get the antibiotics down him in the right quantities as he keeps spitting it out - but I wondered if anyone has experience of children being a bit out of sorts after starting the antibiotics? We are going to keep trying to get the antibiotics down him of course in case it is scarlet fever - but would be reassuring to know of any others experience. Will also give the gp a ring in the morning but would be great to know if anyone has experience of this. He isnt running a temperature and has been quite full of beans today and ate lunch well - but was very tired at the end of the day and grumpy all day - didnt seem himself. He was sleeping badly over the weekend - so maybe he just needs a lot of sleep to help him recover?

I wonder if anyone has a child at the mother goose on upland road - we have just been offered a place which I'm minded to take - having really liked the atmosphere at the nursery when we went to see it. But that was some time ago and I wanted to try and see if anyone had first-hand experience. My little boy would be almost 2 when he starts...

If its a church of england baptism you want start by checking which is your parish church - depends where you live. If you want to have a christening at your parish church you just need to contact the church and they will let you know what dates available - think its usual to show your face a few times - but the vicar will come and have a chat w you too to get to know you a bit. if you want to use a church outside your parish you need to attend regularly for 6 months I think? the church of st clements on Friern rd ( access also on Barry rd) has the most lovely vicar, poppy, at the moment - she is really great - so if this is your local church you are v lucky! St johns on goose green also has a very nice vicar - both really nice churches with active congregations.

What is the difference between diamorphine and pethidine? Does diamorphine have a different impact?

I sometimes think there is such a cult of childhood these days - where we are supposed to see children as the centre of our lives - that it may be leaving women feeling unnecessarily guilty that they don't love every moment of taking care of children. Obviously there are some people for whom this isn't true - but I certainly find that after an hour or two of pushing a car around on the floor or lifting my toddler on and off a slide - I am getting pretty bored! I try and remember that it doesnt mean i dont love him enough! Helps me to think women even a generation ago wouldn't have been nearly as child focused as we are - think the 70s were certainly more laisez fair (- or maybe it was just my parents!!) And before that we would have been so busy trying to cope without washing machines and other labour saving devices- we wouldn't have had nearly as much time to focus all day every day on them. I say take a morning off once a week if at all financially possible - do something for you - or if thats not an option get your husband to have an evening at home and do an evening course in something you've always wanted to do. Also - Taking care of small children is definitely harder work than being at work - make sure your husband understands that and gives you some time off on the weekend. I wonder too whether mums who stay at home feel they can't complain because they are grateful to their husbands for making it possible - but then feel the deal is : 'you work' 'I'm at home w kids'. Even if they could afford to they feel they can't put the baby in nursery for a morning a week and have time to themselves because it's not part of the deal. I am back at work and tho don't absolutely love my job I do enjoy being in work and having a bit of a break from toddlering. I didn't even realise how much I missed the work banter and I was surprised at how much more 'me' I felt when I went back. It's a culture shock having a baby - Give yourself a break and don't feel guilty about it.

Have you tried hythe? On the coast and they have a steam train that runs along the coast to romney marshes - i have a weekend booked in june to go down to hythe so i dont have personal experience yet - but it sounds like a good weekend break? Theres also a safari park nearby i think?

We also have a lovely Spanish au pair - send me a pm with the details for your au pair - we can put them in touch with each other

Just weighing in to say I too am flummoxed by discipline at this age - my son has the wickedest look in his eye - and I'm sure we've made it worse cause he often makes us laugh when doing something wrong! But I have absolutely no idea how to discipline things like standing up in his highchair which he does all the time - usually it is a signal that he doesn't want to eat - but difficult to just let him get down when he's injested only 2 mouthfuls of a carefully prepared meal. Can't really ignore because it's dangerous and we're worried he'll fall? 'No' seems to illicit zero response from him - he just says 'no no' very solemnly back to me... The tantrums are mild and only just beginning - he does a hilarious foot stamp which does just make us laugh - and then he tends to snap out of it and laugh too - I find turning him upside down works a treat too - always makes him giggle and forget what he was cross about (but I fear this won't last ... There's bound to be more difficult tantrums ahead!)

Ive got quite a lot of tree cuttings and bits of garden waste to get rid of - not sure ive got space to burn it or that it would be safe to do so. It wont all fit in brown bin - if i bag it up will they take it away w my brown bin waste? Does it need to be in special bags?

Me too lovely spanish girl - please pm with contact details. She has just found out about some lessons not too far away - she has the details

Although pretty strongly the opposite end of the spectrum from gina in terms of controlled crying etc - I have always disliked the dismissal of gina as being unable to offer advice because she isnt a parent herself - it feels a bit clubby to me - you arent part of our mums club therefore we dont have to listen to you. But i do think its pretty rich to be advising people about having sex when you have no experience of those first months after birth. As the blogger alludes to - the assumption that your husband is gagging for it and your frigidly withholding is such a cliche and so outside my persHonal experience and that of my friends. I think it is very interesting to read about how gina ford came to her views and it is hugely influenced by a mother who was left by her father early on. As far as i can see - Gina's view is that if more people spent time on their relationship - the child would benefit by having parents who remain together. This feels like simple good sense to me - and there is a lot to be said for fighting the urge to make your baby the only focus of your life. But i think she completely underestimates / misunderstands the sort of men who are fathers today. They are up in the night wih us, they are slightly traumatised by witnessing a birth and they are completely overwhelmed with love for their baby too. Seems to me this is an unhelpful addition to the vogue for polarising the experiences of men and women.

I've got a new au pair who would like to do English lessons when she arrives - ideally on weekends or evenings - I think there was something about lessons at the mag - anyone know anything about that - or anywhere else?

I have a spanish au pair arriving next week - she would also love to meet some people. I think there is a regular gathering for au pairs on sunday at cafe nero maybe? My previous au pair went a few times - think maybe they arrange via the east dulwich au Pair facebook page?