just to update the thread (i'm missus fry :)) we have decided to book in here http://www.adrianhoteles.com/en/roca-nivaria/ a child friendly hotel in Tenerife, mainly because the flight is only 4.5 hours and because they accept younger children in the kids club - a lot of places we looked at would not accept under 4s... jollymummy, that place looks really perfect though, will definitely take a look for our next trip! thanks for all the tip offs, v helpful