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Kings is great. Not posh or anything but they have a nice suite if you want to go intervention-free, then great facilities if god forbid anything went wrong. Strong midwife team. Don?t know anyone who has used a private midwife. If you want a home birth you can just ask on the nhs and they?ll provide a midwife to assist in the homebirth. There are specialist teams on the nhs.

Ps: i?ve also found that there are horrible, rude, obnoxious people in all walks of life - comp and private. Raise your kids well and they?ll (probably) turn into decent humans. Your choice of school won?t make the difference either way.

I went to a comprehensive and bloody hated it. As an academic kid in an inner city school i was bullied horribly and miserable every day. It was only when i went to uni and met people who had been to private schools that i realised not every child?s experience is the same. The thing about a forum like this is people are generally pretty happy with how they educate their kids, it?s something they think hard about and stand behind their choices, so i don?t think you?ll get much balance on here - you?ll get people who chose private and think that?s best, and people who chose comp and think that?s the best. What i will add to the mix is this: as an adult if i split my mates / colleagues / acquaintances etc into 2 camps, those who liked and those who hated school, there is a much bigger contingent who liked / loved school who went to private. We could talk about why that may be, but it?s certainly the case amongst the people i?ve encountered in my life. Not 100%, and definitely not a total correlation with academic achievement. But a definite trend.

Amazing on DK Hill!

Deduct it yourself from the last month?s payment. Deposits are supposed to cover you in the event you leave without notice. Given you have provided 8 weeks? notice, they can?t keep the deposit too. Don?t ask their permission, just do it. If they disagree they can take you to the small claims court. This will cost them a lot of money to do, and they would probably lose. This would not be a criminal matter. Good luck and all the best for your daughter.

That's a shame. Maybe she was having a bad day. Maybe someone close to her died or her partner cheated on her or she's feeling sad for another reason.

My kids are at DUCKS and loads of their mates live in different parts of London. It's not a problem. There are quite highly sought after schools around here so kids come from all over. I assume JAGS will be the same but at this age there aren't many after school playdates anyway as the kids are little and shattered at the end of the day. As for parties, I don't think the other parents will check your address before inviting your daughter :-) You aren't asking about the length of the commute so I won't comment, except to say that many families do long commutes for school and I'm sure you have this in mind and can work it out.

If there was forensics I guess there was a crime, ie: not attempted suicide but attempted murder? *shudder*

Jolly Foreseters at Bessemer Grange on Saturdays is wonderful for this age: http://jollyforesters.com/ Or if you don't mind travelling on a saturday, there is something called 'mud club' on clapham common which is also a lot of fun.

fishbiscuits Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > RoundTable Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > I know of people who grumble of kids in > playground > > but who they themselves took advantage of low > > flight prices to travel abroad. So go figure. > > Nobody likes a hypocrite, but that doesn't change > my point. The general point is everyone wants to think it's other people causing the spread. People without kids point the finger at those with kids using playgrounds or childcare. People with kids point the finger at those without, but who chose to go abroad. People who wear masks point at those without. Those who go without but whilst observing social distancing point the finger at those who wear masks and don't distance. It's exhausting. Apart from a handful of blatant violators (hello lockdown party-goers), the vast majority of people people really are doing their best.

Mops Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- If you have > any ideas of how we can get him the help you > suggest without putting him at risk or getting him > in trouble I?m all ears though! It?s a difficult > one. Yes I know who it is and he's spoken to me a number of times. Might sound totally obvious but I was just... nice to him? And avoided him when he's off on one? Just trying to understand for whatever reason he doesn't see the world the same way others do and is often very upset and frightened for reasons which aren't obvious to the rest of us. I understand the desire of people to protect the community from someone who seems a threat, but we are all of us far more likely to be harmed in an accident, or by someone we know than by someone who is mentally ill. And a mentally ill person is far, far more likely to be themselves the victim of violence than the perpetrator.

Completely horrendous. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

My boys (3 and 5) have loved jolly foresters when they've done it. Only partial days(9.30 - 2) so not an amazing childcare solution but loads of fun. I almost feel I shouldn't spread the word as they sell out so quickly :-) http://jollyforesters.com/holiday-clubs/

"people who actually live here...." Loving the implication that it's hoardes of outsiders descending on North Cross Road each week and not just residents of the road and surrounding streets grabbing a bite to eat, in the open air. It's only open for a few hours and isn't even the full street, shouldn't be too hard to avoid for those concerned.

I think Leonie Penna is still the consultant (or a consultant) at Kings, and is one of the top obstetricians in the country. Incidentally she also saved my life when i was in labour :-) The rooms and wards at Kings are not especially salubrious but i guess that?s par for the course on the nhs. You can pay for a private room if they have any rooms spare if you need to stay. Oh and i had a baby in the ICU there which is also great. When he started to improve they let him sleep in a cot in my hospital room so i could feed him, and just brought him up to icu every few hours for meds and checkups etc. Really accommodating.

:?-( vigilant for someone who is mentally ill and (most of the time) harmless. The world is a sad place. The guy needs help. I bet if he had the treatment he clearly needs he?d be a lovely man.

SpringTime Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- Rather odd that 7pm is > kick off time... even with current situation > affecting our daily schedules. Not odd at all. Small kids get more hyper when they're tired.

I would turn this around to you and say: what do you suggest they do? If they put the kid to bed at 7 and he keeps getting up and running around and making noise, short of chaining him up, there really isn't anything they can do. One of my children particularly in the summer months is exactly the same - every night 3 hours plus of screaming, yelling, banging. We have tried everything. Apps, sleep training, locking his door, weighted blankets, calpol, everything. I would pay any money for a solution but I can't find one short of literally binding and gagging him which is illegal, so thus every evening is a horror show of chasing him down and back to bed. Truly, before I had kids I would have been totally with you. And a lot of parents who have kids who respond to being told what to do will also be with you. But in my experience some kids just do things their own way, and it's tough for everyone around them, parents and neighbours included. So that's what they can do. What can you do? Soundproofing? Move? Wait it out? Offer to pay for a sleep trainer to help the kid go to bed? All genuine suggestions. Good luck. But realistically with summer round the corner, it may well get worse before it gets better. I'm not unsympathetic, far from it. It's my life every day so I know how awful it is. Just trying to be realistic in that you can only control those things you can control which is basically your own property. Even going to the landlord or the council or any other body is unlikely to change the kid's behaviour as believe me when I say, those parents are incentivised to get their kid to bed early. They WANT him to be quiet and sleep. Believe me from the bottom of my heart as a parent when I say that.

Ps: i would come too to provender!

Hello I was hoping i could find a gardener with a trade card who would be up for a saturday trip to provender nurseries to do a spring shop of plants to get for my garden. Would obviously pay for your time. There will also be the work to do the planting and a general spring tidy up, though the provender trip is the main thing (otherwise there will be nothing to plant :-) ) Anyone with a van too would be amazing! Thanks xx

Under the rules it wouldn?t be allowed as we?re supposed to stay local for exercise. However if i was in a very at risk group i think i would prefer to drive to some more deserted / open spaces and steer clear of the public spaces in southeast london which are rammed at present

@Luciak, most families do 2 weeks (10 days) the nanny chooses, 2 weeks (10 days) the family chooses, one week (5 days) by joint consensus (usually christmas). The other 0.6 weeks is bank holidays and those are when they fall.

When we had a nanny we used to plan together / in advance, as husband and I get 5 weeks' holiday off each year so when she was off we would need to take our holiday then (whether or not we went away), otherwise we wouldn't have enough leave to cover childcare. That was understood by all parties so even though her contract said a month's notice, we'd all plan together throughout the year so that when she was off (totally her choice when) we would book time off and possibly book a holiday ourselves. We'd also let her know when we were planning to be away the same so she could book a trip if she wanted. This way everything was mutual and we were all equally invested in planning. It sounds like your interaction with your nanny is lacking in some goodwill on her behalf. No one wants to be 'that employer' but at the same time, if someone is being unreasonable in their dealings with you, I think it's OK to call that out. I'm not sure how you can force the issue other than saying, that's how you want to manage things moving forwards so you can plan your year, your childcare and how much annual leave you have accordingly. Of course the challenge is that if you want to go away in school holidays and she doesn't then she can still force the issue by choosing holidays in term time, and that can't be solved for. I don't think you are being unreasonable in wanting to jointly plan better, and no, it's not reasonable for her to book two weeks and then want an extra two on top, that's not fair.

Maybe the dog had just done a poo so she knew it wouldn't do another one? Clearly it's not cool to bring a dog into a playground but perhaps there were circumstances we are all unaware of x